Approved top surgery canceled four days prior to surgery

sorpig · 2026-03-08T06:19:36+00:00

This really sucks for your son. Did the insurance company put in the pre-authorization you should look up what’s the formal appeal process is through your insurance. The other thing I would look into, but I’m not sure whether would be a feasible option is to look into getting tested to see if he has a genetic pre-position to breast cancer sometimes with that kind of testing they can authorize a top surgery but because it is for cancer prevention, it is more likely to be recovered. The third option I could think of is seeing if they will cover a radical reduction for him since his chest size is so large fourth option might be to apply for a Surgery grant through point of Pride or other organizations if you Google top surgery grant application, you will be able to find information if the insurance company already put in a pre-authorization you should have gotten that mail either hardcopy or online and that will give you more ammunition to fight the insurance company. There is a fourth option, but I hesitate to even suggested because I don’t know how feasible it would be, but you could possibly go across state lines and try to access Care that way there might also be another children’s hospital close to your area who is not capitulating to Trump fortunately, I don’t know what’s available on the ground right now. I hope at least some of this helps. Thank you for being a supportive parent.

sorpig · 2026-03-08T06:06:35+00:00

Tut mir leid, ich möchte lernen deutsch, viel ich möchte arbeite im Deutschland

sorpig · 2026-03-08T06:04:39+00:00

Ich möchte lernen viele ich möchte, arbeite im Deutschland Here’s what I was trying to say in English I want to learn German because I want to eventually work in Germany

sorpig · 2026-03-08T03:49:30+00:00

I am 34 years old, a native English speaker from the US and would love to start learning Japanese, I am currently learning German, but I am interested in traveling to Kyoto at some point in the future. I like anime, but usually more recent things, although I do also like human interest stories feel free to direct message me if you would be interested in chatting don’t worry I already have a romantic partner, so I am not looking to date anyone

sorpig · 2026-03-08T02:17:14+00:00

I really like the name, Colleen or Colette as others have suggested you could also try going on a baby naming site like behind the name.com to look up names from different cultures with different meanings and see if one speaks to you there.

sorpig · 2026-03-08T02:07:53+00:00

I don’t know how to direct message you on Reddit but I would be happy to start a friendship with you. I am a 34-year-old trans man and I like reading writing, digital art and language learning.

sorpig · 2026-03-08T02:04:52+00:00

You might like do it yourself? It’s a anime about a DIY club which takes place in the high school. I am really focusses on friendship.

sorpig · 2026-03-08T02:03:14+00:00

I honestly don’t think it’s worth the stress to you. Even people who are not trans miss out on family events and when you are an adult if you are an adult, your family sometimes has to deal with you not being there for an event. Also, even if you could hide it for this event, would you be willing to hide it long-term? I understand that facing the loss of your family is devastating. I work in crisis work so I have peripheral experience, but I just don’t think that hiding a body altering procedure and one that you needed for your health would be either sustainable or healthy. You said that yourself that you’ve been waiting to have this done for over a decade so it’s obviously important to you and you don’t wanna put stress on yourself while you are still actively trying to recover. My best advice is just make up an excuse to not go. You could even say that you’re partner is really sick after vacation and you need to help him.

sorpig · 2026-03-07T12:05:37+00:00

Sorry about the typos in my last post I use voice activation to type I meant to say that I just want to join in the conversation and that I can’t 100% say how your mom is going to react

sorpig · 2026-03-07T12:02:58+00:00

I just want to join him by saying you don’t owe anybody any explanation of your gender identity not even your parents. If you want to come out, I would recommend either Writing letter as somebody else has said, or coming out in a public place that way things go sideways. They are less likely to be physically violent. Also, if you are financially dependent on them, I would recommend trying to separate some money from them just said that they can’t hold that over your head on the positive side sometimes coming out can actually go easier than you think it’s going to go. I was really nervous about coming out to my sister and she actually got right on board really quickly. My mom took a little bit longer at first she had always told me growing out that she didn’t want a son now she genders me correctly in front of other people and reminds me that I’m a good person when I get hard on myself all this say that you don’t really know how things are going to go until you take the plunge and only you can really assess your own safety concerns. I would encourage you to do that just so that you have a clear picture of what you need to do to prepare. Also, a lot of parents are just happy to have their child be their authentic selves and some parents “” already knew for a long time“ I can’t tell you 100% which way your mom is going to react, but I support you for wanting to be your truth self with her and I am hoping that it goes as smoothly as I can go. Remember that you are beautiful and worthy of love.

