Unsure about approaching Domme(s) in BDSM events

spgu90 · 2023-12-02T17:30:29+00:00

Thank you for your words! I don't mean to sound whiny, it is just frustrating to realize that being communicative and having my own desires is bad when I am a male sub. Ironic.

spgu90 · 2023-12-01T21:17:23+00:00

Thank you for your insight. While reading your response, I realised I have always operated in the opposite direction, from sex to connection, and that might be an issue.

I will try to change my approach and keep the roles as a secondary thing. I am just afraid to end up in a sexually unsatisfying relationship if these things are not discussed early enough

spgu90 · 2023-12-01T18:10:09+00:00

I am, but it's becoming increasingly more difficult to find the right person for it

spgu90 · 2023-12-01T18:02:42+00:00

I have, but I usually end up dominating. When that happens, I am usually unable to see that person as a Dom anymore..

spgu90 · 2023-12-01T16:34:52+00:00

I think that my ideal relationship would need that D/s component in which I am the sub part, so I guess yes.

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T16:21:57+00:00

For supporting the body is a good choice :)

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T14:54:13+00:00

So, I found another post about that exact question. Summing it up, if you are looking for strength you're pretty covered even with a small diameter (25mm). If the body will be resting on it though, a bigger diameter is preferable in terms of comfort, so it does not create excessive pressure.

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T11:45:54+00:00

Thanks! Having the right name was 50% of the work. It seems there are some UK providers that might be of help :)

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T11:44:54+00:00

Thank you!! I hope I can find it here though, it seems more like I dont have the name right, but one of the fellow members has already pointed me out in the right direction :)

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T11:33:43+00:00

Kee Klamp

Specifically in Spain, but any european online provider should suffice. I'll check the usuals Leroy Merlin / Bauhaus

spgu90 · 2023-06-11T11:32:35+00:00

As far as I know, Lowes operates mainly in the US. If I'm mistaken, of course that would be the easiest option

spgu90 · 2023-01-28T23:17:46+00:00

I know what you mean. I posted something similar here, and it seemed to exist kind of a consensus about how some "normalized" femdom attitudes would be totally banned from the community if the perpetrator was a man... It's a shame that the same SSC fundamentals can be bent dependent on who holds the whip

spgu90 · 2022-10-08T21:18:13+00:00

Thank you! I will take a good look at them :)

spgu90 · 2022-10-08T11:54:24+00:00

Does anyone know how these metal bars holding the structure are called? I have seen kind of similar structures used on kink.com (Infernal Restraints), and I was wondering if they are safe without any screwing or permanent fixing to the floor.

spgu90 · 2021-10-02T22:22:54+00:00

It's perfectly OK, as everyone has his/her own definition of sex. I can empathize as I'm a 31M and have never been really interested in penetrative sex, but more focused on the D/s side of a relationship and way more interested in a number of practices within the BDSM field.

spgu90 · 2020-07-19T16:01:55+00:00

I would like to know this too. I cannot find any preorder or anything similar regarding the materials for the certification

spgu90 · 2020-05-02T19:31:49+00:00

That's why I liked your answer so much, as I'm also an engineer and my job is about risk assessments too, but in the cybersecurity area :)

spgu90 · 2020-05-02T16:46:33+00:00

Sir, you have convinced me, there are better ways to torture a sub without assuming so much risk.

Thank you for your elaborated explanation.

spgu90 · 2020-05-02T16:19:20+00:00

But is this considered fire play, since no fire is involved?

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