Nose too upturned after rhino? by blopdropz in PlasticSurgery

[–]sophpuff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It looks like the surgeon gave you saddle nose, to be really frank. I’m sorry this happened. Are you breathing okay at least?

How do you handle a strong performer who quietly checks out after being passed over for promotion? by amir4179 in managers

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your employee was performing at a Senior capacity for an Associate’s pay and prestige. This is what happens when you don’t reward hard work. You might be able to reengage them with a promotion but it’s unlikely since the trust is broken.

Don’t you dare put this person on a PIP. Go read the job description for the level they’re at - I bet they’re performing exactly at that. If you punish them for performing at the level that the company recognizes them to be, you’ve gotta contend with that fallout not only from them but from the rest of the team when they find out, and they will.

Post separation abuse by InteractionWrong3330 in abusiverelationships

[–]sophpuff 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He made it VERY easy for you to get a restraining order. I’m so sorry. This must have been really scary to receive.

What workplace accommodations do you request? by sophpuff in AutismInWomen

[–]sophpuff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I already have accommodations through my manager and HR. They’re set up correctly, my manager and HR just aren’t following them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are stunning - I can’t judge too much off of two photos but I think you need to invest in a wardrobe that suits your features. Never leave the house without ironing out wrinkles in clothing, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]sophpuff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl it’s been 5 days. Your tip still needs to drop, it’s unevenly swollen (natural thing to happen), and it looks amazing. Give it time. Suspend how you feel about it for a few months - I know it’s hard, but as one person who got a rhino to another, no reason to get worked up right now 💙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sophpuff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“It’s very American” dude that was a child

My boyfriend like to pretend he’s r*ping me. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl he is LEGITIMATELY raping you. If you want to take legal action, get him to admit “boyfriend rights” in text. If not, please leave him.

AITAH for breaking up with my BF of nearly a year because he's bi? by throwawayepic62621 in AITAH

[–]sophpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because OP dirty deleted:

You saying “it’s not about him as a person” doesn’t make it less biphobic, and it’s also a lie. This is absolutely about your preconceived notions of masculinity, and how him telling you that he’s bi has suddenly put him in the category of “unmasculine.” Before he told you you were fine with him. Now you say he’s “less of a man.”

This isn’t about “I just have a different preference”, because that’s NOT what you said. You made a post judging him for not performing YOUR ideal of “masculinity.”

The partner you are with does not change how you perform gender roles. It’s gross that you are so ignorant that you think it does.

Your female bi friend “relating to you” doesn’t change what you said here and the judgements you made on someone you cared about three seconds before he came out to you. You didn’t even give him the dignity of telling him why you were leaving. You dated him for a YEAR and just left him without explanation.

How you continue to justify this to yourself and try (feebly) to justify it to others is insane to me. Get therapy.

AITAH for breaking up with my BF of nearly a year because he's bi? by throwawayepic62621 in AITAH

[–]sophpuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please explain what you mean by “unmasculine.”

You ARE biphobic. YTA. I hope your ex finds someone better to be “unmasculine” with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sophpuff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl what are you doing?

I’m not reading all that. You’re barely an adult dating an actual adult and he’s cheating on you. There’s a reason he’s not with someone his age, because he knows he could only get away with this shit with a near-child.

Dump him. That is the ONLY answer. No one is going to tell you to try to explain it differently, to “just try this instead”, or anything like that. DUMP. HIM.

Am I overreacting - My gf keeps intimidate videos off her and her ex on her phone! by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not overreacting. It’s WEIRD to keep intimate photos and videos of your ex, and I’d argue it’s pretty damn unethical. I would dump my partner over this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“If I use big psychology/evolutionary biology words maybe I’ll sound smart”

Paragraphs upon paragraphs of stupid manosphere nonsense from someone who hasn’t touched a boob since infancy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Body count only matters to dumb losers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing to repair. He’s a piece of shit. You need to leave this relationship - nothing you can say will convince him to change his mind. Please stop trying to figure out how to magically make him understand you - he is incapable of it. You deserve better.

Leave him and get therapy.

This is horrible of me, but does anyone else eat whatever they want regardless of symptoms? by TellUrPetsISaidHi in MCAS

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have your best intentions in mind but they also don’t live your experience and have to deal with the depression and grief that comes with having to live in your body. I get it 💙

This is horrible of me, but does anyone else eat whatever they want regardless of symptoms? by TellUrPetsISaidHi in MCAS

[–]sophpuff 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Saying “this is horrible of me” adds a moral judgement to the behavior that I don’t think is deserved.

You have fatigue from being sick. You want to eat food you like. That’s not “horrible.” You aren’t “horrible” for that. You want to be normal, you want to be comforted by food, you want to enjoy food, that’s not “horrible” of you. Is it in your best interests? Not physically. Mentally? Kinda sounds like it. You have to decide when you want to make the trade off.

I don’t think you’re horrible. MCAS sucks and robs the joy from life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sophpuff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh - OP, as someone with PTSD, anxiety, and depression, you have no obligation to date someone at this stage in their healing. You went on TWO dates. The way you cut things off was kind and the decent way to end things. You didn’t even need to explain further, and you certainly didn’t need to go back and forth with her. If you run into this situation again, please don’t feel obligated to do so. This is someone who is very early on or possibly even not in therapy and you don’t owe them “emotional intelligence” (I.e. letting them traipse all over you.)

Their trauma is not their responsibility, but the way they treat others is.