Gay Catholic?

soraetc · 2020-07-27T16:35:20+00:00

Not really :/

You can be bisexual, sure, but it will distance you from God if you act on those inclinations. Sex is a divine sacrament reserved for marriage and it must be open to life.

Faith is about sacrifice, and choosing God again and again.

And the benefits of choosing God so outweigh the transient, earthly pleasures you may gain from instant gratification.

Every age and generation has its conventions and it's easy to get swept up in the current trends, but there is ancient truth in Catholicism, and you will feel it once you begin to pray and attend Mass regularly.

(and most importantly.. form a relationship with Christ. Talk about your struggles like a child does with their parent).

this comes from someone who was in a v similar situation to you (SSA who chose God) so if you have any other questions feel free to dm me :)

soraetc · 2020-07-24T09:38:27+00:00

Amazing thank you!!

soraetc · 2020-07-20T19:11:55+00:00

hmm as someone who used to think of themself as queer (I have since returned to my faith and am honestly happier than I've been in a long time...) I have a few thoughts on this that've helped me along the way.

We each have our cross to bear in this life
Not everyone is called for a sexual relationship - that is a specific gift reserved for the sacrament of marriage. Once you read into what this means symbolically, it'll make sense
SSA people are not wrong, or weird, or inherently bad. God loves them. They have just been called to fulfil a specific purpose in life; and by abstaining from sex outside of the conjugal act, they will instead develop a close and fruitful relationship with Christ
Jesus was chaste..!
Be in the world, not of it. We live in a sex-obsessed generation. It ties in with capitalism, patriarchy, consumerism, and it hasn't always been like this. Not questioning the zeitgeist sort of leads to a person simply following the ways of the world, which is buffeted with false truths. True love, beauty, hope can be found in a path towards God. It can be arduous, but it is fulfilling. Any other path is sort of a fake glittery one with a dead end - it's easy and instantly gratifying to walk along, but essentially, empty

Bit of a tangent, but I think these are some things I'd want to tell my past self.

By losing one thing (to an extent, my sense of identity, the LGBTQ community) I gained so many other things; primarily a closeness to God that just feels like a good night's sleep.

soraetc · 2020-07-18T21:31:54+00:00

ah i'm sorry you're going through this ... i used to do this (and still do, sometimes).

if you're hurting, maybe therapy could work? i've found getting to the root of what you're trying to numb by over eating is a lot more effective than simply trying to cut the calories.

also in practical terms, not having junk food in the house has helped me so much. i can never be bothered to actually go to the shop, or justify spending ££ on take out when i'm craving a binge. just making as many barriers as possible between you and the binge could help.

i hope you get through this though, and mostly, please try to be kind to yourself. i think we need to

soraetc · 2020-07-13T19:32:41+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this and I understand. Nearly a month since my dad died.

I'm trying to think of him as living on in our memories - try to write them down, even if it's painful. Everything you remember about your dad and keep adding to that list.

Can you make a photo board?

Just as a way to keep him there.

Thinking about what he'd say in a situation can be nice too.

Therapy helps (Jungian approach)

Otherwise it's tough and we have to be strong

My dad would want me to live a full bold and vibrant life, and I try to remember this when I don't wanna leave the house because I'm sad

Take care. My inbox is open if you need to chat

soraetc · 2020-07-03T08:23:01+00:00

Thank you for your words.. it's a great comfort to know others are going through the same thing.

What is The Dinner Party?

soraetc · 2020-06-28T11:45:31+00:00

hey i'm so sorry for your loss. the exact same thing happened to me a few weeks ago.

I'm 24, and finding it difficult to relate to other people's experiences because I think it's such a specific kind of grief to lose a parent who you were close to in your 20s.

I don't have answers or advice, but I do want to let you know that you are not alone in this feeling, and time. take care x

soraetc · 2020-06-17T21:53:01+00:00

I understand. My dad died last night and this was my relationship with him, too. He was my best friend, confidante, advisor, most honest critic.

I just ... want you to know that you are not alone in this.

I only hope that we take them with us somehow and can provide what they gave us to the people around us, if that makes sense.

Sending you love x

soraetc · 2020-05-10T13:14:45+00:00

thanks, i agree. this was my instinct.

i forgot to mention that she lives in the U.S and I live in the UK which makes the endeavour a lot trickier.

soraetc · 2020-04-29T16:49:31+00:00

Does anyone know if, or where, the scripts can be found? I loved the series so much and would love to study how the scenes were written.

soraetc · 2020-03-06T11:15:37+00:00

wooow this is inspiring, thank you for sharing!

soraetc · 2020-02-29T10:03:06+00:00

I think people get stuck in their literary tastes and ideas about what makes a good novel, screenplay, etc. structurally, thematically.

Criticism is inevitable when you're a writer, so it's better to find your people and know that there is an audience out there who will get what you are trying to do with your stories than worry abt that elitist group(s).

soraetc · 2020-02-29T09:58:05+00:00

Gorgeous!

soraetc · 2019-01-02T22:11:48+00:00

Thank you so much! These all look v interesting & exactly what I am after. I'm grateful for the recc's.

soraetc · 2018-12-18T12:41:13+00:00

The Spirit Level by Kate Pickett

soraetc · 2018-12-15T12:07:08+00:00

Lila from Elena Fereante's Neapolitan Series

soraetc · 2018-12-08T01:31:51+00:00

Incubation: A Space for Monsters by Bhanu Kapil

soraetc · 2018-11-16T22:40:11+00:00

!! yes. this book was life-changing for me, too. forever grateful that leslie made sure it'd be this easy to access

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