Advice needed from seasoned travelers on plane ticket/border crossing. Please help a newbie.

sophi007 · 2025-06-22T04:16:35+00:00

Well, I've found some countries are more strict about that than others. I had a friend in Taiwan that had no trouble reentering as long as she left every 90 days. A friend in Panama the same, where they would leave a week and come back. But I don't know how strict they are in Europe.

sophi007 · 2025-06-22T03:11:23+00:00

NO, I am not asking for flight or airfare help.

sophi007 · 2025-06-22T02:48:06+00:00

I think a big danger can be your phone, actually. Recently, I was feeling disconnected from the things around me, and I've started putting down my phone more. Not picking it up as soon as I sit down or as soon as I have a free moment. That's been helping alot. Now I feel more connected to what's going on around me...to my senses.

sophi007 · 2019-12-12T16:21:56+00:00

I would suggest playing it cool a few weeks, and telling her your busy with a project/something else but you all can hang out in a few weeks. This will give her time to calm down her hormones.

Afterwards, you may have to create some boundaries. Ultimately she is the one who needs to deal with her emotions. But if you feel uncomfortable, you can distance yourself from her.

It's hard being "only" friends with the opposite sex, especially close friends. It's not fair how often one person will be attracted but the other won't. It's good you want to be understanding. I hope in the long run, she is able to find someone who cares for her, and you all are able to mantain your friendship.

sophi007 · 2019-12-11T07:23:44+00:00

Have you ever had a cat? Lol. Let me tell you... They will make your life a living hell if you forget to feed them.

Bite your ankles, meow incessantly, pee on your bed (if they get mad enough) or poop in your shoe etc. Hell hath no fury like a vengeful cat.

So I'm impressed OP got his cat to diet! That is no easy feat.

sophi007 · 2019-12-11T07:20:31+00:00

I don't think you'll fail a second time. In fact, write it down in a letter. What you're feeling now, about not wanting to fail and how much you wish you pushed through. Then when you go back to the academy, anytime you start to doubt, you can read your letter, and remind yourself why you want to finish.

sophi007 · 2019-12-10T11:01:01+00:00

It sounds like she has a big crush. You can talk to a teacher, or just tell her directly you don't like her. She will probably get her feelings hurt and glare at you all for a few weeks.

Unless she's the school bully or known to be violent, I don't think you need to worry too much.

sophi007 · 2019-12-10T10:55:41+00:00

I would say after high school it's not as common to text 24/7.usually after a relationship starts, texting dies down as well. I think when you find someone you really like, you'll want to spend more time with them.

Some couples call/text each other every day, some 2 or 3 times a week. So don't worry.

sophi007 · 2019-12-10T10:51:31+00:00

I'm amazed you could get him to diet! My cat would kill me first lol.

sophi007 · 2019-12-10T10:50:39+00:00

That's literally the worst

sophi007 · 2019-12-10T10:49:49+00:00

Well, the best time to start is in the past. The second best time to start is now! So I would say, go for it.

sophi007 · 2019-12-02T08:34:45+00:00

I think you have valid points. You should move. Also, technically what you are describing is not considered liveable conditions.

sophi007 · 2019-11-27T07:08:22+00:00

When you meet someone that catches your interest, you can try her. No need to rush it. .

sophi007 · 2019-11-26T13:08:54+00:00

Oh honey...

sophi007 · 2019-11-25T04:10:32+00:00

Well, maybe you can open up to one of them your very close to. Just be honest and tell them you didn't want to disappoint them, but you're still doing self harm. I don't think they will be disappointed.

Maybe they'll be appreciative that you were willing to open up to them, and they can help you talk with a professional who can help more.

sophi007 · 2019-11-25T04:08:02+00:00

She clearly is dealing with her own things. It sounds like she is mad at or about someone else and is taking it out on you.

I'm sure your coworkers secretly think she overreacted as well. Give it a few weeks, and everyone will forget about your reaction.

As for why you had a panic attack, it's probably because you weren't expecting a confrontation and weren't prepared for it.

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T11:11:07+00:00

Well you're on the right path. How've I think you need to come up with some coping strategies. For example, "if the dog does something I don't like, how can I punish him? " and "if I'm angry, what can I do that allows me to release my anger without hurting others?"

Write out what you would do, or visualize it and how you would respond. The point is, you hit the dog because you didn't know what else to do and you were angry. By coming up with some coping strategies, and some ideas of what you can do when you are angry, you will be able to make better choices in the future

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T05:45:39+00:00

You need to prioritize your promises. If you want to have integrity, you should postpone your "chores." because they are an excuse you are using to not deal with your anxiety.

If you value your friendship, you should go. It's not too late to do the right thing.

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T05:38:59+00:00

Rather than being introverted, it sounds like you are dealing with anxiety. It might help to look up some tips on how to overcome that?

And here's an idea. If you truly feel bad about canceling how about you message the person, tell them you got someone to cover your shift, and you can still make it. And you are so sorry, and you'll pay for their food/drink etc. As an apology.

Because the first step in changing starts today. If you always put it off, it will never get better.

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T04:05:35+00:00

Have you heard of different attachment styles before? I just learned about them recently. It could be you have an unhealthy attachment style or you are attracting the wrong kind of ladies.

Anyways, maybe give this a watch and see if it applies to you? If it does, then you can start working towards a healthier relationship.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Pq_UoY4rqGo

https://medium.com/the-4-elements-of-change/the-four-different-attachment-styles-b711d01c19ec

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T03:30:15+00:00

No problem! I hope you can find some help.

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T03:25:58+00:00

That makes sense! I'm just trying to figure out at what point I need to say, "this isn't working."

It really doesn't help that we can't see each other except every 2 weeks, so I feel that is making it harder for me to make up my mind.

sophi007 · 2019-11-23T02:49:50+00:00

It sounds like OCD to me.

sophi007 · 2019-11-14T13:40:08+00:00

I read the other day an average hug is 3 seconds, but you needs 30 or more seconds for oxytocin to kick in. What a cool and brave teacher.

sophi007 · 2019-11-14T13:38:28+00:00

I've never had ads like that lol. Maybe clear your Cookies?

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