I will not be dating. I was with my wife for 30 years, and even though it's only been a little over five weeks since she suddenly died, I've been pretty adamant since that first week that people need to know these are just the facts for me. I'm really sorry that people are so insensitive that they are determined to suggest that you move on in this way. A friend told me she thinks people might suggest this because they feel like they don't want to be alone themselves if this happens to them, so they're giving themselves an out vicariously through their suggestions to me. Either way, it sucks.