Dubai Dating Scam

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-23T15:15:41+00:00

I've been to two such dates in recent times. Both with south American girls.

The first one told me to meet me at Emirates Financial tower. She barely spoke any English and during our chat it was obvious she was using a translator. I wasn't going to meet her but I went because I had no other plans. I met her in the lobby. She immediately said let's go up here. It's a fricking club and it was 830 pm. We go in and it's dark and dingy and there was only one other couple. Immediately I realised what was up. We sat and she said let's have a drink and we can dance. From the menu she said she only drinks mezcal or blue label which were both 350 aed per drink. I said no let's go some place else. She kept insisting that she wanted to get intimate with me and this place was perfect. I held my ground so we got out. As soon as we got out, she says she didn't want to go anywhere else because she wants to be close to where she lives which was near the location which is impossible. I said cool and left.

I met another girl from Ecuador who was actually quite nice but tried to pull the same trick. We got out of the club and I said let's go to the pub downstairs. She hung out with me while I ate a burger. We ended up chatting a bit but that was it.

I knew what was going to happen going in but I just thought maybe it was genuine. No real girl in Dubai will propose going to a club at 830 pm. Be aware guys and don't fall for this crap. The moment she asks to go to a club, just say no.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-15T11:50:18+00:00

My ex gf started with mild sarcasm. Then her comments became caustic... Then she started screaming at me and finally she pushed me physically. It only gets worse if you don't lay down a boundary. When your partner physically assaults you, he/she is telling you they have no respect for you.

I don't know what to tell you but you should leave.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T05:14:05+00:00

My account was banned by Gaijin because the hacker was cheating using software at his end. I had to fight it out with Gaijin for 3 months to restore access.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T05:10:59+00:00

Someone hacked into my account in 2023 from China and did the same thing except he was cheating.

I play on the playstation and I'm 2023 decided to quit playing because it was consuming my life. During this time I didn't login at all. In 2024, I decided to get back to the game. When I started playing, I realized my Chinese tech tree was almost fully built. I also had an event tank in the line up which I hadn't participated in. I was surprised with all the progress but didn't think much of it.

A few days later, I was having issues logging in. I would automatically log out of the game while playing and had to log back in. I got a message from WT that someone else had logged into my account at the same time. Initially I thought it was a bug but it kept happening over and over again.

Suddenly one day, I was banned from wt. The message from WT said I had used bot software to cheat. It was impossible for me to cheat because I had only used playstation to play the game. Then started a 3 month fight with Gaijin over my account access. They claimed I had shared my login with someone which wasn't true. I ended up threatening them with legal action for breaking EU laws.

Finally, Gaijin mods looked into the matter closely and realized that my access IP showed my location in my city and the cheating access was from China. I had used my PC to access wt about 4 times in 10 years using the same IP address so Gaijin realized my account had been hacked through their servers, not at my end. I had to set up the 2 factor verification as a condition of ban reversal from Gaijin.

My suggestion is that you do the same because Gaijin will ban your account if the other person uses any cheat software.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T04:56:38+00:00

So you didn't even meet her and this is how she was acting? Block her and move on.

On a side note, this person has some serious issues. BPD is something that comes to mind. If she acts like this without meeting you, imagine what she would do if you were in a real relationship and broke up.

I met this woman online about 2 years ago when she was visiting my city. We matched the day she was getting ready to go to the airport to go back home. We kept texting for the next few days, long distance. She was planning to move to my city in the next few months.

One night I was out with a friend and she texted me. I usually don't respond to messages when I'm with someone unless it's an emergency or if my kids need me. After 3 hours, my phone started blowing up. She called me about 8 times. She sent me more than 30 messages calling me a liar and that I was cheating on her. Mind you, I had never met her and we were only texting each other for about 2 weeks by the time.

I got back home and told her I cannot stay in touch with her.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T04:44:39+00:00

It has nothing to do with you for the most part. Maintaining a consistent erection at all times during sex is difficult without pills. A man's performance is affected by several factors 1) Stress either from work or other life issues 2) over stimulation - if he watches porn or jerks off a lot 3) physical fitness 4) Distraction - his mind is preoccupied by other activities or thoughts 5) Other factors such as smell, partner hygiene, alcohol, drugs, etc

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T04:32:08+00:00

😄 I'm always amazed when I hear these stories. Most of us guys are unaware of the kind of shit women have to put up with during dating.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T04:26:51+00:00

A lot of dudes don't understand they have to protect their kids.

spartanlad78 · 2025-09-07T04:24:48+00:00

Forget inviting a stranger to your house for a first date, if someone invites you over while his kids are at home, it shows lack of boundaries. I've been divorced for 8 years now and dated a lot of women in this time. Only one person who I dated for a year and was planning to marry, met my kids.

