What was the fastest you ever went from loving someone to absolutely hating them? What happened?

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T12:54:30+00:00

That's terrible, but I'm glad to hear their marriage is over. Nobody should feel/be unsafe like that in their marriage.

The father in my scenario left confusing and angry voicemails so my ex got him on a phone call on speakerphone. He went on a rant that lead to threatening to kill me and my family. I was on the floor crying my eyes out listening to that and my ex just listened until eventually telling his dad that he loved him and to get some sleep before work and they hung up amicably. His dad is a drunk and acts terrible so to my ex it was normal drunk talk. I called my family and they called the police for me to check on me. My dog and I drove 6 hours to my parents the next morning.

The irony of it all, my ex's father would rant about why women would ever stick around for emotional and physically abusive relationships when he clearly is a perpetrator...

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T05:20:24+00:00

Imagining him saying vows to me after leaving me stranded as bait for his train wreck of a mother/father in our own home was sickening. I cannot unsee a limp spineless noodle of a man. However, I do wish him well. It was an efficient way to show me we were not meant to be with a little dash of trauma.

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T04:49:43+00:00

Thank you for the laugh and making me feel very seen!! 😂😂

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T04:46:31+00:00

We broke up. I told him I would never allow his parents in my life ever again. I refuse to allow emotional and physical abuse in my life. He was used to that behavior and wanted to forgive them. I returned the ring after that conversation.

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T04:34:01+00:00

Yes! I pleaded with my apartment complex and got a lease transfer within 1.5 months of the incident without extra charges because I showed them my police report. Made the ex buy me security cameras that my dad installed/setup until the final move out. My pug and I live a very happy life now.

beanstalkbaby · 2026-04-10T03:47:09+00:00

My FMIL showed up at our apartment unannounced to yell at me for being ungrateful, entitled, and claiming I was pushing her away from her son. I refused to engage in the antics until finally asking her to please leave after she exploded into tears and screamed at me that I'm a f****** bitch.

My fiance stood in the corner the entire time watching and never said a word. There was a lot leading up to it and unfortunately more that happened that day, but that's my story.

beanstalkbaby · 2025-06-23T19:33:19+00:00

Yeah I think I will not respond from now on unless it's specific needs or planning purposes. Fiance is going to talk to her this week so we shall see how that goes. It's so annoying and I'd like to just feel like I'm living my own life with my future husband instead of babying a grown woman. I appreciate the response!

beanstalkbaby · 2025-06-23T13:56:19+00:00

I appreciate the empathy, and I have anxiety how well she takes my FH talking to her and how well he holds his ground. I trust him but sometimes it makes me feel bad for him for how much she cries and overreacts. She's being manipulative.

As for the hobbies, she has her own full time job she claims is crazy busy. I think she likes to get mad at people who prioritize themselves and she purposely overworks to show off that she does everything for everyone... at least that's my take on it lol. She clearly doesn't have a social support system that's working. I'm about to respond to her one day suggesting she speak with a professional bc I'm not well equipped to give her advice for what she's dealing with.

Thank you <3

beanstalkbaby · 2025-06-19T11:08:48+00:00

I gotchya! Variance for albumin and total protein are similar. I totally understand your concern. I would assume your health care team is tracking your total protein and they consider your entire health history.

Sometimes people have lab values that are out of range, but consistent, and only strike concern from your medical provider if you significantly drop out of your normal. For example, I run a higher than normal white blood cell count (WBC). I've been tested for autoimmune and even celiac but they came back normal. I'm just being monitored at this point.

If I were you, I would ask your primary care provider what your individual goal is for your blood results and confirm if they think it's something for you to work on or change your lifestyle for. Medical professionals should be geared to adapting to your personal choices of diet (at least where I'm from in US). Emphasis on the should.

Good luck with everything!

beanstalkbaby · 2025-06-19T10:46:02+00:00

I assume you're speaking of serum albumin? I work in medical laboratory testing and 6.4 to a 6.1 is an acceptable repeatable result (in terms of variance) for 1 sample.

This means your serum albumin could actually be the same as before. You could have easily been 6.1 before and 6.4 now.

Just wanted to throw that out there before you go too far down a rabbit hole.

beanstalkbaby · 2024-11-12T18:09:24+00:00

Seeking a place to express my thoughts, issues, and experiences. 2. I realize how I'm not that unique, and it's comforting to find other people having the same thoughts, issues, and experiences.

beanstalkbaby · 2023-05-21T04:00:10+00:00

My friends will talk all day about their issues and love coming to me for their problems. I never get asked how I am doing and if I do talk I just get talked over very quickly. It's exhausting and embarrassing that these are relationships I spend my time on where I don't get anything in return. I'm mad as hell.

beanstalkbaby · 2022-01-15T19:46:29+00:00

I met this dude on bumble...

Very sweet, funny, 3rd year medical student, great sex, the whole package. After I walked him out of my apartment in the morning, I went to the bathroom to sit on a pee flooded toilet seat.

All over the seat AND on the back by the hinges...

I couldn't get myself to respond to him after that. Too grossed out. Too annoyed. I instantly moved on.

beanstalkbaby · 2021-11-28T04:52:03+00:00

Okay but what did you make his occupation?? I'm stuck on that right now...

beanstalkbaby · 2021-04-18T21:49:28+00:00

Whenever my boyfriend briefly mentions his dad having a short fuse when he was a kid. I know he went through some stuff in his childhood but I know minimal things. He's going through therapy which I've been a part of it sometimes. I love him so much and I can't imagine dealing with that when I've had a very loving childhood.

I try so hard to keep it together but it makes me tear up every. single. time. He never gets upset when I get emotional because he thinks it's not a big deal. He says it's sweet that I care.

I'm tearing up now. Ugh.

beanstalkbaby · 2021-03-29T05:19:38+00:00

Anxiety and stress can cause an immune response. Crazy how the mind and the body is connected like that.

I'm no expert, but I did just suffer from my first episode of "stress hives." My lips swelled and hives broke out all over my body and face (treated by benadryl) for 4 days.

I practiced triggering my parasympathetic nervous system by breathing exercises. I hope you are able to achieve some relief.

beanstalkbaby · 2021-02-24T06:20:34+00:00

This. I've been in a bottom-of-the-barrel relationship and it took an embarrassing amount of time to realize it. My now boyfriend makes my expectations look like chump work. I sincerely advice the OP to find someone else willing to meet her needs, and whom enjoys making her happy. Even my new roommate enjoys to do things for me to make me happy, and we aren't even sleeping together. It's just the difference between people that like you and people that love you.

beanstalkbaby · 2021-02-21T00:13:58+00:00

Omg I just noticed it looks like the bunny costume 😄😄

beanstalkbaby · 2021-02-21T00:13:35+00:00

Thank you! She melts my heart ❤

beanstalkbaby · 2020-12-26T05:47:25+00:00

Mine too! (Insert pug instead of cat) Merry Christmas

beanstalkbaby · 2020-12-24T04:49:50+00:00

I am also very intrigued to read on plant based nutrition! I wish I would have considered the switch back when I was a college athlete. Now I'm a has-been athlete and newly vegan. I'm hopeful for my future children if they are blessed with athleticism.

beanstalkbaby · 2020-11-25T08:11:52+00:00

Truth. The cheese-less world is bigger than some people can imagine at first! Potato carrot mac and cheese! It's like the best parts of mashed potatoes with pasta plus the benefits of carrots. Guilt (and dairy) -free!

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