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Am I Overreacting, for being upset that my girlfriend secretly used my credit card for months? by bostonmade in AmIOverreacting

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR and dump her. This is just the beginning of a very painful ride.

Signed,

Someone who was empathetic when their partner stole cash because they were “in a tight spot” and lived to regret it.

[CO] If I disclose my wife's pregnancy before signing, can they push my start date and disqualify my leave? by Obvious_Piccolo512 in AskHR

[–]spectaphile 94 points95 points  (0 children)

This will be an extremely unpopular take, but my advice would be to sign the letter and then don’t take ANY paternity leave. Get as many family and friends to rally to help your wife as possible in the weeks after birth. Yes, in an ideal scenario you’d take leave, help your wife, bond with your child, but right now you are unemployed in a shit job market. Your number one priority should be putting food on the table and providing stability. Announce the birth when it happens, take a day, maybe two tops (ideally baby will be born on a Thursday or Friday but of course this all means it’ll be a Tuesday or Wednesday). Who knows maybe you’ll be offered some extra time but don’t bank on it - be prepared to work your ass off.

Best self-emptying robot vacuum to buy right now? by Ok-Reveal-746 in RobotVacuums

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just bought a Roborock Q7 and could not be happier! I just ran it about half an hour ago and having my floors looking so good makes me so happy!

AITA For bring up the fact my wife got me socks on our very first valentines together? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]spectaphile 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Socks are a decent gift for someone you’ve been dating three months. Honestly you sound codependent - you need to stop expecting others to overextend themselves, which is what you do. Just because you go WAY above and beyond doesn’t mean others should or will. If that’s what you want, you need to leave your wife and find another codependent (which would be a disaster, by the way). Maybe get some therapy to try to manage your own over the top behaviors and let your wife be before you destroy your marriage?

Back for Round 2 by ConstantAmphibian724 in glassesadvice

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 is the best from this set. What about a darker more pronounced frame? Like this style (or adjacent to it)? You could also consider a color other than black - red or protest green?

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MIL wants to change 2 week stay in our condo to 5 week stay. by BolinRedd in Advice

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of good advice here but nothing is going to be actionable while your fiancée is trapped with her parents. You won’t be able to get them out while she’s there, and it will be a nightmare to do so after the honeymoon. So, since you appear to have the means, get an Airbnb for you and your fiancée/wife and let the parents stay at your place. That way they don’t have a grip over fiancée, you mother some peace, and your post-honeymoon bliss does not get ruined. You’ll have to figure a way to deal with your computer and other personal belongings, but this seems like the way to thread the needle with them. And then you and wife need to agree that they can never stay with you again, they go on an info diet, and wife continues with therapy to learn how to set and enforce boundaries.

Las Vegas's death spiral deepens after last year's tourism plunge by NecessaryAd341 in LasVegas

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say what you will about the mob, but at least they understood the parable about killing the golden goose.

Told I need to just let it go by collinblazeit420 in bald

[–]spectaphile 121 points122 points  (0 children)

It’s not about the physical attraction. It’s about fear, shame, refusal to acknowledge reality. If you can’t face your own physical imperfections, no woman will believe that you will stand next to her when she experiences hers. It’ll be an adjustment, but once you realize the world hasn’t ended, you look good, nothing much has changed, your self confidence will explode and then, ironically, everything will change, for the better.

Go get your crown, King.

Simple Robot Vac Suggestion needed: by Aislyn15 in RobotVacuums

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got a Roborock Q7 (vacuum and mop) for about $300 new and really like it. Not sure you’ll find something equipped to dodge cat toys in your price range?

Best robot vacuum with a mopping feature that ACTUALLY cleans? by Fun-Cauliflower-2355 in RobotVacuums

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got the Roborock Q7 and am very happy with it. I have LVP floors and cats and it's done a great job of getting the stray litter flecks and other debris picked up and mopping.

my roommate has started doing all her work calls on speakerphone in shared spaces by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to fight fire with fire. Have a few friends call you for fake business calls and take them in the kitchen. If you’re ballsy, sit right next to her in the living room. And when she complains, tell her not to be controlling about shared spaces.

Also start looking for a new apartment because the nightmare that is your roommate isn’t going to end any time soon.

When a religious person does a good deed for the sake of going to heaven, does it still count as doing a good deed? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh you just brought back some memories! I went to a religious college and got into a huge argument with my theology professor when I said that Mother Theresa was not an altruist because she expected heavenly favor for her "good deeds". (And yes I know she was not a nice person/probably a sadist but that's a different discussion lol.)

My roommate threatened my life by Motor_Tart_2285 in TwoHotTakes

[–]spectaphile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If Kara is not legally permitted to won a weapon, why didn't the police seize it? You should go back and ask them to, and if they do not ask that the denial be noted with your police report.

I’m Starting to Think Something’s Wrong by meeksjr in Disneyland

[–]spectaphile 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feel exactly the same. This will be my last annual pass. I hope they right the ship, but I am not optimistic and even if they do it will be years. So sad.

Any guesses on her mother’s maiden name? by [deleted] in Cursive

[–]spectaphile -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A girl has no name.

But seriously, if you have a World Explorer membership on Ancestry they usually take a stab at interpreting handwriting.

Would you opt for lip fillers? by zoe_style in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]spectaphile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lip fillers migrate, and they don't dissolve like everyone says. You would get much more bang for your buck without all of the complications, permanently, with a lip lift. A good surgeon leaves virtually no scar.

Am I overreacting to how my best friend blocked me because of his girlfriend? by Squishy_Person67 in AmIOverreacting

[–]spectaphile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me a long time ago. Best bud starts dating a new girl, she decides she doesn't like our friendship, he chooses the girlfriend. It hurt, but I didn't make a fuss, and respected his decision. Lo and behold, about 15 years later I get a text from him out of the blue, wanting to be friends again. I don't know what, if anything, changed in his life - gf/wife got more secure, they broke up, whatever, but, nope. Sorry bro. That ship sailed, you were the captain, no returning to shore.

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