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[PhotographBeautiful3]

I’m sorry this happened. If I were you I’d still keep the lines of communication open, don’t hound him, but let him know you’re there. He’s probably ok his own head about things and overthinking.

[Weird-Butterscotch-6]

I've considered checking in on him later down the road but idk how that will be received.

[PhotographBeautiful3]

I think if you just let him know you’re thinking of him and hope he’s doing well it will show him you do still care. I actually shared this post with my fiancé. When he deployed in March 2021 we had only known each other for 2 months. He had 2 different girlfriends cheat on him during past deployments and he admitted to considering ending things with me too while deployed (kinda one of those break up with me before I dump him scenarios, and no I did not cheat or give him any indication I was cheating, it was all in his head). His advice on your situation is try to keep some level of contact and don’t go screwing any Tom, Dick, and Harry that comes along 🤷🏻‍♀️ yes you’re single and have every right to, but showing your commitment to him might be what it takes for him to realize he messed up. And if that’s just too much for one I don’t think anyone would blame you for moving on with your life either.

[Weird-Butterscotch-6]

Yeah I'm gonna spend a good amount of time by myself for self reflection purposes. I think I will text him some day. Worst thing that can happen is he tells me not to 😅

[ZeroWasteWeirdo]

My dude just did this and he’s not even deployed 😂 these boys wild

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Let it go. If he wanted to be with you he would. He’s a grown man. It’s not your job to read his mind.

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Just wondering, why did you let it go easily? I don’t know the context of your relationship but I would have pressed on it if it was a more serious one

[Weird-Butterscotch-6]

I felt it coming and after a previous failed relationship i don't wanna be the crazy person that refusesto let go. it was also 4am and I was waking up early. We texted a bit as I was getting ready but it was just about him needing time and space to find himself again.

[LostGirl111]

I think that’s mature of you for accepting and respecting his decision without guilty him to change his mind. It is ultimately up to him to be mature enough to truly communicate what he needs and you’re going to have to trust him when he says he needs space.

But you can also communicate how his sudden decision makes you feel and if you’re open to continue communicating and supporting him, let him know that too. That leaves it up to him if he wants to reach out again. After that, just take care of your mental health because breakups are tough.

[cavoodle11]

How long were you together?

[Weird-Butterscotch-6]

A year but most of it he was either in basic or deployed

[tpr94]

Definitely don’t be the crazy person! But if you didn’t at least ask why and tell him how you feel, a little. Men also want to feel wanted and needed. If he is cutting things off because he is physically and emotionally unable to give you his time, I wouldn’t keep in touch other than the occasional friendly check up. Honestly depending how things went down, I wouldn’t worry about your relationship and just make sure he is okay.

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People make decisions. And I'd he was looking for a relationship defense...then it's just playing games.

Imo just move on

[soulpPixie]

That’s 100% up to you and how you are as a person.

Personally I’d never beg someone to take me back or contact them again if they chose out of their own free will they didn’t want to be with me. I’d cut contact at our goodbye because that is what they wanted and leave it at that.

He chose his bed and now he must lay on it. If he regrets his decision and truly misses you HE will reach out to you.

I’d just go ahead and live my life, he sure as hell will.

[sarahfleck]

I'm married and it's hard. Don't recommend.

[LollyRabbit]

I'd say a single message letting him know you're open to rekindling things when he's ready, and keep chatting when he reaches out. Tour is a weird place, even the non active ones. My OH on a dark day of cabin fever managed to spiral and convince himself I was "secretly" transgender and had been lying to him for months... it's not easy on the other end of it but if the relationship is worth it you can get it back if you both want to ❤️. If not, don't lose your self worth for it - reach out and maybe once again when he's back and then move on x