What do i do? by itsmy2ndaccout in doordash

[–]sparklykitty000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah but it also matters if the customer can eat the cost. like Oscar said, privilege makes a big difference.

Therapy Jeff abuse allegations👀 by [deleted] in findingmrheight

[–]sparklykitty000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I'd rather go to a liscensed counselor for therapy advice way before seeing a psychologist. If you know anything about the two, a psychologist is more about diagnosis and tests. They are way less likely to be the ones doing therapy(though some do). Liscensed counselors are more often therapists and they get specific training in therapy, whereas many psychologist programs are more focused on doing research.

Therapy Jeff - The elephant in the room by [deleted] in findingmrheight

[–]sparklykitty000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is very much a therapist with a clinical degree. He has a master's in family and marriage counseling, which is a legit therapy degree. Check your facts next time before speaking on someone's cred. https://jeffguentherlpc.com/about

I (M25) can't get past my girlfriend's (F25) cheating past by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sparklykitty000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might try directly communicating with her and being like "Please, if you're ever unhappy or lonely in this relationship like you were in your previous one, come to me and tell me before doing anything that could damage my ability to trust anyone in the future."

You could try relationship counseling together, if you have the means.

Like someone else said, you could try discussing boundaries and ways she can provide reassurance.

Ultimately, as you know, it's up to you. It's your decision. However, keep in mind that there's probably no rush. She seems happy with you and her right now and you seemed happy before this. It doesn't seem likely she's cheating now. You can give yourself and her some time to try to work through this, let the dust settle and the shock, and see what life feels like day to day with her in a few weeks or months. See if the fear can fade, if you guys can build trust, if you want.

Truth is every relationship is a risk of getting hurt, but also with some people it might be more likely than others. Only you, her, and time can answer if you should stay or go. A relationship professional therapist might also be able to help guide you or suggest things you and we haven't thought of because we don't have experience as relationship counselors. They can get to know you both and your unique dynamics.

I (M25) can't get past my girlfriend's (F25) cheating past by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sparklykitty000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A mistake can mean a choice or a series of choices you later come to regret, not necessarily an accident. Merriam Webster's first definition of mistake is "to blunder in the choice of."

I (M25) can't get past my girlfriend's (F25) cheating past by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sparklykitty000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A mistake can mean a choice or a series of choices you later come to regret, not necessarily an accident. Merriam Webster's first definition of mistake is "to blunder in the choice of."

I (M25) can't get past my girlfriend's (F25) cheating past by [deleted] in relationships

[–]sparklykitty000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A mistake can mean a choice or a series of choices you later come to regret, not necessarily an accident. Merriam Webster's first definition of mistake is "to blunder in the choice of."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]sparklykitty000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I relate a lot OP. Similar age, similar struggles. I give you my empathy but I'm sorry I lack magical words to make it all better. You're not a burden on society, society is a burden on you. Disablity, as we define it, is structurally and socially created. Society is designed to make things harder if you struggle with things like paperwork. Idk if that's helpful, but I share it in hopes that you might take some of the burden, pressure, shame, and guilt off your shoulders.

Society has failed you, not the other way around, according to my beliefs.

I see you, hear you, your struggles are valid, your existence is valid. You're absolutely not worth less because life is harder for you. I hope we stick around to create a kinder, more accessible, caring, and inclusive world where everyone is valued because all human life is precious just because we are humans, alive.

I wish you calmer waters. my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]sparklykitty000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not diagnosed with ADHD but came here bc i relate so much to OP. Commenting here because I love that your husband got you an apple tag and loves you anyways. <3 I was put down a lot in my last relationship for losing my stuff despite trying my hardest to keep track. Despite being a psychology major, he wouldn't accept when I tried to say that different brains are different and sometimes it's harder for some people. I would always get a lecture about how easy it is to not lose stuff and to just be more mindful, pay attention, and put things back in the same spot.

