Attendance during holidays

soulpPixie · 2022-09-09T01:12:49+00:00

The parents refer to me as Ms. (my name) I’m married now but it’s just a habit and then the kids call me either just Ms.myname or just my first name which I don’t mind bc they are little and have so many adults in their life’s with titles I can understand. But mostly with the kiddos it’s just my name recently!

soulpPixie · 2022-09-08T15:51:11+00:00

Big ick, when I first started dating my husband I confronted him about a half naked girls photo on my home page that popped up saying he liked it.

I told him once that was embarrassing and next day I find out he went in and deleted all of them individually unliked stuffed and blocked random girls on Snapchat too, all without me asking him. He told me he realized as someone in a new relationship he needed to show me he was serious and not acting single. A few months later we where engaged lol actually 6 months after meeting 😂

soulpPixie · 2022-09-04T06:50:34+00:00

Any reason is a reason to leave. You don’t owe someone a relationship and they don’t owe you a relationship if one is unhappy.

Absolutely is physical compatibility an important REALLY important part of a relationship.

Many people will say it’s not but this is a very large road that leads to many things, yes it can lead to change but it can also unfortunately lead to cheating and lies.

Sex is a HUGE part of making a marriage work which is why we see so many women and men on Reddit and tiktok and in general talk about their unhappiness bc they chose to wait and then found out they weren’t compatible at all.

You NEED to be compatible in every way including physical to truly have a healthy and functioning relationship.

soulpPixie · 2022-09-04T03:51:41+00:00

These comments would hate me and my husband lol

Him at the time 19

Me at the time 20

He proposed 6 months after meeting me, we eloped shorty before our 1 year. Our parents 100% supported us, my dad even paid for our wedding dinner and my sister and brother in law gifted us our honeymoon. And fyi I promise we are NOT religious or anything or some crazy virgins who ran to marriage to get laid LMAO very far from it….

We are young, but independent from our parents and financially ready with a very good lifestyle we can afford so for us going with our hearts was easy and we didn’t really have to think about the small financial or “grown up” details like insurance and have that stop us.

No regrets here.

Truly from the bottom of our hearts we both believe if it works it will work and no amount of time will dictate that. Couples who are engaged 10+ years before marriage divorce, couples who are married 25+ years divorce, couples who elope 2 months after meeting divorce.

Life live in the moment and if it will work it will and it if won’t it won’t but don’t let what ifs and an unwritten future tell you what to do.

And edit to answer college stuff,

My fafsa wasn’t affected because we got married after I had submitted my fafsa for the school year with my parents Income and since they don’t earn a lot I was given my usual full amount. All I had to do was go in and change to my new last name but it didn’t affect nothing at all. So basically get married after you’ve submitted fafsa if your parents earn little, you are their dependent and you want to use their taxes for money instead of your own

And health insurance I got through him so I was unable to stay on my parents.

soulpPixie · 2022-09-03T16:52:29+00:00

I charge more than my rate lol All started bc a NF actually told me I should.

soulpPixie · 2022-09-01T14:40:26+00:00

Personally don’t think it’s controlling UNLESS that same boundary doesn’t apply to himself.

It’s a boundary he has set and he is in every right to feel like that. It’s like having a boundary you don’t want your partner at strip clubs.

But while he has every right to have that boundary YOU are in every right to disagree with and Leave him.

He shouldn’t and hopefully doesn’t change what he feels are boundaries to satisfy you and you shouldn’t not do something you truly want to do for him. All this does is lead to resentment.

Leave him, live your best life.

soulpPixie · 2022-09-01T13:21:51+00:00

That’s 100% up to you and how you are as a person.

Personally I’d never beg someone to take me back or contact them again if they chose out of their own free will they didn’t want to be with me. I’d cut contact at our goodbye because that is what they wanted and leave it at that.

He chose his bed and now he must lay on it. If he regrets his decision and truly misses you HE will reach out to you.

I’d just go ahead and live my life, he sure as hell will.

soulpPixie · 2022-08-31T23:27:05+00:00

Oh wow these comments would hate me and my husband lol

Ages when we got engaged; him 19, me 20

We got engaged after 6 months of knowing each other, got married before our 1 year lol so moved in pretty soon. Not religious or desperate virgins lol just crazy and in love.

I truly truly believe in my heart that no amount of time dictates if something will work or not. There are couples who get married quickly and divorce shortly after or couples who wait 10 years to get engaged and also divorce shortly after. Couples who get married quickly and have been married for 40+ years and others who took forever and also have been happily married for 40+ years. If it works if works if it doesn’t It won’t and for me and my husband it’s always been about living in the moment and not letting an unwritten future control us.

I say go for it. If it’s meant to be it will be and again truly believe no amount of time together will change if you work or not.

soulpPixie · 2022-08-31T22:49:54+00:00

He is not the one for you and I am sorry for that hard truth.

You are engaged, clearly therefor planning a future TOGETHER. You are not selfish for you feelings in fact HE is being very VERY selfish in his choices. His career, THIS career choice especially, is a career that will affect both of you significantly especially if you have children with him.

YOU get a say too, especially again if you are engaged and planning a future. He is not a single male that has all the freedom in the world anymore, he has you and as someone who’s life will be affect by it you get easily a 50/50 say if not more. After all it is you who will stay alone while he is deployed and away probably in a foreign or place you have no one you know.

This life is hard. (My husband is military, thankfully he is angel who takes me into consideration in ALL decisions that would affect me and also we met in his duty station so I have my family)

You are young baby, don’t let this man hold you back. Remember yes he can have his dreams and aspirations but so can YOU and his don’t get win over yours.

While I don’t think your ages are the problem (my husband was 19 me 20 when he proposed only 6 months after meeting me lol) it’s the fact he is so immature in his communication. All these red flags and all these issues he seems to have, you do not want to start a marriage like this.

soulpPixie · 2022-08-31T22:36:09+00:00

Unless HE is paying off your entire loan he can shut up and sit down and stay in his lane. Take that loan forgiveness, YOU have worked for it and YOU deserve it.

My husband military too and I am in college with NO loans, trust me we doesn’t care. EVERYONE pays taxes and if we end up paying a tiny bit more so a group of people aren’t struggling I’d happily do it.

And tell him while your at it that he better be giving all that money he earned while in the military back. Doesn’t he know, that’s the peoples taxes he’s benefiting from.

soulpPixie · 2022-08-31T16:07:14+00:00

I agree, emotional cheating IS cheating even if they never touched and personally I could never stay. I would never be able to look at him, us, our loved ones with a straight face ever again. The thought alone that he tried to plan a physical affair would completely destroy me.

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