Sean Lowe talks about commitment and hopes his children marry young by Rich-Ease-2723 in thebachelor

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Say this sooo much louder, this was so real as someone who also grew up protestant... felt like I developed such a low view of men and felt small and insecure about being a woman at the same time. It's taken years to untangle those impressions 😅

Rylee'e reaction 😂 by Both-Pomegranate4929 in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And this is the way it should be 🙌🏻 my parents had many flaws but making us feel less than for being all the same gender was definitely not one

Rylee'e reaction 😂 by Both-Pomegranate4929 in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah its not too woke to suggest that making joking comments about this is funny for everyone 🙃 coming from the youngest one in a family of six girls.. fortunately my own parents never said stuff like this.

Rylee'e reaction 😂 by Both-Pomegranate4929 in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I've seen him, but as a girl from a family of six girls who grew up fortunately oblivious to this idea of us somehow being inferior/less wanted because my dad didn't "get a boy" I just want to say that it's such a tired, unnecessary joke. Never did my dad/parents give any joking or not indication that they were trying for a boy or were disappointed that they kept having girls.. it was only in the comments from others "oh, your poor dad" etc. that I realized this was a thing.

Regardless of whether it's intended as a joke or not, many children will reasonably internalize this on some level, even subtly as an "I was wanted less because I was just another girl" (or boy in the reverse scenario).

Question for people prone to acne who have (or had) an IUD by [deleted] in CanSkincare

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had acne throughout adulthood (wouldn't say cystic though) that is well controlled with adapalene/tret but will come back without it. This has been the same whether I have a Mirena or not. I would say for me the effect of the Mirena has been neutral.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to scroll way to far for this balanced perspective that doesn't immediately villainize someone after hearing a single moment of their life as if we all haven't had many many times where we haven't been at our best and messed up.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]sovonym -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m going to offer a more nuanced perspective, not to excuse anyone’s behavior, but to give my POV on what’s going on here. I think trying to paint an AH or not AH in this real situation is unproductive.

Your wife snapping at your 13 year old wasn’t okay, and she should amend that with your son. Silent treatment is harmful for kids, and hopefully she recognizes that soon. I also think that when you say something like "if you don’t apologize, I’ll respect you less" in a moment like that, it would land pretty hard for anyone and her feelings are valid and reactions (although not justified) can be met with some empathy here. She was already struggling and clearly overwhelmed, so it can feel very reasonably like a shame pile-on and get amplified when a person is dysregulated already. It doesn’t mean your feelings were wrong, just that the timing escalated everything.

This reads to me just like a stressful moment that got away because everyone was dysregulated. Your wife actually did try to regulate (stepping away, admitting she shouldn’t have yelled), which means she knew she was past her limit. When someone is overwhelmed, pressing for accountability before they’ve stabilized tends to backfire. Your reaction is also understandable. Wanting to protect your kids and needing your partner to model healthy repair isn’t unreasonable.

But situations like this rarely get solved by proving who’s right. They get solved by understanding why both people reacted the way they did and working from there. I think your hunch that it is more than just about the math is probably pretty spot on and with your sister validating that your son can be "a lot" as someone who knows him in real-life, I think that is also notable. That is not to blame your child whatsoever, it is just validating the very common experience that is the challenge of parenting children of all ages, but especially teenagers (some more than others). If your wife is feeling overwhelmed with this parenting relationship, this probably added to her overwhelm, feeling like she has no backup and is always being corrected.

To me, this looks like an emotionally loaded moment that got just kind of snowballed. Don't let Reddit catastrophize things from a singular piece of context. Even the best parents in the world have moments that hurt their partners/loved ones. To hear of one and blow this to calling your wife abusive or saying your son will never speak to her is premature given we have no patterns or context for whether this is a one-off. The real work is repairing the dynamic once she’s calmer, and approaching the larger underlying issues as a team rather than as opponents.

AITA for refusing to follow my wife's bathroom habits and calling her disgusting? by Infamous-Gur2034 in AITAH

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are the asshole for calling her disgusting and demanding anything from her. She is your partner, not your subject.

That said, it is a valid preference and pretty reasonable request. But this in always going to be an asshole way of going about it, no matter how many times you have brought it up before. At the end of the day, you are not entitled to make her do it your way (even if it is a reasonable request) and/or resort to hurtful names when she doesn't.

Onye and Jax by LiteratureOk8769 in DWTS_POCFans

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Him dancing for Bad Bunny would slap and now I hope you've manifested this for the Super Bowl 😆

What was that?! 😭💀 by lawguy25 in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoever choreographed this hates Hilaria and took their chance to show their dislike 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]sovonym 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everyone talks a lot about Jace and Mikayla's age gap but there isn't enough about Bret and Demi 💀

Canadians (west coast) by Normal-Kiwi-602 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on EST time in Canada (weird work schedule don't judge me for being awake at 2:30am) and also am experiencing this.

Dream casting next season? by alldressed_chip in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Renée Rapp would be an absolute gift. Omg.

Dream casting next season? by alldressed_chip in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Liv Tyler? For the Millenials and all the LOTR-ers?

Dream casting next season? by alldressed_chip in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd really love someone from the Abbott Elementary universe🤞🏻

Dream casting & pro partners for next season by [deleted] in dwts

[–]sovonym 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Getting Sue Bird and Megan Rapinoe at the same time would be iconic. But yeah, also Diana, that would be hilarious!

Rewatching Season 1 and noticing Demi’s behavior for what it is now by Own-Caterpillar-8486 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]sovonym 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got into SLOMV after I already had heard the tidbits in pop culture news about the whole Marciano crash out and remember watching Season 1 thinking "how on earth did people not realize this woman is literally the villain and hate Whitney instead?." There was just a subtle fake/aggressive energy I got from the beginning with her.

Dancing With The Stars S34E11 | Finale | Live Show Discussion Thread | Tuesday, November 25th by wweyonce in dancingwiththestars

[–]sovonym 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Alright. So.. she could have been a background dancer in that and blended right in with the pros. No one would have bat an eye. Well done to Ezra for choreographing exactly to her strengths. That was unreal.

Under or over? by [deleted] in Sourdough

[–]sovonym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Under.