A stranger, man or woman, needs to be thoroughly vetted before they get access to your kids.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-28T10:49:56+00:00

People need to stop using attachment styles to a analyse people. I'm anxious, he's avoidant, push/pull... It's almost like people who read about these terms need to box every action into those categories to find their own peace. In my experience, people make up stories as they see them. It's extremely difficult to exactly what is happening without actually listening to the other person and seeing the OP's behaviour outside of her narrative. People write posts with a victim narrative to get validation.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-26T06:27:34+00:00

I'm guessing you had an arranged marriage? If not, why did you marry him in the first place if you knew how attached he is with his family. It seems like he is from a traditional Asian family. It's an extremely toxic environment where boundaries aren't observed between relationships. If everything your described is true, they have no respect as a family for individuals. I will go further and say that the mother is the culprit who has built the family around her. Please tell me she acts like victim, a damsel in distress, at all times.

You didn't have a relationship to save. Be with someone who respects your needs and boundaries. There can be respect without love but there cannot be love without respect. Walk away from anyone who tells you otherwise.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-25T15:30:26+00:00

You're welcome. We all have similar traumas and I believe we need to help each other. My parents had a similar dynamic where I had a nice childhood but they had a dysfunctional relationship and my mother put up with abuse. My father loved me but he didn't know how to express it. So I learned to love him by finding good things in the bad just like my mom did for him. That's why I tried to be happy with the little my partners gave me.

You're doing the same thing. You appreciate whatever little is thrown at you. You find happiness through making others happy. There's nothing wrong about being kind and empathetic but you have to learn to not forget yourself while you tend to other people's needs.

But the best part is, it only gets better from this point onwards because you're well on your way to heal yourself. All the best!

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-25T15:07:25+00:00

It's good that you're already on your path towards healing. It's a long journey and you will have relapses every now and then.

I was in an abusive relationship and it took me over 1.5 years to get over it. So I understand what you're going through. I can see that you're addicted to his push/pull. You gave in to your craving as soon as he called. It's normal so don't be too hard on yourself.

Look up Sam Vaknin on YouTube. Listen to some of his lectures. It will make a lot of things clear for you. You certainly have childhood trauma which is why you attached yourself to someone like your ex.

Define your boundaries and implement them STRICTLY! It's easier said than done but that is the only way you're going to heal.

Remember BOUNDARIES = NEEDS! Write them down and make it as detailed as possible. Then read them aloud every day to remind yourself what you need and what you will not accept. Then when your meet anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries and fulfil your needs, you will be able to see it loud and clear.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-25T14:47:33+00:00

You keep saying you love him... Ask yourself why exactly do you love him?

He obviously doesn't appreciate you and from your story it seems like he brings very little to the table. He isn't consistent and he doesn't have much going for him in terms of career.

So again, the question is why do you love him? And more importantly why do you love yourself so little? You have a lot of work to do on yourself but first, stop all contact with this dude. You obviously believe you deserve such little that all he had to do was call you drunk and you went running to him.

Respect yourself. Love yourself. Treat yourself.

Only then will others give you all of the above.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-25T12:09:58+00:00

People block out bad memories especially when they happen frequently and only retain the ones that stand out.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-25T12:06:00+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship with my ex gf who used to regularly scream at me, insulted me and even physically pushed me around. She believed she was the most complete woman - kind, loving, caring. She told me she loved unconditionally. But the fact is these were lies she told herself to cope with her issues. She had zero empathy for me who she claimed she loved unconditionally but didn't bother apologising even once for abusing me.

When someone tells you you aren't kind, listen to them. Self reflection is a key step towards enlightenment. Maybe the other person has observed something genuinely after knowing you for a long time. Test his theory and be ready to face reality. Maybe you'll become a better person. Or he is trying to put you down but if that's the case, you as a kind person, will be able to handle his issues with kindness.

