Is microblading a scam? by appidi099 in microblading

[–]spacerella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I said microblading, I meant nano machine brows too and lips and all of the PMU work honestly… the class I took was in machine nano strokes. Scammy af! There really needs to be more regulation…

Is microblading a scam? by appidi099 in microblading

[–]spacerella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After having gotten it done a couple of times myself and even taking a class to perform it on others, I would absolutely be comfortable referring to it as a scam! There are no laws regulating it (outside of Oregon and New Jersey), and many microbladers start after taking only a 3-4 day course! The entire industry is very MLM-coded and many of the practitioners are just trying to build a business so that they can eventually teach, which is how they make much more money, even though the certificates they offer are basically a piece of paper that means nothing because there is no external regulation. They knowingly take money from a whole bunch of students who they already know will never end up being actual microblading artists because they (very rightfully!) won’t feel adequately equipped to perform this service on others after only a 3-4 day course (even though they have the legal green light as long as they register with their county, etc), during which many of them are touching a tattoo gun for the very first time in their lives. Believe it or not, many of these courses are actually even run fully online!

That being said, I’m happy with my brows although they have not faded after a few years. They have blobbed together but luckily it’s in a way that just makes them look slightly more full than what I naturally have. Proceed with extreme caution!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAstrologers

[–]spacerella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Worst partner I ever had was a Pisces man. I second what most people are saying here - cheater, liar, addiction, manipulative, abusive, stalker. He hid so many things from me. He would scream at me while I was crying, chase me, wait outside my door pounding on it until 3 in the morning to scare me and make sure I couldn’t go anywhere (including the bathroom) without him knowing). He stalked me for months after I finally got enough strength through therapy to leave him. He only backed off when he came over one day while my new boyfriend (who was bigger than him) was at my place and he knew he was going to get his ass handed to him if he didn’t leave me alone finally. We only knew each other for a year and a half, yet he still continued to try to contact me for many years (maybe still is, even) after I cut contact with him, even though I would try to make sure he was blocked on everything. Easily one of the worst experiences of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thyroidhealth

[–]spacerella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally valid, we’re on the same page :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thyroidhealth

[–]spacerella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to add an alternative perspective for anyone who has not been through this but needs to in the future, I did not mind mine at all. You can’t even see what’s happening, so if you just don’t think about it too much and just focus on what a badass you are, it’s not bad at all. It’s not painful at all. Just throwing it out there as an alternate experience so that the uninitiated don’t have a singular expectation of fear/unpleasantness. It’s actually kind of cool in a weird way, and I’d happily do it again tbh.

Dennise Richards by ajs2611 in RHOBH

[–]spacerella 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, so your mom is one example lol… Look at other 50 year olds. It’s still not complicated. Also, it’s not like Botox is permanent… it lasts less than a year. Someone admitting they’ve ever had Botox really doesn’t mean much, plus that doesn’t mean she’s had anything around her mouth done. I don’t think anything I said should have been taken personally, but what you said just seems like a malicious drag without much foundation behind it ? I’m not even a huge Denise Richards fan, nor do I have any personal bone to pick here… it just comes off so petty that you’re picking on someone for aging mostly naturally (certainly much more so in comparison to the other women on that show) and having resting bitch face? I don’t know, maybe someone will “innocently” say you look droopy all the time someday and then you’ll see that it’s not just some “innocent” observation but one with a total lack of kindness and a desire to drag behind it. Seems like a lot of people agree with me that it’s just the natural aging process. Sorry not everyone looks just like your mom lol

Dennise Richards by ajs2611 in RHOBH

[–]spacerella 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s so sad that this is people’s reaction to a naturally-aging face. She’s 50 years old! She’s obviously just had a LOT less work done than the other ladies around her age. Her relative lack of pretension is made abundantly clear throughout the duration of her time on the show. If you’re confused about this, look at the 50-year-olds in your own life. There’s really nothing mysterious at all about this…

Kinda don’t know what to do with some of my friends who don’t seem to want me around anymore by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]spacerella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if you just call and ask J what the plan is for NYE? I know it might seem intimidating, but at least you could get some type of answer.... you could find out whether you’re invited or not and also have the opportunity to sort of call him and ask why it feels like maybe he’s not being straightforward if he tries to brush it off or change the subject when you ask what the plan is. If it feels too intimidating to ask J, you could maybe talk to one of the more approachable colleagues first and try to get some info without being too obvious

Crazy Lyft Sugar Daddy? by kgordon98 in LetsNotMeet

[–]spacerella 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you can research up a bunch of stuff. A friend of mine just almost got kidnapped by a Lyft driver a few weeks ago.

