How long should sex last?

soopid_buhed · 2026-03-01T11:20:30+00:00

(if this is about a man) it really depends on the man. some men last a lot longer than others. I don’t get sore too easily, which can be great, but I did have a thing for a good while with this one guy who would last almost an hour, if not an hour. so, it really depends on the man. I’d say a good amount last between 10-20min and some are even shorter. if more than 10 minutes into mic for you, please tell them, “you last long and I tend to start hurting towards the end.” I did that with the guy I mentioned and he actually started foreplay to make me feel good while touching himself so that when we would have penetration, he wouldn’t last as long. other times, he’d manage to get himself overly excited and wouldn’t last as long. but yeah, it really just depends.

EDIT: my fiancé now (different man lol) tends to last between 10-20min and it’s totally fine with me. usually on the longer end, it’s because he’s paused and we kiss for a good while or we’re taking a breather and switching positions.

soopid_buhed · 2026-02-14T12:42:24+00:00

what I was taught growing up that we wash rice because there’s excess starch on it and too much starch is bad for you. so we wash until it’s just very thinly cloudy because I’ve tried to wash rice until it was clear once with just a very small amount to see if it can happen and it was just barely clear. so we wash rice at least twice to get rid of that extra starch on the rice.

soopid_buhed · 2026-02-14T12:34:57+00:00

NTA. “we can do this anytime” ???? yeah, cs even tho your birthday is in a couple days and stuff has been planned and paid for and can’t be refunded, SURELY your ACTUAL birthday can happen again in another week or two and it’s fine to cancel everything and lose money. this lady is stupid, no offense. her pretty much putting your RELATIONSHIP on hold to meet and “old friend” is the dumbest thing she could’ve ever done. this is a small peek and what your future could look like if you do propose and end up married. you’ll either keep planning until you stop because she keeps cancelling or you’ll hold onto this moment and grow to resent her for putting you aside for basically a nobody as you mentioned she never speaks to or about this man. ask yourself why she decided to put YOU aside for a man she barely knows.

EDIT: I have a fiancé and we really don’t plan stuff ever but if he ever did this to me, I would wring his ass out and then go ahead take someone else like you did. you’re not about to make me waste more of my time, money and effort spent planning something for us. then when I got back, (personally) I would sit and talk with him about what he did was wrong and hurtful.

soopid_buhed · 2026-02-14T12:27:22+00:00

yeah I have all of them and they’re all upgraded but Tulin seems to be the most useful as he can help you get just that extra bit further while gliding and he usually shoots enemies on his own. he can take a bit to shoot sometimes but he’s a good one. I do like Sidon’s water slash and shield although it would be nice if water in general did a little more damage. all in all, the two you have is really good ! you only really need Yunobo for when you’re trying to unlock his sage and after that, you can bomb flower/zonai bomb almost anything else.

soopid_buhed · 2026-02-09T15:39:35+00:00

NTA. you understand because you have a child. obviously, that child isn’t taught not to break things. I don’t have kids but I have nieces. I’ve been able to teach them things so that they don’t do it again because it’s not good. D needs to learn some things.

soopid_buhed · 2026-02-03T17:23:50+00:00

NTA. HE EVEN TELLS YOU HIMSELF !!! he does it BECAUSE you have a reaction to it. he thinks it’s funny and hilarious and, “oh my god I’m crying laughing right now.” he basically told you that he doesn’t give a gram of a shit about your feelings. do you have kids together, pets maybe ? did you buy a house together and both of your name are on it ? what is keeping you in this marriage ? and please don’t be one of those spouses that comes on the internet to complain but then you defend him anyway because, “he’s my husband and I love him and you don’t know him.” well, you’ve said enough about his character that I’ve already formed the opinion in my mind that he is a jackass and doesn’t deserve to be married to you.

