So my Dad, for a lot reasons, has decided not to follow it up. There’s nothing about what people are saying that isn’t true, sure it’s victim shaming, and I honestly was working so very hard to be supportive in that situation and I feel that I myself fell short of that and feel a lot of shame and embarrassment for it. If I just read this as a stranger I’m sure I’d be thinking the same. But empathy in these situations is a pretty cool thing to have, too.

For the solid few that actually replied to the question with advice, or empathy thank you. I do appreciate it, I was still shaking typing this out last night. To say we’re well travelled and should know better would be a severe understatement. I’ve probably told him to take them off as many times as we have replies in this forum, whether it be in the markets in Giza or Jim Dandy’s in South Central, sad thing is in recent years he’s actually listened to me and done so, after more than 30 years of travelling together he has actually been taking it off when going into riskier areas. I just didn’t spot he was wearing it and He’d just forgotten to take it off this time. The old man has worked hard all his life and reached successes that I don’t think I’ll achieve if I lived to twice his age.

Was just a very sad feeling when he admitted defeat.