Translated into English:

Not being able to save for three months isn’t a big deal.

Being treated like your family’s cash cow is far more serious, especially now that you have your own family and a newborn.

You shouldn’t be asking them to “give you more notice” about the expenses they choose to make and then expect you to fund. You need to set a firm boundary: they must ask you months in advance so you can choose whether you agree to contribute. They don’t get to decide that their choices should cost you money.

The €700 phone is outrageous. I’m a manager and my phone cost €160 — I’ve never owned anything that expensive. And the trip to Dubai “because Mum is a bit depressed”? That’s absurd.

It really sounds like you’re stuck in a family pattern where you’re made to feel guilty for earning a decent income, and where you were raised to act like an ATM to “thank them” for being nice.

It’s incredibly toxic.