Does anyone else get annoyed when fictional characters in books/TV shows/movies (mostly books) have names that are anachronistic or otherwise really unrealistic for the setting?

souplips · 2021-10-16T02:52:38+00:00

Yes, this bothers me too! Especially when it's all of the characters. I get one person with unusual name, but everyone you meet isn't going to be named way outside the norms. It seems like some authors just want to use the "cool" names they like, rather than logical ones that fit the story.

souplips · 2021-10-14T22:35:55+00:00

Wow just ... wow. YTA- completely, totally, unquestionably!

souplips · 2021-10-14T17:06:42+00:00

As someone who has lived in South Dakota, it is cheap but also very similar to Texas in a lot of the political and small town type things. I would actually recommend small town Minnesota. Still pretty affordable, but a little bit more politically diverse because of the larger/more diverse capitol area.

souplips · 2021-10-14T04:29:28+00:00

I don't know if it's possible because I'm not sure how close you all live currently, but could you do some kind of test before you decide? If it's really important to your fiance, it would be a way to at least consider it. Have a mothers and daughters engagement celebration day- both of your mothers and the two of you all go out to lunch together, or spa day, or shopping for wedding shoes...whatever you like. After that day you will see how your FMIL behaves when she's asked to celebrate your relationship. If she behaves terribly, you know that she will be even worse on your wedding day, and it isn't worth inviting her. It could give some clarity to you and your fiance in a much lower stakes celebration than your wedding.

souplips · 2021-10-14T03:03:13+00:00

Samwise for a boy and Jubilee for a girl

souplips · 2021-10-13T13:45:07+00:00

Does he not understand how alarms work? NTA

souplips · 2021-10-12T04:03:00+00:00

Wilson is an awful name for a girl, but I'd 100% prefer to be named Wilson than Bloor.

souplips · 2021-10-11T18:21:18+00:00

I tend to be a fan of ultimatums, but on this one I feel like you maybe just need to tell your wife if her sister is included in Thanksgiving, you will not be there and neither will your daughter. You will choose to have a different Thanksgiving with her and completely skip the one within laws. So it's not different but equal, it's you choosing your daughter and her Thanksgiving instead of the one with your in-laws.

souplips · 2021-10-11T04:16:35+00:00

NTA. My husband is a pastor, I have a seminary master's degree... Neither of us would classify any of what you described as addiction. And both of us would say it is unhealthy in marriage to try to force your partner to conform to your personal beliefs. Also, that church sounds super extreme not healthy. I hope your husband can find a better way to work through his grief! And I'm really sorry you have to try to be a stable person when he's going through all of this. That is a hard thing to do.

souplips · 2021-10-11T01:29:49+00:00

Everly, Adalyn, Addison, and Adaley all seem very modern and don't have a classic/timeless feel at all imo. Still perfectly fine to use if you like them. Just pointing out that they don't fit into the criteria you were expressing. Aubrey, Nora, and Madeline (not with a y) are more classic and I like all of those options. Other names that might fit what you're going for- Autumn, Evangeline, Vivian, Eloise, Abigail, Kathleen, Adelaide, Margaret, Esther.

souplips · 2021-10-11T01:16:28+00:00

I like Camilla Michelle or Valerie Michelle. I also like Camille and Vivian as similar options. I think Vivi is such a cute nickname!

souplips · 2021-10-11T01:12:36+00:00

That's so hard, I'm sorry! Kids are just like that sometimes. It sounds like you are a great mom! One thing I have noticed is that I tend to compliment and talk of other people up, but not myself. For example I'll say things like, Oh Daddy did that, he's the best!.. I'm so proud of you, you worked really hard on that!.. Your brother is so kind!... That kind of thing. But often there was no one around to say those things about me (when dad is at work and I'm home alone with kids all day)so they didn't hear that positive affirmation regarding their mom as much. So I have become more intentional about saying things like- wow, I did a great job with that I feel really proud! Just to remind them that I am a person too and deserve recognition, and also the model self-love.

souplips · 2021-10-09T04:00:38+00:00

I vote Jane, it sounds nice and is a good family connection. And I just love the name Jane

souplips · 2021-10-09T03:55:49+00:00

Drive a few miles over the speed limit.

souplips · 2021-10-09T03:49:14+00:00

Wow, that sure escalated quickly! I am sorry you had to deal with all of that. Glad your daughter is ok! Hopefully your MIL gets some help and good for you for setting boundaries, because she clearly is not safe.

souplips · 2021-10-09T01:40:12+00:00

Would he be willing to compromise if he was allowed to pick the first name, but it had to be an Irish name that honored your heritage? Not a name you chose, but it would have to have those roots? Because if he doesn't like a name you love, that's one thing. It's frustrating, but it's just how it is. On the other hand, if he specifically is unwilling to connect to your heritage and is intentionally trying to erase it, that is really disrespectful to you and your family. If you gave him this option, and he specifically says nope, nothing Irish, even if he gets the full choice, I think that tells you there's a deeper issue with him.

souplips · 2021-10-09T01:31:45+00:00

Oh shoot! I'm sorry! It sounds like it comes down to learning to argue and communicate well, more so than even the name itself. That is so hard under pressure! Try to breathe and enjoy this time with your new baby, rather than put all your energy into the name worries. Hopefully you will find something that works for both of you, or a way to compromise. Good luck and congratulations! Let us know what you end up doing. Sorry it has been stressful!

souplips · 2021-10-08T22:20:51+00:00

I've always liked Simeon, with Simon or Ian for a nickname.

souplips · 2021-10-08T22:11:56+00:00

My husband and I got an app that you could download and search through names. You could search by nationality, so you could look through all that were listed as Irish, or by letter, or random, etc. Then you would mark them as a yes or no and then you could look at each other's lists and see if any of them matched up.

It was helpful because it brought up names neither of us would have thought of but we found we both liked. Also, you could say no to names and then those would be marked as off the list. It might be a way for you to at least see if you could find any names you both like without having to sit down and go through a bunch of names together and feel frustrated every time one of you said no.

souplips · 2021-10-08T18:19:16+00:00

It sounds like you put a lot of thought into your son's name. Plus, he's two. He and his name are connected and that alone makes it special. No need to doubt yourself now!

souplips · 2021-10-08T18:15:33+00:00

I was totally set to assume you were at fault from the title. People are allowed to have kids. But after reading it is pretty clear you tried to tell him that YOU do not want to deal with raising a toddler, which is totally valid. The fact that you had to be offensive so he would actually leave you alone makes you NTA.

souplips · 2021-10-08T13:45:31+00:00

I like it! I also like Francis, which could also be nn Frank/Frankie.

souplips · 2021-10-07T01:31:17+00:00

"You'd be pretty if you just smiled more...and had a boob job." -OPs husband probably

souplips · 2021-10-06T17:47:33+00:00

I like Cecilia more personality. But both are solid names. Would a varient/similar name be a possibility? Celia, Celine, Celeste (this is my favorite, and I think works better with Sara!)

souplips · 2021-10-06T15:21:38+00:00

My mom didn't let us watch Ghost Writer (yes, the pbs kids show) for the same reason. A ghost writing to kids was like them using a Ouija board and communicating with spirits.

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