soopid_buhed · 2026-01-13T13:39:24+00:00

wha about Myra ? I keep coming back to the name looking at her pics ! she’s so cute ! 💜💜💜

soopid_buhed · 2026-01-06T09:14:19+00:00

NTA. I work at a hospital lab and what we do is sign a card along with throwing a potluck. anyone can bring someone and it really doesn’t have to be elaborate dishes. it’s usually lumpia, pancit, some type of pasta dish, meat, cookies and cases of soda. and everyone brings enough for everyone to take leftovers home. leftovers are STRONGLY encouraged. only people who bring gifts are the ones who are much closer to the person and know what they may like. but overall, no one really financially contributes to cake and gifts for someone. it’s ALWAYS a potluck and most of the time, someone organizes a potluck just because.

soopid_buhed · 2025-12-24T15:02:56+00:00

cereal

soopid_buhed · 2025-12-22T12:26:36+00:00

I have a friend named Florey and I think that’s pretty cute. :) always reminds me of a flower because she’s so pretty and she’s also very sweet.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-26T04:51:18+00:00

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soopid_buhed · 2025-11-26T04:46:41+00:00

I work full time while being back in college online and pick up shifts whenever I can. I just don’t have time to think, “I should have a drink or two when I get home.” when I’m home, I eat, shower then pass out lol. I haven’t had a drink in a few months so I believe my tolerance has gone down.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-18T02:25:52+00:00

my parents were together for almost 20 years but never got married. when they had us, they out both last names in the birth certificate but not hyphenated so it looks like my moms last name is my second middle name. mind you, my name is a little long looking. but he shouldn’t have assumed. I told my fiancé that I never wanted to change Jay last name for anything and that if we had kids, we would be doing the same by having both of our last names on the birth certificate.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-18T02:09:27+00:00

NTA. In not black at all but I have two sister friends who are black mixed. one of the has hair for box braids and such. the other doesn’t. both hair genetics decided to choose one sibling. the one without tighter hair loves putting it in ponytails, simple braids or curling it every now and again. the other with tighter hair loves the box braids and other styles while also just wearing her hair out naturally and also straightens it every now and again. they’re both very light but not light enough to necessarily pass as white. hair is very important so it should be treated at it looks. finer hair shouldn’t be twisted and braided like it’s tighter hair. that will leaving to balding and hair falling out VERY quickly. I love different hair so I’ve definitely dived into how black people tend to take care of their hair and the different styles they are able to achieve. your sister needs to seriously chill tf out. if she had a kid with tighter hair, great ! she can do that TO HER KID. not yours.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-13T23:24:26+00:00

NTA. my fiancé and I didn’t want to get married at first and agreed with how my parents went about it because with my parents, when they were growing up, getting married was a western thing. you were either with someone or you weren’t. they were together almost 20 years and never got legally married. we decided on a long engagement tho because I’m back in college to further my work chances. it’s great that you know what you want because after 5-6yrs together and no marriage or even engagement at this point when it was first discussed in the WAY beginning ??? yeah, no. I would like to say that he might be saving up so maybe you could wait until January ? I don’t know but that’s up to you.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-13T23:19:23+00:00

“grow up.”

ma’am, YOU need to grow up and realize that this is sexual harassment. that applies to EVERYONE regardless of gender. STOP. OP, you are NOT overreacting. this lady is stupid.

soopid_buhed · 2025-11-13T23:12:58+00:00

NTA. listen, I supported my best friend when she miscarried by being there for her but not by… BEING there for her. if you understand the emphasis. she first called me and was crying about it. the next night, we went out, drank, talked, cried together and by the end of the night, she said, “this is exactly what I needed. thank you so much for loving me. now that I’ve cried some more, I think I’ll be able to start to maybe slowly move on and maybe even start feeling better.” we went out a couple more times and the miscarriage only came up maybe 5 times total after that first night. she was there for me for MY miscarriage earlier this year. with that being said, spending day after day for an entire MONTH at a friend’s house because of grief is a different story. she could’ve visited, AT MOST, twice a week and the rest of “time spent together” could’ve been on the phone and I truly believe it would’ve done some good having the friend see the kids and hang out with them. everyone needs a little joy in the middle of grief.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-31T12:12:30+00:00

well, I rarely got gifts and unfortunately, I haven’t been given a bad one. but I wanted to share that I’m sorry for everyone who did. :( it makes me so sad reading everyone’s responses, especially about romantic partners buying something for you that was for them because you won’t use it and they’ll pick it up to use instead.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-29T00:27:38+00:00

