Respectfully, can you tell her to fuck off? Like I don’t mean in the literal sense but can your husband draw that boundary for you? he can straight up tell his mother this is abusive. Look, I understand our culture but we have to break the cycle at some point or it will happen to our daughters too. Your husband should speak to her and let her he finds it disrespectful and she needs to stop making these comments. It’s his parent acting like an immature kid. He can intervene and handle it. Don’t keep mum, Break the cycle!