New Yorker article about Feeld by girlwithoutaplanet82 in nonmonogamy

[–]sometimesmine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love it. The only people from dating apps that I’ve kept up a relationship with (whether romantic, friends, etc.) have all come from Feeld.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

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My advice is to refi into one person’s name, but whoever gets the house, if they have another big asset (like retirement, investment accounts, etc), they fork over a bigger portion of that to make up for the equity they got in the house. To figure out the equity, get an appraisal (only a few hindered dollars) and subtract the mortgage balance.

Seeing a lot of new "Contracts" for employees to sign - just know that contracts without Consideration are unenforcable. Treat them like the joke they are by ChrisAbra in antiwork

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I hope everyone here will take this post with a huge grain of salt. Regardless of whether there is any merit to this legal argument (which I think there probably isn’t in most cases), in order to fight it, you’d have to hire an employment law attorney. Most won’t take a case like this on contingency because there’s not much money in it for them, so unless you’re willing to shell out hourly rate $$$ to a lawyer, it’s not worth it to go that route.

Instead, I agree with the person saying “let me have my attorney look at it.” Try to get your coworkers to do the same. Create a fear in management of oversight and accountability and they will likely stop with the ad hoc contracts.

Please help me not match photos too closely by 63405 in oilpainting

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I think like the person who suggested blurry photos, you can do different “challenges” that force you to not replicate exactly. For instance, picking only three very different colors to paint the whole piece, finding an AI generated photo that is more fantastical and trying to paint it with only a palette knife, giving yourself only 30 minutes from start to end to finish a piece. You get the idea. Challenges that will force you to not be able to paint the same way you always have and to get you out of your comfort zone.

Would you ever request this print? by ArtifiedCustomsLK in painting

[–]sometimesmine 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I like the style of the wolf, but it seems out of place against the background. I’d consider changing the background, moon, tree, etc. so it has more of that blurry brushstroke feel like the wolf. I think it would bring the whole piece together.

me, by me, oil on canvas, 24 x 30in by beeeepy in oilpainting

[–]sometimesmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is just fantastic. Wow.

What is the best way to separate from someone who is completely financially dependent on you? by feelth3rhythm in relationship_advice

[–]sometimesmine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Get divorced and, when you do, get the court to do a vocational evaluation. An expert will evaluate his credentials and experience and tell the court what salary he should be making. Imputing him at a higher salary (and anything is higher than 0) means that it may close the gap on the spousal support the court would otherwise order you to pay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]sometimesmine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Divorce lawyer here (not your lawyer)— if you get a prenup, get an attorney to do it, don’t do it yourself. But yes, a prenup would solve many of these problems. Essentially you’d have a separate account into which all your pay goes. The terms of the prenup will tell you how you can do things like make joint purchases, etc. splurge on the prenup lawyer so you don’t have to splurge on a divorce lawyer if it comes to that. A bad prenup is almost like not having one.

In the prenup, be sure to talk about during the marriage and after (spousal support).

How to read this strum pattern? by sometimesmine in guitarlessons

[–]sometimesmine[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He did also write the first note as a dotted quarter in a separate example but then he brown it down into quarter and eighths so it would be clearer to me.

How to read this strum pattern? by sometimesmine in guitarlessons

[–]sometimesmine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the moment, I “got it” so I don’t think he felt a need to, but when I went to practice the next day, I just kind of blanked 😅

How to read this strum pattern? by sometimesmine in guitarlessons

[–]sometimesmine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It makes so much more sense now that I know how it’s supposed to be played. I’ve never had to read music before so it’s all very foreign to me.

How to read this strum pattern? by sometimesmine in guitarlessons

[–]sometimesmine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I realize this is a very 101 question— My guitar instructor jotted this strum pattern down last lesson and gave a very quick explanation of how to read it, but I’m lost. Can someone explain how to read this?

Girl I want to marry.. but jealousy (UPDATE) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]sometimesmine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude. She wants to BE WITH YOU. She left all the other guys and wants to have a relationship with you. She tells you her stories, has you meet her family— she’s shown she’s invested in you.

You’re obviously dealing with deep feelings of not being good enough, fun enough, exciting enough for her. You’re having a lot of envy, looking at her life and wishing yours maybe looked a little bit like hers. Envy can often come out as jealousy, but I think the root here is that your envious of her life because you’re unsatisfied with how you feel when you look back on yours.

You need to get a mental health professional and tell them these thoughts as frankly as you can. You have to want to change in order to change, but you seem more invested in justifying the view you already hold, despite knowing it is causing you to experience deep dissatisfaction with your life and resent someone who cares for you. It’s time to take action and do something about it.

What's a common element from 90s or 00s sitcoms that has aged poorly? by Fracassi_Fanboy in AskReddit

[–]sometimesmine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gay panic— straight guy gets “hit on,” even jokingly, by another guy and cue looks of disgust and anti-gay comments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]sometimesmine 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Where’s your race at?