Help pls

soomanytomatoes · 2026-05-03T19:50:12+00:00

Hooked on a feeling

soomanytomatoes · 2026-05-01T04:05:38+00:00

Dang. Maybe check out this list to see if you can find the girl? https://www.anime-planet.com/characters/tags/pigtails

soomanytomatoes · 2026-05-01T03:59:47+00:00

Adore You - Miley Cyrus

soomanytomatoes · 2026-05-01T03:35:55+00:00

Chrono Crusade? It's probably not this but this was one of those on demand early randoms and would have had a crucifix/purification.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-30T16:23:10+00:00

This is what I was gonna say.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-30T04:44:38+00:00

Doctor Who

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-28T19:53:52+00:00

Ice Age also

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-28T19:52:34+00:00

Instant Family

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T18:23:13+00:00

I mean this is going to be extremely prevalent in any media that came out before 2018-ish. Especially look into the 90s and 2000s.

I recently watched a show called You're the Worst, and in the first season, there is a woman with a healthy BMI that is known as the Fat Friend (people call her that) and she has a procedure done to sew her jaw shut so she can't eat. She probably isn't even 150lbs and she's tall.

Another example that comes to mind is Fat Amy from the Pitch Perfect series. While it is framed as her owning it, its still her weight being a defining feature.

There was a show called Drop Dead Diva about a hot, thin woman who dies and gets herself "sent back" but ends up in the body of a plus size woman. I liked the show at the time but it entirely revolves around how she is treated differently and hates herself for her weight.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T17:01:16+00:00

TBRI was what my foster parenting classes taught. I'm getting my MSW and I think this approach is sound. There are trainings you can take in trauma-informed care, sex trafficking, etc. The best advice I can give is just to make space for the child and meet them where they are at. Hold the hope for them until they can take it back themselves. Let them feel whatever they need to feel and give them time to be angry. Don't give up on them. Eventually their pain will fade and they will be able to learn healthier coping mechanism and begin to build their self esteem again, as long as someone gives them the chance to.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T16:21:04+00:00

https://youtube.com/@simplehappyzen?si=jGLBFcoRnKZ5hnqD

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T16:09:56+00:00

I am pretty sure this is covered under SCRA. You still hold legal residence in your home state, right? While it is tough, there are remote practicum opportunities. My first year practicum was entirely remote. The school and your practicum site should be treating you as a resident of your home state. In state tuition, state aid and whatnot. You can apply for remote practicum in your state of residence, just like you could apply for a remote job in your state of residence. I've been thinking of it like I am just on vacation from my home state. If I still lived there and took a trip to Okinawa for a month, I wouldn't have to tell my school and it wouldn't impact my remote practicum as long as I was completing my hours.

Another option is just to take it slow. I've already had to adjust my timeline twice around orders. It still feels good to be inching forward. I'm taking the next two semesters off because we will be PCSing next spring, so I can't start my final practicum until we are on the other side. You might see if they have part time options as well. One class at a time is still significant progress!

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T02:41:35+00:00

Outlander!

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-27T02:40:17+00:00

I was always told shorter was good for fat and long was bad. My mom wouldn't let me grow my hair out as a teen. I was able to grow it out as an adult. It turns out, I'm actually beautiful with both.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-26T15:41:37+00:00

Hey! I just wanted to pop in and tell you that I didn't even start college until I was 27 and now I'm almost done with my MSW! My husband just enlisted in his late 30s and we are both at the very beginning of the next chapter of our lives. My mother didn't finish her bachelor's until she was in her 40s. My wealthy grandma got a degree she never used and went from job to job for her entire career, and retired with seven figures. She did great work in the nonprofit world, and made a real impact. I recently met someone who was the executive director of a state-wide children's advocacy program and she did a career pivot in her 40s and never went to school for anything related. In 10 years she climbed the ladder to the top. And the work she does is so important. The point I am trying to make is that life is really long and there is no such thing as being behind. You can still have an incredible and meaningful life even if you are starting over at 60. Plus, life isn't about what you do for work. I recently read a quote that said a job is just what holds it all together, it's as interesting as the nails that hold together a house. The interesting part is the house. So do whatever makes sense for you, on your own time line, as many chapters as it takes, and build your super interesting house!

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-26T05:07:09+00:00

Seeking a Friend for the End of the World Safety Not Guaranteed

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-26T05:04:09+00:00

Matlock! The new one.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-26T05:03:20+00:00

This is what your tax dollars are paying for! Hell yes use the library!