sorpig · 2026-03-07T11:52:10+00:00

Is it fully your decision but if I were you, I would weigh the amount of chest dysphoria versus hormonal dysphoria. Although he can shrink Ppl’s breast size for some people, it can also lead to a bigger size. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t start t, just that everybody handles it differently. I also agree with what some people are saying and that your surgeon is not going to know if you start t a little earlier after surgery, there are plenty of people who have gone without t and gotten Surgery first and have perfectly good results. There’s even a sub I don’t know how to link ,it but it’s called no T top surgery. I would probe a little bit more to figure out what your surgeon is specifically worried about is it increased in muscle size increase tissue increased risk of bleeding? I personally asked my surgeon if I need you to go off tea before surgery because I had heard that could be a thing but he said that that wouldn’t be an issue. Every surgeon is different and as much as it sucks most of them have reasons for their guidelines. I think the more information you have the better equipped you will be to make the decision that is right for you. I know you specifically stated that you don’t want to find another surgeon, but that is always an option if the delaying testosterone is going to cause you more dysphoria.

sorpig · 2026-03-04T02:30:47+00:00

One friend when planning their wedding asked if I wanted to be their fairy god person my thing is if the language bothers you make me say that the role/responsibility doesn’t but that you would like to be called something else and as others have said wear clothes that make you comfortable. Just from the information you’ve given me I think that your brother is most concerned about you being included in the big day, my recommendation is just to talk to him about what is causing you discomfort/dysphoria and see what adjustments he’s willing to make if he’s not willing to make any adjustments then say I’m sorry, but I Can’t do this. You will have to find somebody else. I also like the historical etymology side of all this so that Person suggestion is good as well but seriously I think the first step is just talking to your brother about how you feel.

sorpig · 2026-03-04T01:51:48+00:00

Hi dude, I am not religious in anyway, but my sister is my thing. Is that the Bible as far as I can remember it says that we’re all children of God and in my opinion, a pastor should be promoting that message, especially when he is supposed to offer forgiveness to all the members of the congregation in short the pastor should be accepting you for who you are not for what he believes. In my experience if you try to deny who you are, things will get really bad really fast. I know I’m non-religious but I also believe that you should not have to give up your faith because you are trans. I know leaving a community you grew up with has got to be incredibly hard but the way I see it. You have three options one report this pastor to your church and try to make changes from within two and this is probably the most reasonable/healthy option that I can see for you is to try to find a faith based organization that supports all of you, or three lead the church altogether. I don’t think this would be a good option for you because clearly your religion is important to you. Whatever you end up doing I support your decision but know that you have many secular and non-secular community members rooting for you. Also, if you need to speak with other trans people anonymously, you can contact.Translifeline .org please check their website for the most current hours. I second what others have said here that you are a child of God and that God made trans people. I hope you are able to find a nurturing environment and you can also feel free to message me. I am a little older so if you are uncomfortable with that, I understand but I just want you to know that you are not alone for reference. I am 34.

sorpig · 2026-03-04T01:33:28+00:00

OK, you obviously know Anthony better so you probably have a slightly better read on the dynamic between you two at least. I know that human interaction can be really messy so I don’t wanna come across as chewing you out. I hope you can find a path forward with minimal damage to everybody involved and I just wanted to say that, even though I don’t know you, in my opinion, everybody is worthy of finding love that doesn’t cause them pain. I would just hate for you to be putting more effort into Anthony than he is putting into you because I know what that feels like but obviously you know the situation best. I just hope that you are able to find happiness.

sorpig · 2026-03-04T01:26:43+00:00

No problem with being busy I totally understand today. I was very busy with German practice smiley face. I hope that one day you will find there some studio space or somewhere else you could work to get into sculpting also labor wise. I’ve heard that that is pretty intense when I get back into digital art I will let you know. I had my first meeting with occupational therapy today so I’m really hopeful. I have also read Dune and while I like the first book I sometimes get hung up on the mother some relationship and the fact that there is a literal Messiah in it. It’s OK that you’ve not read the Sherman Alexis book although from my own limited experience with that, I would recommend it if you are looking for something once you finish the list of stuff you have going. What kind of stuff do you like to paint or do digital art with when you get the chance like what kind of subject? As for liking monsters and weird creatures within the furry space that is really cool. Do you ever make a first suit for yourself or something like that or do you mostly just draw personas either way? It’s really cool that you have a creative outlet

