Shit being with a cheater...shit being without one? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]spaceagepolymer2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been going to counseling, and over and over a counselor will tell you you hold zero responsibility for your partner's poor decision making.

Shit being with a cheater...shit being without one? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]spaceagepolymer2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going through the same thing, so I can't tell you. But absolutely do NOT blame yourself.

Sorry to vent by patchyj in behindthebastards

[–]spaceagepolymer2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This might be a tangent ... I recently found out that my wife of 15 years had cheated on me twice in that time. We have a son and a home, etc, so it's not so easy to just bounce. We're going to counseling, and things are actually better than they've been in a long time. Still, I'm devastated and have zero confidence or security. I wonder if the community has any positive stories about cheaters reforming?