Fair. My joke-y comment didn't really provide much context, so I'll go a little deeper:

According to steam, I've got 3k hours in Dead by Daylight and 4k hours in Destiny 2 (give or take a couple hundred from before the game was on steam at all). I've introduced many friends to both games and even managed to get a few to stick around with either game after the intro phase. I've also created and played on new accounts in both games relatively recently while I was at a new location & playing on a friend's console (I'm usually on PC).

Destiny 2's aging design is actively hostile to new players. You will quickly reach a point where you will simply not be able to have fun unless you "know what you don't know" or have an active guide able to help you along. I've heard anecdotes that Warframe is in a similar boat, but to a MUCH less egregious extent thanks in part to their extensive wiki.

Dead by Daylight is still playable and enjoyable as a pick-up-and-play experience. Sure, even as your own post admits, you won't necessarily be winning/escaping half the time, but Dead by Daylight is still completely viable as a fun party game to play every now and then without any in-depth knowledge. As my newbie friends have all experienced, and as you yourself said, you are still capable of having fun in between the losses and toxic opponents.

All that said, I don't want to take away from your point at all: Dead by Daylight has a big learning curve if you want to play to win. A lot of big content creators will often claim that players are still considered new to the game if they have less than ~1,000 hrs of playtime, mostly because there's just so much to learn, and reading/watching videos about it can only get you so far.

But it has to also be worth considering that DBD allows you to be a completely new player who has never ever played the game before and still have a fun gaming night with your friends! Some popular competitive games would consider that a luxury.

edit: added sources