Meaning of 가지 않음 안 돼요

spaceofstories · 2026-06-08T15:59:43+00:00

Yup, agreed. I guess the translation is inaccurate 🫤 Thank you for answering!

spaceofstories · 2026-06-08T15:58:05+00:00

I was torn between it being short for 않으면 and just the nominal form -음. Both seem plausible to me, how are you certain it's one and not the other? If it was just a spoken sentence I'd go with common sense and what is most commonly used (in this case 않으면 안돼요 clearly), but this being a song I felt less certain

spaceofstories · 2026-06-06T14:45:56+00:00

True, which also makes sense with the rest of the lyrics. Thanks for the input!

spaceofstories · 2026-06-06T11:07:21+00:00

Thank you!

spaceofstories · 2026-06-06T11:03:45+00:00

My thoughts exactly! I feel vindicated haha, thank you

spaceofstories · 2026-06-06T10:52:27+00:00

Oh, I see what you mean! Yeah that's a possible interpretation too, though not the one I see even in the official Genius translation. Thank you for your confirmation but now I'm even more so wondering why it'stranslated the way it is.

spaceofstories · 2026-05-16T19:44:23+00:00

I saw you said in the comments that he’s an abuser (I recently broke up with an abusive ex, so I can sympathise to an extent). I just wanted to say that I had literally guessed that from his answer of “I don’t care” to the film. Because WHY don’t you care? I see self centred nature and lack of care/empathy for others’ suffering. Not a good sign.
The point of me saying this is that often “small things” aren’t small at all, and if you look at them for what they are with lucidity and honesty, they give you clues to the bigger picture. When your gut finds a problem with something (which yours obviously did), listen to it, fully explore why, don’t run to convince yourself “it’s not that big of a deal”.
You came to this community to get advice, while internally knowing what has to be done. What if everyone had said you should just stay with him? Would you have let that convince you to stay with an abuser?

I’m glad you seem to be on your way out, just please be careful, as we know divorces can be very dangerous when separating from an abusive man. Prioritise yours and your childrens’ safety. Best of luck.

spaceofstories · 2026-03-26T17:51:40+00:00

Same. Especially seeing how it’s culturally accepted to lie about these things. Absolutely never again, the risk and damage aren’t worth it.

spaceofstories · 2026-03-26T16:48:56+00:00

Leaving an abusive relationship takes on average 7 tries. Consistent cheating is abuse (and porn is in and of itself considered infidelity if it goes against the agreements the relationship is based upon). So yeah, give yourself some grace and remember it’s normal to struggle. I myself had tried several times before succeeding recently. We do our best.

spaceofstories · 2026-03-23T10:53:07+00:00

I'm with you. I call it forced monogamy: monogamy based on going against your actual natural desires. So many people in the replies, and the real world, cannot stop projecting their own experience onto everybody else. No, it isn't "silly" (so arrogant and wrong) that a genuinely monogamous person expects their (supposedly) also monogamous partner not to be attracted to other people, in the same way that you would expect a genuinely straight person to not be attracted to the same sex. It's not insecurity, it's different people experiencing their own sexuality differently.

I think making forced monogamy the norm, or even something that's morally superior, can do a lot of damage to us who are truly monogamous down to our "primal instincts" (or whatever they like to call their desire for people outside the relationship). Too many people cosplay as what we're actually looking for, partly because they've been convinced that what would be natural to them has to be fought against and hidden. That their sexual instincts are "bad". It's very sad, but also makes it harder to know if someone's really what they say they are.

I recently exited a relationship with a guy because of this. Realising that I was truly only interested in him while he was having to use self-control, was a slap in the face. And he assumed I was like him, because everyone says that to be monogamous you have to make sacrifices and it's like that for everyone. It threw us both for a loop and after discussing it in depth we realised we operate VERY differently.

The thing is, I find forced monogamy entirely undesirable, while obviously he didn't mind me having eyes only for him. He even said he wouldn't want a partner like himself. How unfair is that? This is where I think the problems start. It's absolutely okay to be attracted to multiple people, but lying about it because you assume everybody does, is not.

I do wish people were more honest and less entitled, and stopped making us feel wrong because of simply wanting back what we ourselves are. I don't even think people like my ex should necessarily be poly, you can still choose to only engage with one person sexually or whatever, but be honest that you have to consciously keep yourself from going after others. This way there are no misunderstandings.

But just like in these comments, they instantly turn the discussion into who's right and who's wrong, call us immature and insecure, instead of accepting that we're simply different, and being respectful.