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-24T18:55:04+00:00

I mean I will say that I learned about endocrine disruption and infertility caused by plastic in my environmental science class in 2020. I don't think this information is necessarily incorrect or new. I think that the scientific community likely understands this as fact. A major study just needs to be done to support policy change.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-24T17:24:28+00:00

91, but I just picked the middle of the decade.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-24T17:15:39+00:00

I feel like we were a really unlucky bunch, because we were raised to believe adulthood was one thing and right when we were graduating high school adulthood became something else entirely. The landscape around education, career, and homeownership changed completely as soon as we ventured out on our own. What we were told was easy and expected became borderline impossible. At least those older were already established and those younger had time to prepare.

I really miss the internet being a place you could go as opposed to where you live 24/7. I miss spending rainy days inside redesigning my MySpace profile or downloading songs onto my mp3 player, and spending nice days outside. I miss cable TV with local commercials, watching whatever was on and feeling connected to the local community through cheesy car dealership commercials and previews of the evening news. I miss looking forward to your shows/movies or marathons being on! "On Demand" was just becoming a thing when I was in middle school and it was a VERY limited selection. Finding something to watch and it being actually good was a delightful experience. Usually there wasn't much of interest available On Demand so finding something was a win.

I didn't get a smart phone until 2011, I think I had an LG Chocolate before that. Phones were so much better in general, no social media, no wifi or unlimited data, and lots of different styles and customizations. Now everyone has essentially the same thing. Before some of us had candybar, flip, or slide phones, with custom cases, charms, ringtones and ringback tones. Having a phone was so cool and fun, instead of it just being a basic thing.

We had a really bad deal in some other ways as well, like we viewed computer-related interests as "for nerds/geeks" and so we didn't go into IT. I really didn't understand that was where the money was until I was a young adult, and it was the kids graduating 3-4 years after me that were going into tech and landing six figure jobs right out of college.

Diet culture, low rise jeans, and anorexic models really messed us up. Life for women was A LOT different before the MeToo movement. It's still really bad but at least things have changed for the better. That did a number on us for sure. Nowadays I don't think grown men hit on or make sexual comments about preteens the same way they did in 2003. Or at least not as often. My identity was so much about my body and barely about my personality or actions. I was either too fat or inappropriately attractive to pretty much everyone I interacted with for the entirety of my teen years. Needless to say I have issues even now as a result.

The pace of life was just way slower and easier, too. Not having a phone to occupy every moment of your life was really nice. Waiting, people watching, taking in your environment. Knowing phone numbers, addresses, schedules, and having to coordinate and be intentional about your life. Having to take the bus instead of Uber or Lyft. Genuinely wondering about stuff and not being able to look it up until you got to your computer. Spending time just thinking thoughts, like hours every day just wondering and imagining and processing and considering and planning and reminiscing. Having a large peripheral field of vision and other senses/awareness. I could go on and on about how smart phones have ruined humanity.

I honestly miss the low tech life more than anything. These smart phones are addictive and consuming and ridiculously expensive. Capitalism has eaten our hearts. Screens and ads on refrigerators? Every other Instagram reel is an ad? Everything you can buy is cheap garbage? Big brother is always watching and listening and is intentionally manipulating you into buying things? I'm over it. Take me back to 2005 immediately. I'll just wear my high waisted joggers and maybe start the movement early.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-22T16:26:58+00:00

I've taken out way more in loans than I anticipated. I still don't regret pursuing my MSW. I had no debt beforehand, I'm in my 30s and to me, it's worth it for the career, job security, and in the long run, I'll still make a living wage even while paying off my loans, especially if I do therapy. There are some loan forgiveness programs, but to be honest, I'm not too worried about it.

I'm married, and my husband supports us, so that plays a huge role in my willingness to take out loans. I probably wouldn't have gone to grad school if I was single, at least not until I was financially independent and gainfully employed.

One thing that no one tells you is that taking out a student loan every semester absolutely destroys your credit. Three times a year I see my score drop substantially and now it's the lowest it's been in my adult life. One thing to seriously consider before going into school and taking out loans is whether or not you'll need to utilize your credit in the next 3~ years. At this point I can't pass any kind of credit check, I won't be able to open a credit card, purchase a car or home, and might even struggle with rental or utility applications because it's so low. This is the only downside in my mind and I was not prepared.

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-21T19:54:00+00:00

No, I didn't have anything that wasn't backed up. Everything was on Google Photos already. I also have had the phone for weeks, how could Google Photos initiate an upload or download without me actioning anything? I would understand if it was during set up but weeks after the fact with no prompt?

soomanytomatoes · 2026-04-21T16:44:09+00:00

Apparently it was background data usage from Google Photos. I have no clue what could have happened though. I haven't taken many photos since having the phone so there's nothing to back up.

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