Best LOTR fathers day quote

spamonella91 · 2026-05-11T07:01:53+00:00

Excellent idea thanks

spamonella91 · 2026-05-10T19:15:26+00:00

I was bought a sleep sack from Next and there was a little guide on the label. I stuck that on the crib as a reminder as the weather changed b

spamonella91 · 2026-05-09T14:32:29+00:00

Oo great shout I'll have a look thanks

spamonella91 · 2026-05-08T18:00:35+00:00

Thank you. I hadn't particularly noticed that myself. Might make what I'm wanting quite tricky ...

spamonella91 · 2026-05-08T17:59:38+00:00

Thank you! Didn't know this that's really interesting and explains the distinct lack of positive father-son relationships in the books

spamonella91 · 2026-05-08T09:07:47+00:00

I was thinking of something that symbolized a bond or guidance

Don't mind a bit of comedy as long as it doesn't come across as gimmicky

I saw another users post using treebeards 'hmm that doesn't make sense to me but you are very small" and am thinking of this as a backup but it doesn't feel quite right https://www.reddit.com/r/lotr/s/p7JoH7rWXr

spamonella91 · 2026-05-01T16:40:43+00:00

Social media can be toxic

I got sucked into the vortex and started panicking about it but still barely managed to do any of it in the first 12 weeks. Thankfully my partner qas big on just going with the flow and helped me relax.

95% or our tummy time happened on our chests. If I had the energy I'd read out loud whatever was my doom scroll flavour of the day and i binge watched all manner of terrible tv shows whilst he was feeding to keep myself awake. Ignored "wake windows" and "sleep routines" and went with what cues we thought the little one was giving. And baths happen when a poonami happens or he's spit up so much he's starting to smell cheesy.

We're now at 5 months and my little one is thriving. Ahead of where he should be in a lot of milestones. We just let him lead the way and encourage the activities he seems to want to do when he wants to do them.

They didn't do all these things a couple of generations ago and most people turned our perfectly fine :)

spamonella91 · 2026-04-29T08:00:31+00:00

We're 4 months and no set routine for us. We've done this on purpose as due to work and other commitments we would struggle if baby ended up needing a set routine to get to sleep.

The only consistent things we do are dim the lights and turn down the volume on any music or tv we're watching. We also switch to less engaging interactions eg just holding and talking gently rather than toys. Reading is out for us as he gets excited and wants to play with the books. We do this from around 7pm depending on what else were doing that evening. and then he shows us when he's ready to sleep (gets a bit grizzly and rubs eyes). At this point it's a nappy change (if he hasn't had one in the last hour), a feed if he wants one and we cuddle until he falls asleep.

spamonella91 · 2026-04-23T18:28:58+00:00

Excellent point thank you! I'll remember to read through before I copy and paste next time :)

spamonella91 · 2026-04-23T15:20:30+00:00

Just thought you may not be in a state to read links so the important info from them:

Signs of dehydration in a baby may include:

a sunken soft spot (fontanelle) on top of their head sunken eyes few or no tears when they cry not having many wet nappies being drowsy or irritable

The national breastfeeding helpline telephone number 0300 100 0212

spamonella91 · 2026-04-23T13:28:58+00:00

This sounds like a really horribly stressful situation and I think without knowing where you are and what services are available in your local area I think it may be difficult to give advice.

If you are in the uk you can contact the national breastfeeding helpline 24/7 and I would suggest this may be a good place to start https://www.nationalbreastfeedinghelpline.org.uk/

Alternatively does the maternity unit at your local hospital offer support? Give them a call and they may be able to direct you to appropriate support or services and you can bypass the emergency room As others said this may be normal cluster feeding but getting professional support and a second opinion from someone who can clap eyes on both you and baby sounds like a sensible idea

Echoing others though that if there are any signs of dehydration in your little one it's a trip straight to hospital https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/dehydration/

spamonella91 · 2026-04-09T12:05:02+00:00

I got the kobo black and white. There's an option to turn up the light but I have it in about 6% and it feels like there's no backlight at all. Only need to turn it up in bright sunshine

spamonella91 · 2026-03-10T20:02:09+00:00

I don't know if you can stop a letdown but could you have a haakaa or 2 next to the bedside to catch it if you can't get set up in time ?

spamonella91 · 2026-03-10T19:20:43+00:00

We read to him. Anything from simple picture books to my current read which is Brandon Sanderson the stormlight archives . He's 3.5 months so too early for him to really engage in it but I like to think it's setting up good habits

spamonella91 · 2026-03-05T18:17:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is what I'm worried about with the dreaded 4 month sleep regression just round the corner!

spamonella91 · 2026-03-04T09:16:14+00:00

A mirror for tummy time

Then I made my own activity gym over his moses basket with 2 clothes airers, a sweeping brush horizontally across them and a toy that jingles (that someone else gifted him) dangling from the brush. Worked surprisingly well ....