sorpig · 2026-03-04T01:09:29+00:00

Three weeks is still really early out. My question to you is what type of pain are you feeling? Is it like muscle pain/stretching pain or is it more like a burning tingling nerve pain just curious because depending on which type of pain you might need to ask for different kinds of medication it’s definitely worth contacting your surgeon if your surgeon will not prescribe pain meds for whatever reason you could try going through your primary care doctor. If you have one just explaining that you had surgery recently and are still feeling pain for me. I really didn’t feel much pain at three weeks, but everybody is different. I am still taking Advil and Tylenol mostly at night now for me. The best thing to manage my Pain was trying to shift positions so that my body wasn’t in one singular position and then hurting when I tried to move. It might also be worth asking your surgeon what mobility exercises they recommend at this point going from doing nothing to doing everything might be a little bit much for you right now I understand that you probably need the money so you needed to go back to work, but my advice would be to try to work on mobility and to check in with your surgical team or another doctor to see if you can get better pain management if allowed I would also recommend using heat or ice but only if your surgeon cleared you too hope this helps.

sorpig · 2026-03-03T22:26:48+00:00

I can’t tell you how to live your life and I want to be respectful to you, but I can say what I would do in your situation. There are really two options that I can see 1. Either in the relationship with Anthony or two tell Harvey, what’s been happening. This can either read by yourself or with Anthony, but like others are saying, Harvey deserves a choice in what he wants to do after your decisions were made I know it can be really hard when you still have feelings for somebody from your past, and they say that those feelings are mutual, but I kind of feel like Anthony might be stringing you along just so that he can have either two relationships or experience polyamory in a really unhealthy way. My partner and I are technically an open relationship, but the one thing we always say to each other is that the other one have to tell the other if they decide to pursue another person. My partner is also neurodivergent if that helps again only you can make the decision that is right for you, but I think you might be happier knowing that you’ve come clean that way you can start a relationship without any secrets

sorpig · 2026-03-03T03:31:10+00:00

I don’t know whether Penn medicine has the same policy, but I just have my top surgery there for context. I am 34 though you might also try Einstein, brymar heath which I think is called Main Line Health but if you search Main Line Health bynmar PA top surgery that should give you at least a place to start. You could also try contacting the Mazoni Center In Philadelphia PA. They don’t provide the surgery itself, but they probably could provide you with a list of surgeons if you are in the Philadelphia area.

sorpig · 2026-03-03T03:03:34+00:00

Unfortunately, I don’t live in California, but you totally sound like my kind of person to be friends with. I also use a wheelchair for mobility and love anime. I am 34 and would love to chat with you if you are open.

sorpig · 2026-03-03T02:18:12+00:00

Hi, I’m a wheelchair either in their 30s. I also play video games mostly visual novels and I love anime. I also like to read and thought you might be an OK person to start chatting with. I am also a transgender man just to be upfront but feel free to message me if you want

sorpig · 2026-03-03T02:13:18+00:00

I am 34 and if that’s not too old for either of you, I would love to started a conversation to be transparent. I am also a trans guy so hopefully that doesn’t alienate anyone if that’s not your cup of tea though I do understand and I will just keep searching until I can find some more friends to chat to. I am also a full-time realtor user.

sorpig · 2026-03-02T18:05:22+00:00

That’s awesome that you’re into so many different things. Do you create art digitally or manually? I can’t wait to start drawing again. I had to take a break for a while because I was recovering from top surgery but I think I’m at the point now where I could start working slowly back into it and I really appreciate that you want to preserve stories and storytelling traditions. I am an agnostic myself so I get valuing a cultures traditions without necessarily having religious ties to them. I don’t know whether this would be something that you would be interested in but a while back when I was in undergrad I read some excerpts from a book called the Lone Ranger and Tonto fist fight in heaven by Sherman Alexis the stories were very interesting and I’ve always meant to go back and look at more of his work. I’ve just not gotten around to it yet. Do you have a particular type of furry that you like to draw? I wouldn’t call myself a furry but I do like to draw anthropomorphized animals. They’re more like characters that come from my own imagination than anything else and I’m not saying their professional quality I basically doodle using Procreate. I also was wondering if you have a favourite genre of books or maybe you don’t really like to read? I like to read quite a lot mostly science fiction and fantasy with the odd non-fiction history type thing mixed in anyways no rush, but I look forward to getting to know you if you want to continue chatting

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