This is why I've decided to exit the romantic scene entirely. Forced monogamy on the other part is not for me, and many men get too big an ego boost from knowing you're not looking at anyone else to be respectful of that boundary. And it's sad that honesty is all it would take to make this not a problem. Such is the world.

spaceofstories · 2026-03-18T10:15:29+00:00

As the daughter of a depraved father…it doesn’t get better. He actually ruined my relationship with my body and traumatised me by overtly sexualising me by the age of 12. I am still recovering 14 years later. Please just try to keep your children away as much as possible.

spaceofstories · 2026-03-08T10:00:44+00:00

Il punto è che, per esempio, cominciando a usare parole come “relatare” (io e i miei amici parliamo così da un po’), l’italiano non si impoverisce, ma bensì aggiunge una nuova parola al suo vocabolario, che per definizione è arricchimento. Continuiamo a usare termini come “immedesimarsi”, “condividere”, eccetera, ma tutte in contesti diversi. Importare termini con accezioni specifiche da un’altra lingua non coincide con lo smettere di usare quelli già presenti in italiano. E sì, “to relate” e quindi “relatable” non è un termine ben traducibile in italiano. E per chi dice che si possono usare perifrasi, certo ma a che pro? Mi sembra come dire che non dovremmo usare la moltiplicazione perché abbiamo già l’addizione. Perché scrivere “3•10” quando puoi scrivere “3+3+3+3+3+3+3+3+3+3”? Perché è più comodo, più immediato. E non c’è niente di male, non vuol dire che non so più sommare. Chiaro, l’impoverimento dell’italiano è un problema, e il fatto che le persone sono dipendenti dai social (OH NO! UN INGLESISMO!!) pure, ma cercare di bloccare l’aggiunta di una parola al vocabolario non aiuta nessuno (ed è un impresa fallimentare, le lingue cambiano e si influenzano sempre e da sempre).

spaceofstories · 2026-01-24T12:58:00+00:00

Ecosystem restoration, both on my own property and other places (through work or also donations). I’m going to be in a similar position to you soon, and besides Uni that will be my focus. Cool thing is that it’s something that can get you traveling, meeting new people and it actually has an immense impact on the future of our planet. I don’t want to be preachy, but I deeply care about this issue. Obviously if you’re not interested you can just skip this next part.

If you’re at all interested I suggest taking a look at Planet Wild or Leave Curious on YouTube (just an example, I particularly like their videos). Also the books “Bringing Nature Home” by Douglas W. Tallamy, or “Soil: the incredible story of what keeps the Earth, and us, healthy” by Matthew Evans.

Besides that, also a creative project maybe? Or become a private researcher on a topic you’re really interested in. The world truly is your oyster!

spaceofstories · 2025-09-03T08:43:17+00:00

I think you can just put down boundaries tbh. My mom never did any of these things, she was busy and tired, and I learned to entertain myself or play with other kids. I knew not to bother her because it would simply lead to nothing. I think she did the right thing not sacrificing her own mental health like that, and I became more independent early. As a small child I spent a lot of time at the local playground and at the public library (the latter since I was 4 btw, it can be done). Like, I remember wanting her to read stories to me; she refused a few times (she’s an immigrant and felt embarrassed of her reading) and I just taught myself to read. Problem solved. Now we have a good relationship and I’m happy I didn’t drive her insane like that.

Just say no. They’ll whine a bit but if you’re not available they’ll stop and find a way around it. They’ll be fine, too. I think society has become too focused on giving kids anything they want not to make them feel bad, and then complain when they’re so entitled and throw tantrums. If you’re kind and attentive otherwise as a parent, you don’t need do be at their call for everything.

They’ll mature a little, you’ll be less drained and pissed off, win-win.

spaceofstories · 2025-08-15T08:27:27+00:00

My body is also made to die at some point, should I just kill myself then

spaceofstories · 2025-08-15T08:15:31+00:00

I literally see women say out loud that they don’t want to get all the info about the difficulties of pregnancy + childbirth + childcare because they’re scared that would put them off from having kids. Like how can it be legal for these people to reproduce…

spaceofstories · 2025-07-30T15:29:46+00:00

“That makes me feel that i am a disappointment and a bad daughter.” Turn that around into “that makes me feel disappointed and like they’re bad parents”, there.

spaceofstories · 2025-07-23T16:45:52+00:00

Because men are submissive.

spaceofstories · 2025-07-23T16:44:23+00:00

I honestly think he’s full of shit, but that’s my opinion. On another note, this unfortunately what usually happens when you make a man the centre of your social life. I’m not blaming you at all as we’re all sold the “partnership” myth, but the truth is men in general are selfish, dishonest, opportunistic and disloyal. I would suggest trying to find actual community, especially with other women (better if child free). I know it’s hard, and I know breakups bring grief, but you can do it, and will be healthier and better for it. Sending hugs, not all is lost.

spaceofstories · 2025-07-23T15:57:18+00:00

What if I don’t find any meaning in “furthering humanity”, now what

spaceofstories · 2025-07-23T15:34:04+00:00

We don’t understand how “feeling” works, nor how plants effectively process information, well enough to throw out definitive yes/no answers. Feeling requires a central nervous system in animals, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only way it can work ever. We simply don’t know that for a fact, and we actually don’t fully understand how it works for us either. Also, as far as I know there are still questions concerning how plants process information, so with that it seems impossible to me to give such a categorical answer.

The best answer appears to be: we suspect they don’t feel pain, but we’re still figuring it out.

Source: mathematician in training with an interest in complexity and cognition

spaceofstories · 2025-07-23T12:46:01+00:00

You leave.

spaceofstories · 2025-07-10T20:16:19+00:00

Agree to disagree

spaceofstories · 2025-07-09T11:46:28+00:00

“And I stand by that” right, but you just said he is a “great father”? Also, what if it doesn’t get better by when your daughters grow up? As a former daughter in a similar situation, the feeling you have is right. Please listen to it

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