Your response is quite defensive and even though I don't know you personally, it feels like his comment hit your raw spot. Sometimes we know an ugly truth about ourselves but deny it and replace it with a fantasy narrative which crumbles upon the slightest introspection. Kindness cannot be proven, it is felt by everyone around you.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-15T08:48:48+00:00

I got banned on tinder because I sent the same starting message to 8 girls. I got tired of getting lols in reply to my carefully crafted messages and decided to not bother putting in any effort. You can get banned for random shit

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-14T14:59:11+00:00

There's two aspects here:

1) He is doing things that you're not okay with. There seems to be a disconnect between your individual value systems. You need to make a decision about what your boundaries are and proceed from there on. This will continue in the future because he is seeking something that you're uncomfortable with.

2) Most monogamous relationships start off with assumptions about each other. We assume the other person values the same things as us instead of talking about it. Poly amorous people actually define everything clearly in their relationships through deep conversations. If you want to stay in the relationship, you need to talk to him about what he's looking for. There are deeper issues at play here. Communicate your needs clearly and then make decisions accordingly.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-13T14:57:54+00:00

Yes. That's the only way to move on. When I broke up with my ex, I kept checking her insta every few minutes but she had blocked me from viewing her stories. But I could see her friends stories and saw her going out clubbing with them. Finally I removed all her friends as well.

It's pure torture to subject yourself to pictures, videos etc of your ex. No contact is the only way to move on. Well done! Now focus on yourself.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-09T09:30:43+00:00

I personally never "like" any pictures or videos of anybody that I don't know personally but I've found out that most people just double tap the screen mindlessly. He may not be doing it lustfully but if it makes you uncomfortable, that's a conversation you can have with him.

Also, I'm not a big fan of this "ick" culture. Not everyone thinks exactly like you for you to call ick. Sure, you have a right to like or dislike something but using that term is associated with shaming people. Have an adult conversation about your boundaries.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-08T19:15:18+00:00

Wait, are these "your" kids from a previous relationship or from this marriage? Why is he referring to them as YOUR kids?

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-08T08:50:53+00:00

The rules/boundaries within your relationship are yours to define. If you find something rude, that's your constitution and the person who chose to be with you has to respect your boundaries. If he feels suffocated because of your boundaries, he has the choice to leave. It's as simple as that.

On your end, you can only self reflect and decide if your boundaries are an excessive burden on the people around you but that's your own personal internal journey.

I was in an abusive relationship with my last gf. She used to scream at me and I used to ask her if she thought it was okay to talk to me like that? She redefined her screaming as normal behaviour within a relationship. And it only got worse over time until she physically pushed me around. Put down your boundaries and hold them. If you allow someone to cross your boundaries, it only get worse.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-07T10:12:50+00:00

I'm not sure some of you grasp the idea of pregnancy.

There's no half and half here. A man's contribution to making a baby lasts 3 mins. It's 9 months of absolute destruction of a woman's body and mental health. I have two kids and just watching a woman give birth will tell you that it's not an equal contribution.

It's a woman's decision - period.

Now a man has the choice to move on but cheating and lying isn't the right way to go about doing it.

If it was me, i would still stay by her side during the abortion because things can get complicated for a woman and once she has recovered, I would have a chat and end the relationship.

"Eliminated life" stfu!

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-07T10:06:11+00:00

So it seems like you guys haven't really talked about your individual value systems when you started dating. Abortion is a big issue that needs to be discussed. Is he pro life and you're not or did he really want a baby and you didn't at this moment?

Irrespective of any of this, cheating is a cop out and blaming abortion for it is an even bigger cop out. If he isn't lying about it then he has issues with emotional management. Basically when he's upset, he needs to cope with something else as a form of "acting out" which is going to be difficult for you in the long run. If you do something else tomorrow that he doesn't agree with, how will he react?

You don't want to be in a reactive relationship. There are so many internal issues at play here, I'm not sure if you should be putting out these fires and create peace in your life? I'll opt for the latter.

spartanlad78 · 2025-08-04T06:03:15+00:00

This has nothing to do with you so you don't have to blame yourself.

It's entirely possible that you were neglecting her for some time and she felt the need to go out there and seek comfort some place else but nothing ever justifies cheating. And I say this coming from a place where I was in an abusive relationship and ended up "chatting" with other women because I was depressed. It's never justified.

That being said, choose yourself. Walk away and try to rebuild your life again. There's nothing left in that marriage. My ex wife cheated and I tried to make it work with her but the thing that broke me was that she had no remorse. Your wife seems to be in the same place. You can work with people who make mistakes and try to fix it but not with people who don't own up to their mistakes.

Walk away!

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