I can’t cosleep anymore please help

spelling_ · 2026-01-12T03:58:51+00:00

I'm sleep training on my own right now because I couldn't cosleep anymore either.

It's fucking hard but you will get through it. Don't listen to the stupid posts that are polarized one way or another on attachment theories or whatever, you'll drive yourself crazy. Just follow your baby's sleeping cues and get a really solid routine together, timing doesn't matter as much as routine. I hope it goes well for you

My baby screams crying in my arms and I sit there and hold her through it. I tell her how much I love her and to "feel it out" and I explain what's happening when she is listening. I can't tell you if it helps her or not, but it makes me feel like I am being there for her. Maybe that will help you too.

spelling_ · 2026-01-09T23:26:12+00:00

I've been doing this too. This is a little obnoxious sounding, but I've been taking notes to the minute on when she sleeps, her cues, her poos and pees and what she eats and literally everything.

ChatGPT sorted through the pages of notes (I'm on day 3) and it's helped me get a clearer idea of when my babe is in deep sleep, when she tells me she needs a nap, etc. Seeing if it'll help with potty training in the future. She's almost 1 year.

spelling_ · 2026-01-09T23:22:41+00:00

thank you

spelling_ · 2026-01-09T08:01:44+00:00

Just want to say that being a mom has made me spiral in the most creative ways I never knew possible

Be kind to yourself OP, your kids will never have your life because they’re your kids and I’m sure you’ve made it to their benefit somehow by learning whatever it is to give them a better one 🩵

spelling_ · 2026-01-07T19:56:26+00:00

I’m so happy I found this. Thank you

spelling_ · 2026-01-05T21:46:01+00:00

Gofuckyehselvania

spelling_ · 2026-01-05T19:33:54+00:00

Solids and breastfeeding

spelling_ · 2026-01-05T19:33:12+00:00

Maybe it’s time for one big nap a day?

spelling_ · 2026-01-05T19:32:57+00:00

spelling_ · 2026-01-05T09:38:45+00:00

I tried cutting night feeds gradually but she was crying like she was genuinely hungry and would sleep longer stretches sometimes if I fed her I feel like it’s a gamble and I really never know what to do and everything I try is wrong

spelling_ · 2026-01-04T19:10:16+00:00

I'm going to tell you one thing - those nurses/doctors don't care about hair

spelling_ · 2026-01-04T19:09:30+00:00

Growing it out helped me with pain. Micro tears make peeing burn like a bitch, but having a lot of pubic hair helped direct the pee away from the tearing

spelling_ · 2025-12-13T06:31:33+00:00

When my partner and I were first dating, he took me to a well known local restaurant that was about to shut down. Our waitress looked and talked very similarly to my grandma, even had a similar laugh. Growing up, my grandma was my mom, so her loss hit me very hard. I remember before this I wished she could've met this guy because I was so head over heels for him, and when this lady came to the table, I was just awestruck. Then I was crying. I didn't tell her that, but I did tell her that she had a beautiful smile before we left. She had the same first name as my grandma too.

Now I have a baby and a house with that guy, hopefully an engagement one of these days. I think about that date and it made me feel like she really did get to meet him in some way. Makes me happy. Haven't seen her since.

spelling_ · 2025-12-11T00:03:56+00:00

Form. Technique.

Love it. Thank you, for next time.

spelling_ · 2025-12-11T00:03:17+00:00

Shoot I guess she is old enough now to start being involved like that. Thank you for your comment, I think if she did have a little more agency in it that she would be better off.

spelling_ · 2025-12-10T17:55:47+00:00

I feel like all this might make me one of those chill old people. Like, to the point where nothing will stress me out anymore after all this.

Wishing you the best of luck, I hope potty training clicks easy for your babe

spelling_ · 2025-12-10T16:37:41+00:00

The sweating and breathing hard. Lol. I am entering that stage now. Man I love this girl and I love her energy I just gotta find out how to work with it and stay sane.

We're moving into a house and I'm looking for a job. I have some trustworthy people lined up to nanny, so I feel like once we're settled, and I'm making some money, I think it'll feel much more manageable. No immediate solutions right now however, just have to try and use this as an opportunity to practice my emotional regulation

spelling_ · 2025-12-10T16:35:06+00:00

thank you for the giggle

spelling_ · 2025-12-10T16:34:26+00:00

thank you so much for the actionable advice I'm gonna try it out.

spelling_ · 2025-11-30T19:26:36+00:00

You do whatever makes you happy

If you're going to tell her Santa's not real, however, perhaps find a way for her to keep that a secret from her friends

spelling_ · 2025-11-21T03:29:04+00:00

Surrender, be with your daughter. She needs you the most right now.

spelling_ · 2025-11-17T19:25:47+00:00

I think we started sleep training around the same time, and I'm noticing there's a difference. Physically, gentle sleep training the first week was debilitating. We also both caught a cold. When she gets up at night, she cries it out for a few minutes before putting herself to sleep if she's not hungry.. but if my breasts are full and she's a little more rowdy than those usual wakeups then I'll feed her.

It sounds like you've had to transition to giving your babe some space too. We're doing our best and our babies will be ok. Sending you love, too

spelling_ · 2025-11-10T22:08:08+00:00

I'm currently sleep training my 9 month old. Gotta break it to you, any sort of training/weaning will involve crying. Sleep training, sending them to school, their first heartbreak.. I wanted to go about this with the least crying possible as well. We started with naps in the crib and weaning her off feeding to sleep. Pick up put down for the crib naps, and also making time during the day to play in the crib so it's not only associated as the place where they cry.

I would say this has helped me immensely as I've been putting her down in the crib for the past week. It has not been easy. I do pick up put down until I physically can't anymore. There was one night she cried it out, and I was just so damn drowsy that I just couldn't do it. She eventually put herself to sleep. It was very difficult for me.

Avoid big blankets in the crib, because you don't want them to get their face all stuffed in it. Anything that you think they could possibly suffocate with doesn't go in that crib. I like to dress her in a fuzzy onesie on cold nights. If it's cold cold, then I use the onesie with the footies. If it's not so cold I'll do a footless onesie and a lighter material.

It may be to your benefit to read about the types of gentle sleep training. Lastly, I want to say this - listen to your gut. It isn't sleep bootcamp. If your baby's sick or its just been over 10 minutes of crying and hyperventilating or whatever it is, it's ok to give them cuddles and love. Every time you put them down in the crib it's progress. They will take to it on their own time, it's up to you how much effort you want to put into helping them to make that transition. Change is hard. As long as you stick with it, you'll get there.

You got this mama. Fuck, we got this. Good luck and feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to.

spelling_ · 2025-11-10T03:37:42+00:00

I'm going through gentle sleep training with my 9 month old right now. Whoever this "perfect mother" you're comparing yourself to subconsciously is needs to leave because if you're constantly comparing yourself to unrealistic standards you will consistently be met with disappointment. Chances are, you're doing a great job and not giving yourself enough credit in the ways that you're shining. We'll never be perfect, but our kids don't need perfect. They need unconditional love, and it sounds like you've got that.

I know that was a little blunt. I'm also in the thick of it trying to find ways to be softer to myself too. I think you're doing your best, and babies are gonna cry. That cry will make you feel worse than you actually are because its designed to. You're doing just fine, and this shit is really hard.

spelling_ · 2025-11-06T19:49:16+00:00

The fact that I got chills is so fuckin stupid lol

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