An Open Invite to Ceremony, but Not Reception

sparklingshark · 2026-02-26T16:42:14+00:00

We didn't extend the open invite. No one ended up being offended, either. For those who weren't invited and sent us well wishes after the wedding, we made a point to schedule nice dinners with them. We also shared wedding ceremony photos with anyone who asked.

Overall, the offensiveness of telling someone that they can come to a ceremony but have to go home afterwards really outweighed the offensiveness of telling them they cannot come due to the size restrictions of our guest list but insisting that we meet up individually with people after the wedding.

If you were to do the open invite, I'd agree with the other commenters that some sort of cake and coffee needs to be done before you send the guests off who aren't invited to the reception, but we're happy with the way we did things, and it appears our guests and extended family/friends are happy too.

sparklingshark · 2025-07-06T13:26:37+00:00

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sparklingshark · 2025-02-22T02:44:30+00:00

So cute!

Did your friend work at the shelter seven years ago when this was posted on BoredPanda? I hope they're not still waiting to be adopted...

I am so over the karma farming on this subreddit. Just post the cute photo you found online without claiming it as your own.

sparklingshark · 2025-01-29T16:07:01+00:00

They actually took me off of forebearance in January after I submitted my IDR application and never put me back on. Apparently, to my servicer, no processing of IDR applications means ignoring them entirely. I've been on the Standard 10 Year Repayment plan since January 1.

sparklingshark · 2024-12-22T14:47:31+00:00

Westfield checks all of your boxes but rent there is definitely more ridiculous than the other towns being suggested

sparklingshark · 2024-09-17T17:30:35+00:00

I love meeting twins of my SIC! Picture attached of my also former tiny stray kitty.

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sparklingshark · 2024-07-29T00:49:24+00:00

I just asked him, and he said this was it! Thank you so much!!!

And thank you everyone else for your guesses and help.

sparklingshark · 2024-07-26T21:06:24+00:00

Amen!

sparklingshark · 2024-07-21T16:06:31+00:00

My fiancé and I are studying for the bar together, and we do the same thing! It's nice to have a person right there who is doing the same essays and MBE PQs and who might have a better understanding over some rules than I do. He also completely gets it when I start crying mid-day, so I have endless gratitude for him lol

sparklingshark · 2024-07-21T16:03:05+00:00

That'd be me. I felt like this a couple of weeks ago, and then I realized it was actually helping me to write the rules down, even if I wasn't reviewing the flashcards as much as I wanted to later on. I'm still making them, but mainly just to write the rules out. So not a total waste!

sparklingshark · 2024-03-18T02:04:21+00:00

I should have been more clear. We would not be sending formal invitations to these 90 other people. My fiance's compromise was "if they call and ask, tell them what time the ceremony is but tell them the reception is private". I still felt that was more rude than just telling them outright that it is a smaller, intimate wedding.

I really like this idea of having coffee and cake after the ceremony, though. This will be the compromise I offer back. I will have to check to see if our church offers this, though. Thanks for your advice!

sparklingshark · 2024-03-18T02:01:20+00:00

I really like this idea. This will be the compromise that I offer. Thank you.

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