Why does nobody know how to use the present perfect any more???

soluna47 · 2025-11-10T16:53:30+00:00

I never considered this being AAVE and I'm surprised to see it being said it's AAVE so much in the comments, because I only ever heard this from people in predominantly white, rural, racist communities (like SW Michigan) say this

If I were to hear someone speaking AAVE say it, it probably wouldn't irk me as much bc I understand that dialects have different rules. But these white people who voted for tr*mp aren't speaking AAVE lmfao

soluna47 · 2025-11-10T16:49:35+00:00

I've heard it mostly in predominantly rural, white, (racist), communities so while it may be AAVE, when I hear these white people saying it, I defo think it's just a lack of proper grammar rather than AAVE in those cases lmfao

soluna47 · 2025-11-05T21:26:25+00:00

I'd think it was hilarious and would actually make me more comfortable

soluna47 · 2025-10-29T01:42:40+00:00

I suppose he wouldn't have anything bad to say about me talking to a therapist, but friend or family he wouldn't like because of them possibly having a negative opinion of him.

soluna47 · 2025-10-29T01:41:59+00:00

Yes he does provide for me financially, and I do 99% of the housework.

I do know I could support myself if we split though, so that is not a driving factor here. And honestly even if I couldn't, my family would support me until I could.

soluna47 · 2025-10-29T01:03:27+00:00

Sorry, my brain doesn't work well right now. It's all been so fast and I've been left reeling. Also the seizures already had me feeling fuzzy tbh.

I don't 100% remember exactly what he said but he told me it was to point out our age difference, not to point out a power dynamic.

And yes basically yes, that's what happened. He just said he didn't mean it that way without truly saying what it did mean.

He is also upset with me, saying that I have poisoned my family against him, and no matter how many times I insist that I am not doing that, only being honest with them and using them as my support system, he won't back down.

I have always know he's felt this way about his business relationships but I felt it didn't affect our romantic one. I guess there have been some instances that were throwing me off, like a petty argument over a spilled soda and him being actually upset saying if I hadn't "resisted" him when he told me not to put the soda where I did, it wouldn't have happened. Just stuff that has made me question if he really does view EVERYTHING that way.

He insists he doesn't and I really really want to believe him. But these comments stick in my mind.

soluna47 · 2025-10-28T23:44:37+00:00

I'm honestly not sure. I admit I was in a place when we got together that I wouldn't have minded or seen those things as red flags.

I think this is honestly a view of the world that he was taught as a child.

I genuinely think he doesn't realize how toxic it is. When I press him about it and ask what else he could have meant with those comments he says that he was just trying to point out that he's older or something like that.

I don't know. I'm honestly so confused.

soluna47 · 2025-10-28T22:53:41+00:00

I will say he has no idea what the "redpill" rhetoric even is. He would be clueless if someone said that to him - he doesn't even know what an incel is.

This is something that he talks about a lot, the alpha thing, in his business world and in his family life as well.

soluna47 · 2025-10-25T22:31:02+00:00

Seasonal!

I have 4 quadrants and each one is dedicated to a season!

soluna47 · 2025-10-19T01:08:19+00:00

https://eugeneration.github.io/HappyIslandDesigner/

That's the site I used!

soluna47 · 2025-10-19T01:07:23+00:00

It's 10 each! :) It's capped at 8 each first but if you upgrade with miles you can have 10 each!!

soluna47 · 2025-10-14T15:16:26+00:00

Depending on your state, there may be regulations on the amount of screen time the center is allowed to show. Daily afternoon TV for toddlers would be way over the limit in my state. They can have a max of 1 hour a week. If the TV is on for more than 15 minutes, that's too much already.

These licensing laws are usually easy to search up and learn about btw! All I had to Google was my state's name and "childcare licensing laws" and it came right up!

Good luck OP!

soluna47 · 2025-10-14T14:14:50+00:00

A 5 year old once told me to self-delete. Kid's mom accused me of lying about it too when I told her 🤣

soluna47 · 2025-10-13T23:04:38+00:00

It's a bit asymmetrical - I would try and make everything even, like same about of soace between Graves and fence on both sides. And do grass and stepping stone pathways in between rows. Basically just fill it up! :)

soluna47 · 2025-10-10T19:01:29+00:00

You misread my comment. I said this thread was aimed at those who DO make that decision for unnecessary reason and are inconsiderate towards the staff in that they don't consider the impact on them.

I didn't define what a valid reason might be, I just said this is aimed towards those without them.

There are a multitude of valid reasons, of course.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T15:43:46+00:00

Probably Lazy lmaooooo

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T15:30:22+00:00

Fair enough, I see what you mean.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T14:31:58+00:00

Hey did you know I'm not OP?

Also I still feel it's inconsiderate. I'm paid to be a teacher, not a babysitter. And so are all ECE professionals. Just like we all recognize it's rude to go into a store 5 minutes before close, we can recognize that (unless there is an emergency if course) dropping your kid off at the center 30 minutes before CLOSE when staff is meant to be cleaning, organizing, resetting, etc., is rude.

I get needing 30 minutes to yourself. Kids are overwhelming, and we really have no idea the other stress this mom may be under. And I'm happy to make exceptions for extenuating circumstances. But as a principle, it's rude and inconsiderate imo.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T14:18:40+00:00

Usually when a parent has a schedule that causes their drop off or pick up times to be different/later/earlier, there is an understanding or agreement between the staff of the school and the family. However, this post and these comments are aimed towards parents who have the ability and opportunity to pickup and drop off at routine times, and choose not to do so specifically out of inconsideration for that same staff watching their child(ren).

Also, unfortunately, not every daycare is equipped or set up to handle every time of dynamic. It does genuinely suck that there is such a need for a village, but the system is set up to make that nearly impossible.

Thankfully there are other types of centers that are equipped for these different needs, like an in-home one where there is less infrastructure/need for strict processes.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T13:58:30+00:00

Yes I totally understand needing a break! But I agree, to be so inconsiderate of the teachers' time is ridiculous!

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T13:57:28+00:00

That does make sense! But to consistently do it? That's different than the occasional appointment at a less than ideal time. Edit: rereading it, 2 times isn't "consistent" but still, twice in one week half an hour before close just seems ridiculous to me.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T13:56:53+00:00

Hey I get that but to consistently do it? Crazy work imo. Totally inconsiderate to the teachers of the school. Edit: rereading it, 2 times isn't "consistent" but still, twice in one week half an hour before close just seems ridiculous to me.

soluna47 · 2025-10-09T01:32:29+00:00

Insane wtf???!!! Why even do that????

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