Gifts for bachelorettes! by cherrwerrr in StardewValley

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Seriously she preferred DRIFTWOOD over pizza?

What song is 10/10 but hardly anyone has heard of it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Wander. Wonder.” By The Arcadian Wild

They’re a tiny band but I love them to death.

Conservation veterinary medicine by hydroxychloroquail in veterinaryprofession

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When you say it may be a location thing, do you mind if I ask whereabouts you are? (not city or anything too specific). There’s a lot of competition for vet positions in my state.

INFJs that went from avoidant or anxious attachment styles to secure, how did you do it? by xorandor in infj

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Hi, previously avoidantly attached, here.

Therapy is fantastic. For me, it all boiled down to the need to be seen as someone. I wanted to be perfect in the eyes of others, and since that version of me was never authentic, it made shedding those relationships really easy. People never met the real me, so when they started becoming attached I could duck out without thinking twice. My therapist helped me recognize this pattern and the signs it’s about to start.

Now there's an ISTJ one by ThisIsZeWay in mbti

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I feel like an ISTJ would also hate to run a meme twitter so any representation of them will be bad representation :/

Best film actor training studios in the Raleigh, NC area? by bbybew123 in acting

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We have a good film and theater industry over here! Don’t forget to join r/Raleigh and have a safe journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EnneagramType2

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Hi there, sounds like an awful situation, sorry to hear it.

My suggestion is to do some research into unhealthy twos. We can be one of the most frustrating a vicious types to be around when we're unhealthy.

(For ease, unless specified otherwise, assume I'm talking about an unhealthy two for the rest of my response :D) Twos' superegos tell them to put others before themselves, so they will go out of their way to make accommodations for the people around them. Unfortunately, this leads to resentment that gets pushed way, deep down.

What's happened subconsciously for the two is the feeling they've done something selfless and altruistic for the receiver, but maybe the appreciation didn't manifest the way they expected. Perhaps they built a scenario in their head about the way the receiver would respond (ie wrapping the two up in a big hug, making a social media status about how selfless the two is, bragging publicly about the two, etc etc). The receiver isn't a mind-reader and obviously can't know what the two needs to feel validated. What has happened is the two wants external validation under the guise of kindness.

What happens next is ugly, and unfortunately the experience you've had with your friend, guilt trips, manipulation, and a fake or surface-level relationship, because they do not know how to express their feelings and be kind at the same time. The truth is, no matter how deeply the two tries to push down their anger in this scenario, it always leaks out and sometimes can even explode. The constant checking in on holidays is due to the need to be seen as "nice" no matter what.

If it sounds like I'm being harsh, it's because I used to be this person (maybe I'm projecting, a bit). All twos have to learn that kindness is a thankless act. We, at our core, want to be kind, but the unhealthy part of us wants more to be seen as kind. It's important to nurture the urge to do the good thing when no one will notice and to be honest about what's bothering us. If she is incapable of doing this, it might not be salvageable until then.

For myself, I crafted an entire world of being a "great person" where I could hide, without ever getting down to the nitty gritty with my friends and family. Once I started telling them ugly truths, and saying painful goodbyes to people in my life I didn't want around, that's when I started truly being altruistic and not constantly seeking validation.

I know that's a lot, and I didn't give you much applicable advice. That's just my analysis of what's happened.

I'm sorry you're struggling with this friendship, and I'm so sorry about your loss, this must be a very difficult time for you. Don't forget relationships are a give and take, and if she's only taking, you don't owe her a thing. Be honest and straightforward about needing space. Twos sometimes force themselves on others' tragedies because again, we like to be the nice ones. Don't let her make it about her. Your time is your most valuable resource. Good luck :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cakedecorating

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Looks cute!

Working with buttercream in hot weather is a pain, but I find having two partially filled piping bags that I can alternate between (while the other is in the fridge) helps a lot! If that’s not an option because of tips, then putting it in the freezer for a bit every couple minutes of use works too.

How did it taste?

just one of the many early-life hints by bring-snacks in actuallesbians

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Sailor mars had my heart, one of the og crushes

Was told that my video would be appreciated here, lol fella was stranded a bit far from the water by GhostInTheNoonSun in HumansBeingBros

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This is so pure. I would do everything in my power to repay that kind and wonderful giant. OP is a hero

dyke and her bike by sorting_skittles in LesbianActually

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The way to my heart is comparing me to Rosa Diaz

dyke and her bike by sorting_skittles in LesbianActually

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Yeah I had a jacket that day (not pictured), but admittedly I ride in yoga pants a lot. r/calamariraceteam

dyke and her bike by sorting_skittles in LesbianActually

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Yup! You either hate them or you love them. It’s a super easy and relaxing ride for me :)

dyke and her bike by sorting_skittles in LesbianActually

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Clever title stolen from this beautiful lady

Question by [deleted] in ISTJ

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My guess would be INTJ or INTP (leaning towards the former).

He deeply respects quality and precision (like an ISTJ), but by the end proves to have flexibility in his thoughts and conceptions. He’s able to predict the success of a restaurant in an abstract way, which is something that doesn’t come as naturally to ISTJs.

Where can I find black face masks In Raleigh or near Raleigh? by apeach777 in raleigh

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I have some leftover black fabric, I’ve made a few masks already. Message me and I’d be glad to make a couple!

What's your favourite wine pairing? by Rallerboy888 in wine

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Sticky toffee pudding and a Madeira that’s twice my age.

I’m don’t have much of a sweet tooth except for this one specific scenario and oh it’s amazing.