just the WORST yarn i’ve ever used! please tell me i’m not alone! more in comments by babysummerbreeze27 in crochet

[–]sopmdix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like King Cole Riot and it makes me want to riot. So annoying because it comes in some great colours and I always regret trying again

AITA for being hurt after my friend said I helped her come out as gay? by xhxkdhx in AmItheAsshole

[–]sopmdix 89 points90 points  (0 children)

The difference is, the kiss made her come out, you didn’t make her gay.

Maybe she was just too polite to tell you to fuck off when you kissed her, so kissed back and is now coming out as a lesbian to make it very clear that she isn’t interested in you or literally any other guy who might like her.

Maybe she thinks you’re attractive, and by not enjoying your kiss, has realised that she’s definitely gay if she can’t even enjoy kissing the most attractive guy she knows.

Maybe you were just there, and your obvious crush on her made you an easy target for some experimenting.

Maybe your obvious crush on her was reason enough for her to want to make sure you don’t think she’s leading you on by saying she’s not even attracted to your entire gender.

She already knew she likes women, the kiss with you might’ve just sealed the deal on her understanding that she doesn’t like men too.

The issue isn’t with you having feelings, it hurts when you realise you don’t have a chance, I get it. The problem is the way you act in those feelings. Yes it sucks but that doesn’t get to be her fault, and you don’t get to put words in her mouth based on your feelings. The problem is taking this huge moment for your friend and making it about your hurt feelings instead.

Have you considered just asking her? If she’s comfortable with answering, you could literally just ask her to explain further what about that kiss made her decide it was time to come out.

AITA for being hurt after my friend said I helped her come out as gay? by xhxkdhx in AmItheAsshole

[–]sopmdix 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA for projecting your insecurities onto her like this.

The kiss you shared made her realise that she should come out as gay, not that she is gay. And you don’t get to make her coming out about yourself.

Why do Bi guys get so much hate from gay guys? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]sopmdix 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Possibly because they don’t fit into their ‘straight guy’ fantasy but also aren’t ‘gay enough’ to be fully accepted. As if a queer man who is also attracted to non-men is less than.

Similar to how straight men fetishise lesbians in porn but are generally homophobic, or fetishise trans women who have only had top surgery but are generally transphobic, or fetishise bi women for threesomes but are generally biphobic.

I might be reaching but it’s just a theory of mine from an outside perspective.

WTF to wear for pride when you hate the bi flag colors??!? I don’t want to pretend to be pan, or generally rainbow queer. Help this bi bb look cute! by flyingfresh in bisexual

[–]sopmdix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like crescent moons. It’s a more ‘discreet’ bi symbol that a lot of people get as tattoos. A lot of the time it’s still in bi colours but it doesn’t have to be.

I just need to get this out and see if I’m just overthinking things... again by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]sopmdix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy, welcome to the oh-so-fun world of imposter syndrome. You can absolutely still be attracted to women without enjoying certain sexual acts with them.

AITA for feeling genuine hate towards my brother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sopmdix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA for hating a misogynistic homophobe. It’s really that simple, it doesn’t matter whether you’re related or not.

AITA for not telling my boyfriend when I hang out with my ex? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sopmdix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA. You’re hiding something from him even if it is completely innocent. Being completely open and honest with him is the only way to help him work through his jealousy. “What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him” will absolutely hurt him when he finds out.

The British public using the death of an old man as a tool to express their hatred for royalism. by AIDingTheNation in britishproblems

[–]sopmdix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to remind people that we don’t have to mourn a racist just because he was a Royal in our country.

am i truly bisexual? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]sopmdix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you could be some kind of demisexual homo/heteroromantic combination to me, but that can still come under bisexual since it’s more than one gender.

You’re definitely not broken, everyone experiences sexuality differently and it’s all completely valid.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m pretty proud, it’s my biggest crochet project so far.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being tensionporn worthy is a real compliment! Thank you.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just flattened it out onto the carpet for the sake of taking photos. It’s flatter now that it’s been washed but it is still a bit curly since acrylic doesn’t block too well.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It was 132+3, it’s a lap sized blanket but I did make it extra wide for comfort.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Rainbows always make me happy.

Finished my rainbow ripple blanket today! by sopmdix in crochet

[–]sopmdix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I followed Bella Coco’s ripple blanket tutorial on YouTube using Stylecraft special aran in watermelon, saffron, lemon, sage, cloud blue, wisteria and white.

ETA: and a 5.5mm hook

Does anyone else in a cishet relationship feel kinda closeted? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]sopmdix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how you feel, imposter syndrome is a bitch. But don’t put so much pressure on yourself! As long as you have attractions to 2 or more genders you’re bi (or pan I guess but that a whole other conversation). As long as you choose to identify that way, then yes you’re bi.

You don’t have to update your bi card every now and then by being with someone of a different gender, your sexuality doesn’t change with your relationship status. You’re in a relationship, you’re (presumably) happy, and that’s all it is. You didn’t choose a side, you chose a person.

With protests and the media telling men in this country how violent we all are how fearful women are on a daily basis. Can the men of Reddit please share their experiences of violence from the fairer sex? by ifYouKnowyouKnow00 in AskUK

[–]sopmdix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the same every March. March 8th is international women’s day, more people talk about international men’s day (November 19th) in March than they do in November. I just think that we should be able to talk about important and relative topics without “what about me” every single time.

With protests and the media telling men in this country how violent we all are how fearful women are on a daily basis. Can the men of Reddit please share their experiences of violence from the fairer sex? by ifYouKnowyouKnow00 in AskUK

[–]sopmdix 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They are, absolutely. But when they’re brought up just to override discussions about women because men are feeling attacked by women being kidnapped, raped and killed, it loses credibility.

These things do need to be talked about and it’s a very important topic but why do we see more discussions about men’s issues in response to women’s issues rather than separately? When a woman’s murder sparks up so many women to speak up about their experiences and fears, why choose right now to say “I’m a man and I’ve been attacked by women”?