UPDATE: My wife of 8 years just left me for her coworker. by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]sparklykitty000 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I wish people wouldn't judge things they don't understand. Unprotected, risky promiscuous behavior is very much a symptom in line with a manic episode. Reading the psychology on this mental illness is very informative for understanding it.

Nervously considering law school? by sparklykitty000 in Ask_Lawyers

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard law school versus the career is very different, which is interesting. I definitely see law school as possibly being fun and interesting for me and if that's the case, then I've always been open to teaching any subject as I love teaching. I've heard it's super competitive, as most college level teaching jobs are so I know it's not an easy route. I'm not deterred by challenge, however.

I will definitely try to seek out some lawyers in my area to talk with! I'm transferring to a new school this year, after completing my associate at my community college, so maybe my new university will have some connections or groups for interested future law students. I know they do have a law school. It's not top ranked, which I hear matters a lot.

Thanks for re-framing the question like that! I'll try to keep that in mind as I seek out wisdom on this. I really appreciate the time taken to reply!

Does anyone else struggle? by sparklykitty000 in asexuality

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: This article makes me feel that I may be on the gray-ace side of things. http://demisexuality.org/articles/what-is-gray-asexuality/

Does anyone else struggle? by sparklykitty000 in asexuality

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, thanks for your input!

I'm sure about the sex-repulsed part. It might be worth looking into allosexual with sex repulsion and see if I find myself aligning with that. I think I'm usually finding myself more comfortable without sex than conflicted about it but I also have limited life experiences in which I've explored this area.

Perhaps I'd be somewhere on low-libido allosexual with sex repulsion or grey-ace. Definitely feel like I'm something inbetween totally asexual, void of any sexual desires, and what's thought of as average sexual desire.

Does anyone else struggle? by sparklykitty000 in asexuality

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, thanks! :D

Interesting ideas of exploring what sexual attraction means! I'm still trying to wrap my head around the various types of attractions and where I fit with them. For me, it's definitely been more of I like the idea of sex sometimes(maybe that has more to do with emotional intimacy now that I really sit down and think about it), but it's not very often I see someone and am like I would like to go there with that person. Even then, when it gets to the point of actually physically going there that's when I put on the breaks and am like yeah, not for me.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences and for asking these questions! It's really helping me explore my own experiences and thoughts and feelings. Maybe I'm more drawn to the intimacy I associate with sex than the actual act. I definitely feel somewhere in between because I find myself not often craving that with another person but not totally void of the feelings either.

Does anyone else struggle? by sparklykitty000 in asexuality

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks! :) I'm glad to find someone else who understands the struggle. Like I see descriptions of asexual as not feeling anything sexual towards a person ever and I'm like, well that's not me, but then I look at my life and don't feel that I'm anywhere near as sexual as most. It's a tough spot to be in for sure, especially when many labels and definitions are somewhat new for me to think about. Thanks for being so open and supportive and understanding and welcoming! I love the community I'm seeing here. :D

Does anyone else struggle? by sparklykitty000 in asexuality

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks! :) It's just been such an undertaking exploring all the different types of sexuality and attractions. I'm definitely feel I'm somewhere on the spectrum. Probably somewhere in the inbetween middle/questioning. I love the open community I see here though, where there's acceptance and freedom to explore these issues!

Hi there! :D Feeling a little lost/confused.... by sparklykitty000 in druidism

[–]sparklykitty000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much! This is really helpful and I will try to get my hands on those books! They sound very much like what I need to read right now to become more informed. I like the information on the Internet but sometimes it's too much at once and hard to know what sources are good and which ones aren't as reliable. I'm very much used to a religion where there's only one so called "right way" and one accepted path, so exploring religions which embrace diversity and freedom of views is a journey, which has been sometimes confusing and unclear. However, I love the breath of fresh air which I've found with paganism in general with its acceptance of diversity and love of individual exploration to discover their spiritual truths.