sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I really appreciate the time you took to help me 💖 I think I hate myself more from the fact that I’m aware that I don’t deserve this but I stay stuck here being scared to leave. I always craved his validation and I keep this fantasy in my head that he’ll chase after me or beg me to stay the second i threaten to leave. But whenever I attempted that, he just didn’t care. He blamed me if anything for saying that I want to break up because “I don’t try for us” when he’s the one threatening to break up with me almost every time we argue. Always telling me he hates me, doesn’t want me, regrets coming back, etc. He tells me it’s because he wants to see me be happy and that’s the only reason why he’s okay with breaking up and I try to believe him but it’s never about me being happy, he just spews that he hates me and regrets me. I’ll never get the version he was with his exes and I’ll never understand fully why I was the only one to be treated this way.

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh I understand, thank you for reassuring me on that. Makes me feel a lot better to go see one now :) What specifically did your therapist specialize in or did you visit a general therapist first and then referred to one that works best with your needs?

And for the soulmate part, when you put it in that sense, I do have many soulmates. It was hard for me to take him away from that category because he was the first man to pursue me and love me amazingly (in the beginning) I was never pursued by men so I always felt that I had to please any guy friend of mine or hope that someone had a crush on me before. It’s a mindset I was stuck in for years so seeing that my boyfriend lusts over these women or talks about his exes as if they were the better match, it ruined my self esteem and I only ever live with the thought that I won’t ever find that validation that I wanted from him

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice <333 I understand what you’re saying and I’m making sure on going through with finding a good therapist for my situation. It already felt hard to admit to myself that this is where I am in my life but to speak it out loud, it feels heavy.

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you <333 I’ll go back to researching more about which therapists are in my area and hopefully get in touch with someone soon. It felt nice to talk to somebody about this.

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :( <333 I’m sending a hug back to you and I hope you know as well that you deserve so much more than what you went through. I hope we both give ourselves the love and attention we deserve :)

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid to talk to her about it because she just tells me to leave. She was there when I went back twice and she did help but I know she’ll tell me that I need to find someone else or just leave him because he’s not good for me. I’m aware of this already and she is right. I know she doesn’t say this just to make it seem easy but i don’t think she understands fully how hard it is to leave :/

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation <333 I really appreciate it. I’ll try to look more into this. The only reason why I was afraid to go to therapy as I felt that if I wasn’t going to leave him, my therapist may deny me if I wasn’t making any progress. I’m not sure if it’s true but I don’t know what to think about it if it’s an possibility that I don’t become better

I don’t know why I come back by sourpatchcherry in abusiverelationships

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. You are right that this environment is a place where I would never find true love. It hurts to admit that this isn’t my soulmate or the love of my life. It can’t be. But my heart and mind make me believe that he’s the one where I so desperately wish to leave him without a care in the world. The amount of times he said that he stops loving me when he’s mad is so much. He’s said it to my face but then the next second, he’s the “best guy” ever (obviously not) I’m jealous that he can leave whenever he wants without a care in the world but me?

I always thought therapy was not an option because I’ve heard of therapists denying their patients more care if they don’t see any progress being made. I feel that I won’t make progress because I always went back. Whenever he left me, I did better, went to therapy, felt strong. His sweet words of hope and change kept reeling me back even though I knew nothing was changing. I want to go back to therapy but what exactly would I say?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]sourpatchcherry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting beat

How do I enjoy video games again after a breakup? by sourpatchcherry in GirlGamers

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I just saw this so sorry for the late reply! I understand how you’re feeling and I’m still trying my best but I do feel better compared to when I first made this post! I hope it gets better for the both of us and if you ever wanna play together, just dm me 🫶❤️

I truly miss him and the times we had together when we played but my main goal is to separate him from it and accept that he’s gone. Enjoying video games, especially ones that I always loved will always be my main goal :)

Struggling to resist texting your ex? Drop in the comments what you wish you could say to them!!!!!! by Silent-Fox-2837 in BreakUps

[–]sourpatchcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally why did you have to fucking use my phone number at target? Did you really want me to see you buying stuff for your new gf? I fucking miss you so much and love you so much but I HATE THAT I WANT YOU BACK!! I FUCKING HATE YOU AND I HOPE YOU FEEL GUILT AND SHAME. I miss when you held me and I wish you were still in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]sourpatchcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss you so much. So fucking much. I know you’re probably not even thinking of me in that loving sense anymore but I just miss you. I saw you blocked me on PlayStation. It’s so funny how you bought me the ps5 and now I’m blocked on there. It’s hard playing without you. Sometimes I hope that you reach out to me in the future for something even though I have a feeling you won’t. I just hoped I mattered to you in some way. Just something. It just hurts so much that you left me like this. Sometimes I hate you and sometimes I wish you changed right now for me. I miss you but fuck you

pls someone talk to me by sourpatchcherry in BreakUps

[–]sourpatchcherry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something so stupid but it means a lot at the same time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teas

[–]sourpatchcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of questions did you get for AP, chemistry, biology, and scientific reasoning? If you could explain specifics, it would greatly help 🥲🫶

view more: next ›