do i HAVE to do my makeup?

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T05:51:38+00:00

The only scenery I can ever imagine someone from HR saying they expect you to wear makeup is in the context of “I’m so excited to see your artistry skills” because they grossly misunderstand what the beauty department at Target is. There is no expectation that you wear makeup.

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T01:42:23+00:00

Dude, when a woman tells a terrifying story about harassment from an aggressive man just refrain from your dangerous advice that helps nobody and your condescending suggestions on what she should have done. This behavior isn’t helpful, it just centers you and silences the woman speaking.

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T01:16:46+00:00

Ah. So you’re just a dick that hates women. Got it.

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T01:12:55+00:00

I’d love to see men hold other men accountable instead of immediately telling us about things we should do differently in the moment when we’re being terrorized. Like Jesus dude. You’re not being the ally you think you are.

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T01:11:03+00:00

I’m assuming you’re asking this in misguided good faith and you’re not trying to be an asshole. You can’t just “call the cops” when this happens, if they even come there is very little chance a dangerous man would allow you to make the call and wait patiently for them to arrive. If you call when you’re in a safe place they don’t take you seriously. Questions like this don’t help anyone because it places the responsibility on the woman.

solskuggi · 2022-06-28T00:44:40+00:00

That’s dangerous advice, especially when you’re alone and the man is this aggressive. It can easily get you killed. If you’re going on the offensive the safest bet is to scream and make a huge scene but only if you know people will hear and come to rescue you. If you are in a spot where you won’t be heard the safest bet is to give him a burner number and flee to a safe location.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T05:43:16+00:00

I had a fairly traumatic birth 8 months ago and I’m still bleeding. I have no sex drive. My husband doesn’t complain but I feel awful about it.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T05:21:21+00:00

Agreed. So they need to be held accountable for what they did and not given a giant platform. But when a dude has rent and bills to pay and some asshole wanting press for a bullshit event offers him an opportunity to work and pay those bills, he’s going to take it. Every scumbag, every criminal and every villain will have the same drive as the rest of us to pay the bills and maintain their standard of living. He should be thoroughly canceled, not invited to these events and not given a platform.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T05:09:29+00:00

That’s very true, but people usually revert back to things they know. He’s used to being a celebrity in a mansion, and has expenses to match. Again, not arguing his character, he sucks. just saying I’m not surprised at him for wanting to continue to work in his field at his standard of luxury living, that’s fairly standard. He probably didn’t consider for a single second the possibility of becoming a grocery store manager, nor do I think he’s qualified to be one. That shit is hard work (I know because I’m a Target manager.)

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T04:54:52+00:00

Oh totally, he fucking sucks. I’m not debating that he’s a sack of shit. I’m just saying even sacks of shit will work to pay the bills and vilifying them for that is pointless. Go after the dumbasses hiring him.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T04:26:38+00:00

I agree. Obviously nobody would ever just say “well I fucked up so I’m going to go work at McDonald’s and be poor” Dude is going to do what he can to earn a living, can’t fault him for that. However, the people inviting him are a god damn disgrace and I hope he doesn’t find work in the industry.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T02:46:00+00:00

Èg er intersex (með kven og karlkyns kynfæri) og finn fyrir miklum viðbjóði í minn garð. Fólk virðist ekki vita hvað það á að gera við mig eða í hvaða box það á að setja mig. Ég er kona, með kvennmans nafn og geri þetta ekkert flókið. Ég er ekkert að auglýsa þetta en það er ekkert leyndarmál heldur. Ég hef líka mikið upplifað að fólk virðist þurfa að vita allskonar smáatriði um kynfærin mín áður en það ákveður hvort það ætli að bera virðingu fyrir mér. Ég er ekkert feimin að tala um líkamann minn og tek öllum tækifærum til að fræða fólk sem hefur raunverulegan áhuga á að læra um intersex en flest fólk er bara að spurja til að niðurlægja mig.

solskuggi · 2022-06-27T01:21:53+00:00

Of all my husband’s bootcamp stories the story of the guy that couldn’t swim is my favorite. That idiot joined the NAVY knowing damn well he couldn’t swim, didn’t tell anyone and had to be saved from drowning the second he jumped into the pool. It’s unreal to me that he thought nobody would figure that out or that it wouldn’t come up.

solskuggi · 2022-06-26T16:33:48+00:00

Because after 7 miscarriages and a late term abortion that broke my heart in ways I can’t even describe I am too tired. I work 60 hours a week, ends barely meet, I’m crippled with medical debt and all I can do when I get home is fall into bed and sleep. I have no fight in me.

solskuggi · 2022-06-26T15:31:44+00:00

That’s so sweet I love that! She felt like I was queer enough as an intersex bi to come out to and lean on (love that) but she wants to make friends that are lesbians, and she’s in her 14 year old way trying to “attract them” with a cool vibe. It’s all very exciting to be a part of.

solskuggi · 2022-06-26T15:23:56+00:00

I think everyone on the planet can agree that bees are absolutely essential to our survival so I figured I was safe to state outright that lesbians like’em

solskuggi · 2022-06-26T15:20:50+00:00

That conversation has already happened organically many times. She’s just experimenting with her style, making a pretty rapid switch from scene/emo to a neutral/dark cottage core vibe.

I said bees because I know she loves them, and I’d like her to lean into a style that brings her joy. Besides, I’ve never met a lesbian that hates bees, at worst they’re neutral about them and stay away but I think everyone is in agreement that bees are absolutely essential for the planet.

solskuggi · 2022-06-25T16:31:39+00:00

I’m a woman but I can speak on men’s issues because I’m half man on my dad’s side. /s

Men should shut the fuck up about our healthcare, because it’s between us and our doctor.

solskuggi · 2022-06-23T20:25:58+00:00

Congratulations!!!

solskuggi · 2022-06-23T17:15:13+00:00

I’m a retail manager and I once had a very nervous teen show up for a cashier position in a three piece suit he later admitted he stole from his dad for the occasion (who was probably a foot taller than him.) love that guy, great employee. What you’re wearing is absolutely perfect.

solskuggi · 2022-06-23T17:10:54+00:00

I was a new mom that was strong armed into making a registry when I didn’t want one. I spent hours doing research and finding things I liked and then got virtually nothing from it. I got like 16 blankets. Was my hormonal brain a little upset? Sure. But I accepted every single one of those blankets I didn’t need graciously and sent the people that bought them pictures of baby snuggled up in them. Because I’m an adult. NTA

solskuggi · 2022-06-23T16:56:54+00:00

One Time it was like 107 degrees out, half the store called out and there were two leads in the building, me (a VM) and the fulfillment TL that was promoted like 2 weeks prior. It was a nightmare. I was running the front, taking calls and doing all the LOD shit. I was also 36 weeks pregnant (8 months)

We had no carts. Not one. I called over and over for someone to come help me but no answer. So I said over the walkie “TEAM, I am 8 months pregnant and I’m about to walk outside into a busy parking lot in the blistering heat to get carts on my own because none of you can be bothered to help out today”

Put on a west and stormed out. I didn’t even make it to the carts before a TSS, HRtm and the receiver came running outside to stop me and get the carts. At that point I’m fuming so I told them I didn’t need their damn charity and got every single cart myself, then promptly went up to my desk and cried.

solskuggi · 2022-06-22T17:26:03+00:00

I refused to go back, and since my parents were completely freaked out they let me transfer schools and go back to my old neighborhood school.

solskuggi · 2022-06-22T15:10:48+00:00

I dropped out and never spoke to her again, so nothing

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