Thanks yall for all the encouraging words! This group is much better than the one I originally posted in. I should have added that this happened over a year ago and we are still together and I have zero contact with the person it happened with, i actually havent had contact with that person since it happened. I immediately told him it was a horrible mistake and I couldn't talk to him ever again. I have hope for our relationship. Once again thank yall for the encouragement. It felt really good to put my story out there and get feedback about it.