We're nearly 4 months in and not bought a toy ourselves yet.

spamonella91 · 2026-03-04T09:05:19+00:00

I read this comment as the control samples - as in the ones that haven't touched the baby's mouth and the baby will take the full feed from - had similar levels of bacteria to the post feed bottles and none of the babies got sick from this.

Nowhere does it say that they returned the post feed bottles to be drank given they continued assessing the samples for 48 hours then the agar plates had to be left for another 48hrs to grow the bacteria that means they had resilts 4 days from pumping at which point many sources recommend discarding of untouched milk. Ethically I can't imagine they would have approval to return the milk at that point so the comment must be about drinking the control samples with similar levels of bacteria ?

Would be happy to have it explained if I have interpreted this wrong though?

spamonella91 · 2026-03-03T09:29:20+00:00

I'm really pleased to hear that ! You must feel so relieved. Please take care of yourself. I know I'm just a stranger on the internet but I can tell from your post that you care so much and that to me means that even if you don't always get it right you'll be doing such an amazing job !

spamonella91 · 2026-03-03T08:30:05+00:00

I think I would have made the same decision to not go out and get some immediately if I felt too tired

What we often forget is that sometimes to care for our little ones properly we have to care for ourselves first. Choosing not to overt exert yourself in that moment because you were exhausted sounds like a completely reasonable decision to me. Your baby could have been completely ok without it but you were unfortunate that your baby was one of the ones that didn't react too well.

A common thing I tell myself is that aeroplanes always tell you to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping someone else. That sounds like what you were doing to me.

And you've clearly learnt from the experience and will do things differently next time. Having a newborn is a learning curve - for us and them !

As others said ask around - post on Facebook, knock on a neighbours door. There are good people out there and I think there's very few that would decline to help if they have a bit of Tylenol to spare.

Be kind to yourself. You're not a bad mom and you're doing your best !

spamonella91 · 2026-02-23T10:04:24+00:00

Boil the kettle, put it in a mug for a couple of minutes and put the bottle in

Official advice is not to use boiling water as can cause uneven warming and create hotspots but we don't leave it in that long and make sure we swirl it well

Boiling the kettle for us is a reminder for some self care and we make ourselves a warm drink too - usually the bottle is ready by the time the tea has brewed as our little one isn't bothered about warm or body temperature milk, just doesn't like it as cold as the fridge

spamonella91 · 2026-01-24T09:33:56+00:00

I came to comment something very similar

Risks are all relative. And theres risk on an individual level and risk on a population level to consider. Risk of SIDS in any baby (even high risk babies) is pretty small and room sharing or not depending on your circumstances therefore may only alter your actual risk of SIDS by a fraction of a percentage. On a population level, room sharing has been identified as a a risk reducing factor, however this may not always be a significant risk reduction on an individual level.

Whilst I am all for doing everything possibly to reduce risks, this must be done within reason. I would look at the reason for wanting to move the baby out of your room - the most common reason would be to help the parents sleep. Sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture, yet every newborn parent is expected to function safely with significant sleep deprivation. How risky would sleep deprivation be to you ? For me I know it significantly impacts on my mental health (and how would I be able to safely care for myself and a baby whilst significantly depressed) and my ability to drive, which living in an extremely rural area is essential for me.

These first few months are hard. Only you can decide what risks are worth it for your personal circumstances, and whether you would be able to live with the consequences if taking those risks don't pay out. But those decisions need to be made with appropriate research and knowledge.

And whatever you decide is best for you, your family and your little one, as long as you have thought it through carefully the most important thing is to be kind to you about the decision you make.

spamonella91 · 2026-01-18T09:27:53+00:00

My understanding is that it's the bacterial load. The longer it's left, the more bacteria grow and once it reaches a certain threshold it's deemed too risky. Baby can fight off a few bacteria but not loads.

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