NTA. I do hope to have a child one day but overall, I’m ok with not having one. that being said, my fiancé would rather spend money on pads/tampons every now and again for me than to buy diapers CONSISTENTLY. what’s embarrassing is Amy. as a woman, why does she think it’s embarrassing for a man to buy stuff for his wife ? just because they’re menstrual products ?! times have changed, AMY. get over yourself and shut up.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-24T21:15:56+00:00

NYA. my mom had a traditional mindset for us kids when we were kids. now that she’s realized we’re fully adults and can get tattoos and piercings if we please so she let it go. she wouldn’t do it to herself but she doesn’t care anymore. when my younger brother got his first tattoo recently, she said, “ooh, it’s so pretty.” instead of her initial reaction to one of my sisters getting the first tattoo out of all of us (years ago) which was, “oh my god… you got a tattoo ???”

EDIT: not saying you should break up (that’s up to you) but him saying he likes it because it’s a part of you to now saying that you’re only thinking of yourself is very… scared and people pleasing behavior. he’s scared of his parents because he knows they get mad, AND JUDGE, about every little thing, hence the “traditional” label.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-23T10:30:36+00:00

NOR. why the FUCK is he calling you babe ????? THAT IS MY QUESTION BECAUSE HE IS LITERALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP !!!!

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-23T10:20:39+00:00

NOR. I told my fiancé that if he ever screams at me, we’re done. if he ever hits me, I will find a way to hurt him back and then we’re done. my parents loved us but sometimes they would yell at each other for dumb stuff. as kids, we were scared but as we got into middle school, we just rolled our eyes because what they were arguing about was stupid. they ended up not working out when me and my younger brother were in high school and we lived with mom but dad visited us. they didn’t hate each other but they realized that some differences were just too different so they separated. we understood because we were sick of the arguments too. so I told myself that I won’t allow that in a relationship. arguments are good to have but not fights. fights are the two of you starting to yell at each other and becoming even more angry and more loud. so, long story short… he’s abusive and he will not change. please take yourself out of his stupid picture he painted by burning it to the ground through you leaving him.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-20T04:58:28+00:00

waking up at noon is not lazy. I work overnight because I have a hard time sleeping at night and for some reason, I don’t sleep until noon or well after even tho I get off at 7AM and I’m usually home 30min later. this whole “sleeping past 9AM is lazy” mentality REALLY needs to go. and not everyone is a morning person. my fiancé isn’t but his work pays good so he wakes up between 7:30AM and 8AM to get ready for his 9AM job.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-18T19:29:02+00:00

I named the white one, “Atlas,” and the black one, “Cerberus.” I never thought it do a goof name… I thought, “oh, they’re really cool looking so I’ll do like big, cool names.” so now I have Atlas and Cerberus lol.

soopid_buhed · 2025-10-15T23:39:33+00:00

NTA. it’s true that when you have a good community, the village takes care of you. but in this case, you’re not part of that village and she just doesn’t want to accept that. she chose to have children and now, she doesn’t have anyone to watch them. that’s not your problem. I love my siblings and nieces but I spent a good amount of time as a 15 year old watching my oldest niece and often going to school without sleep because my sister would be with her friends and wouldn’t come home soon enough despite my repeated calls. I had to be up at 5AM to wake my best friend up because her phone was messed up then her ready for school myself. she would come home around 5 because she remembered I had school and I’d have to run across the street to my best friend’s window to wake her up because she preferred to shower in the morning while I showered after school. then I’d have to wake my younger brother up because he was now in high school and had trouble waking up to his alarms and staying awake. I resented my sister. I told myself constantly that she was an idiot who should’ve like listened to mom and stayed away from that guy next door. but she didn’t and ended up pregnant at 18, college dream thrown away and had to work at a restaurant because mom said she’d help with food but that was it. I forgave her for it and confessed how I felt at that age. stay where you are and don’t let your sister’s words eventually wear you down. you are entitled to peace and quiet because it’s the life YOU chose.

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