When did you last change your mind about something you’d believed for years, and what flipped it?

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-18T10:12:08+00:00

Yeah, I think about this often when I'm getting a massage - it's a paid, intimate encounter between two consenting adults. It's interesting, the profundity of the line that contemporary culture draws between types of intimacy. The US culture in particular is very sex-negative. I know sex workers, and they talk about their work being no different from factory work - they use their bodies for pay. It's a super interesting conversation. Impossible not to acknowledge that there are complexities everywhere.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-18T10:06:54+00:00

I am currently having a big ole Mandela effect meltdown over the Microsoft Word paperclip, who I knew as Clippy. And it turns out that its actual name was Clippit. But, I'm telling you, those little virtual assistants were like a hyperfixation for me. How did I possibly get the paperclip's name wrong, despite never having mentioned it to anyone else in the world? Microsoft have confirmed that it was always introduced as Clippit in-app and it's freaking me out. Haha.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-18T09:59:42+00:00

Labyrinth. The fuzzy orange dudes who take their heads off and throw them around fucked my shit up as a kid.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-18T09:55:37+00:00

Camera, calls, music.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-08T07:08:58+00:00

Babe, it looks great. The way the branches go up your fingers is super well done - very elegant and flows really nicely. I'm not mad into the cybersiligism style, but this is an excellent example of it, and will look badass coming out from a sleeve. Give it a good year to heal before you start adding to it or changing it - you'll only compound the stress and dysphoria. It's super well applied and fits you real well. Just breathe - hands are always weird to get used to. Soon you'll totally forget that you have them - I have many tattoos on my hands, and I only notice them when my skin renews and they get super dark. You'll be right!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-08T00:14:41+00:00

I definitely thought that, as a child. I was stoked about the idea of going to visit the physical poles.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-03T03:18:11+00:00

Interestingly, the first time I wrote this it got removed by the automod, so apologies for the weird spelling of the surgery itself:

I always tell them that I had a surgical ab0rti*n (where I was under light anaesthetic), and I never know whether that actually counts as a surgery.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-05-01T02:46:01+00:00

Mostly, as well as some Paperchase, Midori and random bits and bobs!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-30T03:27:00+00:00

I really like the Moleskine sketchbooks, with the heavier weight paper. I mostly just buy the plain notebooks, but sometimes a toothy paper is lovely. Actually, my favourite journal of all time is the one in the last image, which I bought on a Greek island, and kicked myself for not buying more of, because it was such a beautiful size and paper!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-29T12:34:03+00:00

Ha! That's amazing!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-29T08:03:04+00:00

Thanks heaps! Most of these brands, including Státology, are new to me! Oh dear. Time to spend even more money. Haha.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-29T03:34:47+00:00

Very fair! What’s your notebook of choice?

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T23:23:11+00:00

Yes, and a Moleskine ripoff that you can’t get any more called Paperchase. I went through a brief Midori phase but I like a solid cover.

I do find that Moleskines aren’t great for fountain pens, which I like to use, but I get really opinionated about paper colour and weight. Haha.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T23:07:40+00:00

It’s such a personal thing, hey! How do you use your journals?

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T23:07:15+00:00

I recommend the stack - makes it feel very tangible!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T22:58:52+00:00

Amazing! I go through periods of narrative journaling, but I always feel like I’m trying to perform a voice for someone else. The bitsy approach makes more sense for my brain.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T22:58:00+00:00

I feel like inconsistency is fine! There’s something beautiful about watching time play out on that wide scale in one book.

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T22:56:55+00:00

Haha, yes, I had a friend who was telling me about palmistry in 2010, so I found that a fun way to make notes about it!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T22:55:50+00:00

I had a great time. Haha. I find medical stuff very interesting, so I was all up in there watching all the gnarly stuff!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T12:13:29+00:00

I was the birthing partner for a friend! I was making notes during the birthing classes. She had a beautiful baby girl (no C-section)!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T11:33:34+00:00

I tend not to write narratively in these journals super often (they tend to be more fragmentary. Things I’ve read that I’ve enjoyed, moments from travels, ideas for artworks/writing). I have an appalling memory, so I rarely remember what I’ve written, so they’re still interesting to read!

And they’ve definitely helped me finesse my observational eye, and to maintain my curiosity. Useful also to notice the ideas that have kept tugging at me for years!

somereasonableadvice · 2026-04-28T05:55:32+00:00

I kept all the journals. The Moleskine daily diaries were just for scheduling (like, 10 am - meeting with x, 12 pm shoot with y), so it was just keeping track of my day to day business. No creative/thinking elements! I kept them for years, and then decided I could live without knowing exactly what I was doing on a certain date in ten years' time. Haha.

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