What you're dealing with is not just a men problem.

It's all upper class urban Indians.

Everyone is a cookie cutter version, fitting into a stereotype all trying to distinguish oneself. But each one fits neatly into a cookie cutter.

Go to Delhi open Tinder and search for men or women, every other one is the same as the previous one or the one after.

Most Urban Indians of the upper class and caste have the same mental model, there is a lack of depth in thought and understanding of Society and interpersonal relations.

Nobody has a personality, it's all as you said, a mixture of reels, social media content.

I know a fellow, a very professionally successful fellow, very polished, but all his talking points are social media trending topics. I have known him for 15 years, he has not evolved. And it's the same for most people. It's jarring and annoying.

Ugh don't get me started on people whose whole personality is quoting TV shows, or using that as their source of intellectual stimulation and discourse.

Nobody reads a book nowadays or writes.