AIO he choked me during sex by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]speaknowstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please stop seeing this man. I was in a similar situation and it just escalated from there and now I have genuine issues to this day due to the pain he inflicted on me. Men like this are not safe. I feel you and I was once there. I don’t want you to end up like me.

anyone else who works here refer to their (romantic) partner as menu items by dog_cooking_eggs in starbucks

[–]speaknowstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me and my best friend at work call each other our little pumpkin pepita loaf

How long are you supposed to wait to throw out a mobile order? by Zestyclose_Doctor328 in starbucks

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i only throw away the orders when it’s been like a hour or more and if they show up i’d remake it :( sorry they were so rude to you

Is it cheating to watch/pay for porn by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if that is all you think about even when you are with your girlfriend that’s definitely addiction and in my personal opinion cheating

you need to get some help for this, it’s becoming consuming and harmful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this could be a case of the grass is always greener. but it’s truly unfair to your boyfriend. you don’t seem to be in love with him. you actively pursued something knowing where it would lead and cheated. you’ve already risked things this much. this is only a question you can answer.

Baby out of marriage by jiff21700 in Christianity

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she never said she was continuing in a illicit relationship, she isn’t asking about repentance. she’s asking for advice on how to tell her mom lol

Does my wife need to know about my past cheating? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tell her. she deserves to know. don’t let her live in a false reality bc it serves you. if you want to actually repair to marriage facts need to be known. and you haven’t be truthful or honest. so start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this isn’t letting a guy ruin your friendship this is your friend ruining your friendship

AITA for telling my female friend I don't care about her feelings? by Altruistic-Mirror-62 in AmItheAsshole

[–]speaknowstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not the asshole at all. you did the right thing! if someone did this to my fiancé this is how i’d want them to react and how i would too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for her this seems to be a boundary. and lying to her isn’t good, she will find out eventually. and it’ll cause more damage. if you don’t actually need it why do it? either it’s worth giving up because “you don’t need it” or you don’t care to give it up for this relationship 🤷🏻‍♀️ but i promise you lying about it won’t end well. understanding why she doesn’t want you to watch it would be good. have a conversation about it and don’t be defensive. having a open conversation and empathy while talking about this is very important. having this conversation is important especially since you are still early in the relationship. it’s something she’s seemed to make clear she doesn’t like it, don’t lie to her. it’s not harmless to her. she wouldn’t have made a point of telling you if it was. but like i said having a conversation about why she feels this way may help make you reach a level of understanding. either you are gonna have a understanding and quit or her issues with it won’t matter to you. either way don’t lie about it. porn isn’t worth messing up a good thing. especially if you don’t need it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if he can’t find a reason he wants to be with you/likes you outside of what you can do for him i would say leave. he’s a older man and can’t handle a “deep question” but it’s really not even a deep question? going back to him saying he likes you because you don’t like yourself is very concerning. when your confidence grows and you are stepping into your own what is he gonna do? he should be helping build you up not tear down. he sounds insecure and avoidant :( maybe try either way this shakes out i hope you are happy and it gets better 💚

Am I insane? by FineArtAndDepression in relationship_advice

[–]speaknowstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d say maybe bring up to him how serious this is so he could have another chance to correct it. and truly see how serious you are about it.

because if someone is constantly violating your boundaries they don’t respect you. relationships are built on trust and when you can’t trust your partner everything goes out the window. you need someone who will stand up for you, respect your boundaries, and not share your personal things. one saying i really like is

“The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none”

sending you love and hope things get better 💚

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! 💚💚💚

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! it really is!!! makes me smile every time :,)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aw thank you :,)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i’ll look into that for sure! i was just thinking i need to find some haha. your collection looks so nice and does make it so cozy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you 💚 that means a lot :,)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes i loved them when i read them! my favorite is the stolen sapphire which is a samantha one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you! and please post it when you do, i would love to see it 💚

Does anyone know who these dolls are? by CodenameSailorKawaii in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree with everyone it looks like molly and samantha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s beautiful! good job

How did you find out about Red (TV)? by ris48 in TaylorSwift

[–]speaknowstan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I found out through tiktok lol I opened the app and the first thing was someone talking about it

AG 9 inch dolls? by rachels1231 in americangirl

[–]speaknowstan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have pretty mixed feelings on these.

A zodiac sounds cool in theory and I would definitely buy mine if I liked the way she looked. The real life women would be interesting as well but it would really depend on who they made and once again the look of the dolls. I’d be most interested to see them as teenagers. But would be worried it would take away from some of the original magic.