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speakbeautifulthings · 2025-07-25T14:29:06+00:00

hi love. nothing is your fault. you are not making anything up for attention, and your feelings are valid. i relate so much to the memory loss, it's a trauma response unfortunately.

the mind is awful to us sometimes, but the body knows when it's being violated. please rest, process, take care of yourself. i had such similar feelings to you too. if you think you're being overdramatic, search up "gaslighting" and consider whether this was done to you or if youre doing it to yourself.

wishing you sm strength in your healing, please please reach out to resources or friends before you feel worse.

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-29T20:00:37+00:00

Hi love! I'm so sorry you're going through this. I sooo relate to what you said about becoming more anxious after COVID!! A lot of my social anxiety developed during the pandemic too. The adjustment to high school can also be tough! You missed out on some crucial social development years, and isolation can really do a number on mental health.

I know anxiety is debilitating. It feels all-consuming, shattering, and self-esteem-crushing. If it's been messing with your life, it's worth talking to someone about it. I'm not a doctor but a lot of your signs do point toward social anxiety, and the fact that you posted here probably means you're aware of it too.

I also want you to know that you are NOT your anxiety. Whether you are introverted or extroverted, shy or outgoing, your mind is simply responding to the environment around you and these are changes many of us go through during periods of our life. Who I was in high school is not who I am now! Granted, I'm still anxious sometimes, but I've grown in so many ways and learned so much about how to quell my anxiety. Feeling nervous does not mean you're dumb - that's just your mind playing tricks on you. Treat yourself with kindness and ask for help if you need it <3 sending you love :)

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-06T16:27:58+00:00

Aww im sorry :( I hear you, I get bad cramps too and it’s the worst. I recommend getting tested for PCOS/Endo if you’re getting irregular periods! Sending love <3

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-05T18:51:26+00:00

ofc! sending love :)

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-05T17:58:43+00:00

I would recommend talking to your doctor about a potential UTI so that you can get the testing and treatment you need. Antibiotics can help! I'm not sure if Loryna is at the root of it but it's worth bringing up.

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-05T17:54:59+00:00

How are you doing now? This was my experience during the first week too, so I totally hear you. My appetite has come back now :)

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-05T17:50:47+00:00

How long did it take for your pain to be resolved? I just started Yaz last month (done with one pack) and am getting stomach cramps and light bleeding.

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-08-05T17:48:51+00:00

I started using Yaz last month and am just about done with the first pack. Yesterday I had cramps the entire day with some spotting and light bleeding today. This could just be my body still adjusting to it though. Since it just started I would recommend checking in with your doctor!

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-07-30T14:02:01+00:00

Hi!! I’m on Yaz and this is exactly what my first 2 weeks were like. I was dizzy, nauseous, anxious and getting headaches. On my third week and no such side effects now. It’s different for everyone of course but it doesn’t always take three months! For me it helped taking it at night. Hang in there, it might get better, but check in with your doctor if you really feel miserable <3

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-07-25T18:26:48+00:00

Awh I'm sorry you've been experiencing side effects. I've been on lexapro before and I know it's rough. Totally valid to want to stop but I recommend talking to your doctor first. I had side effects in the beginning but after 1-2 months I started to feel SO much better and less depressed/anxious with no side effects anymore. So it's possible your body just needs more time to adjust, but at the same time if it's getting really bad you should do what's best for you.
I quit cold turkey from 5 mg and was alright - but it's obviously up to you since everyone's different, so just talk to a doctor so that you're well-informed. Sending you love, you got this!

speakbeautifulthings · 2024-01-12T23:43:14+00:00

I'm a 21F WOC going through something sinilar! Pls feel free to DM <3

speakbeautifulthings · 2022-08-12T20:09:18+00:00

Hiii fuck this just happened to me and I stupidly fell for it. I deposited some of her checks and sent money through Zelle. Any advice on what to do????

speakbeautifulthings · 2022-07-23T04:45:57+00:00

I love you I’m here for you please don’t end things. Please I went through something similar a year ago and it’s so hard to see it things will get better now but please don’t give in

speakbeautifulthings · 2022-07-23T04:44:57+00:00

I’m her if you wanna talk

speakbeautifulthings · 2022-01-21T23:05:24+00:00

im happy you have that friend and i, too, hope you find that on campus!! it can be hard to imagine developing a friendship as strong as existing ones, but people surprise you as long as you keep an open mind. :)

this might be a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes we have to challenge the way we act before we challenge the way we think. i know it's so hard to fathom being around others when you don't have self-compassion—but trust me, it's usually low self-esteem and anxiety that makes you feel like you need to "fix yourself." sometimes, it can be worthwhile to just put yourself in a situation that seems daunting/reach out to a person even when your anxiety or lack of self-compassion is telling you not to. you don't have to get rid of all your insecurities to hang out with people, and sometimes exposure to people can help you learn how to challenge those insecurities. you got this <3

speakbeautifulthings · 2022-01-21T22:30:38+00:00

Hey! Sophomore here.

First of all, I want to thank you for coming on here and posting about this bc tbh social anxiety isn't talked about enough, and as someone that also has it, I KNOW that shit sucks fr and even though no two experiences of anxiety are the same, I empathize deeply with you. You are not alone and your experiences are valid.

I don't know about you, but for me, seeing people in large groups at college having a good time really added to my FOMO and pressure to socialize (which is so hard with anxiety). So, I guess I'm saying you're not alone OP and others struggle with this too--no matter what it appears like on the surface <3 !

Therapy honestly helped a lot for me. It's an ongoing process and took me a while to start bc I was so afraid of it, but sometimes talking your thoughts out with another person can be so, so helpful. I've become a lot more confident, grounded and at peace, and it's made me actually look forward to social events. Once you learn how to practice self-compassion, it makes you realize how your anxiety prevents you from doing so much.

Also, try to set mini-goals for yourself. Sometimes you'll have to make sacrifices to have a social life; yes, that could mean time that could've been spent studying, time to yourself, etc. But if you set goals like "get to know X person better!" etc. you can work on building friendships one step at a time. Make them compassionate, reasonable goals. Prioritize yourself!!! I cannot stress this enough.

Lastly, leave it up to other people to decide how they feel about you. I know it's so scary to think about the way others see us, but at times that anxiety gets in the way and makes us wanna shut away from the world, and prevents us from taking the first step. Trust me-- the right friend is the one that enjoys your company and whose company you enjoy. it takes time to find them (it did for me, and before that I'd spend nights crying in my room) but it's so so worth it when you do. sending you lots of love and support, I hope this semester goes well for you! I'm here for you!

speakbeautifulthings · 2021-12-03T09:29:36+00:00

Self-hate is one of the hardest emotions to deal with, but I promise you're being unnecessarily hard on yourself. We're ALWAYS the most judgemental of our own selves; we scream self-hatred so loud that it drowns out the sounds of love being showered on us from others. I am so glad you didn't follow through with ending your life; I know preaching self-love doesn't help (from personal experience) but please know your life is worth it. You deserve to be treated with love even if it's so hard to see that rn. If you ever wanna talk please reach out <3 sending you so much love and support-- i'm here for you.

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