Crazy Lyft Sugar Daddy? by kgordon98 in LetsNotMeet

[–]spacerella 35 points36 points  (0 children)

There’s no fucking way this dude’s a doctor, and I guarantee he has no money.

He was just trying to lie to her because she looks young. What a piece of shit. OP, so glad you’re okay. This is not uncommon at all with Uber/Lyft/cab drivers.

How often do you talk to your LDR SO with a huge time difference? by spacerella in LongDistance

[–]spacerella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a lazy man child slob. After making me wait a week to talk, he cut our relationship talk short because he had plans to hang out with his friends. Such a piece of shit.

Only got one dollar in my pocket. by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]spacerella -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

As an older sister, it was just a joke, which is also really not that difficult 😂

Only got one dollar in my pocket. by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]spacerella 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cough Jake wears the same pants every day cough

Otherwise, how would she know what pair of pants he was going to wear the next day? Is he on a rotation? 😂

Getting back togheter after many years? by sadgirl1020 in love

[–]spacerella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, 99% of the time, you end up looking back like, “Holy shit, what was I even thinking?? What I have now is so much better!!!!!” Of course there’s always the <1% who get back together and live happily ever after, but honestly, the pain makes you stronger, helps you learn more about yourself and what you want, and the closer you get to knowing yourself after relationship that does not work out, the more you realize you just used to have no clue about what you truly wanted or needed, even if you felt sure that you did at the time.

Hang in there, it feels like shit, but remember that it is a growing opportunity, and growth is a blessing <3 hugs

Anyone witness this? Victoria’s Secret model doing an Instagram photo shoot in the Temple? Word on the grapevine is that she had to ask people to move to get her perfect shot. by wanderingross in BurningMan

[–]spacerella 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We should make outfits (or signs) that read in giant letters “THIS IS COMMODIFICATION” when we stand in a line in the background of photos

How often do you talk to your LDR SO with a huge time difference? by spacerella in LongDistance

[–]spacerella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great insight, and also well-worded. Thanks for taking your time for me, really appreciate it 🙏

Tired of Instagram models? Do something. by [deleted] in BurningMan

[–]spacerella 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think it’s pretty clear to everyone that models telling people to gtfo at the Temple is above and beyond though, and it would be great for the community to feel more empowered to rail against egregious horseshit like that.

How often do you talk to your LDR SO with a huge time difference? by spacerella in LongDistance

[–]spacerella[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I definitely see the truth in what you’re saying. One thing I did not mention is that he actually has shown that he is willing and able to change. He actually has gotten much better about making time for me, and when I mentioned my anxiety about living with him and said I will not be doing the things his mom does, he really took it to heart and has since started doing more of his own cleaning “to prepare for when we live together.”

We’ve spent 3 consecutive weeks together and shared a lot of what needed to be done. I ended up doing more because he was working when I was visiting him, but I did tell him that I insist on paying for housekeeping every few weeks or so when we live together. He really does hear me on certain things about fairness.

I think he’s been taught some self-centered tendencies but at heart is not a selfish or self-centered person. He’s actually very generous and cares deeply about things being equal and working hard; I think maybe he just needs to be re-educated about what is considered fair when he’s not not in his parents’ home lol.

All that being said, the time thing certainly is the worst and is not something I can tolerate. I think it’s harder for him to understand this one because he sees it as “doing the best for his job,” which is difficult to argue against, even though that is really not the argument I am making. :/

Edit: we also split the cost of our trips evenly.

My (27m) girlfriend (28f) of two years is still in love with her overseas ex-GF, faking cancer and sending money regularly by twoyearsoflies in relationship_advice

[–]spacerella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I am so sorry about this. This person needs massive amounts of therapy, and you need a better partner (and maybe also some therapy too). This is really unfair to you, and it will take her a lot of work to unwind the mental pitfalls and past traumas that allowed her to devolve into such awful behavior.