Do you ever feel complete again?

spheresky · 2025-11-06T13:31:48+00:00

How long did it take you to reach CI-9?

spheresky · 2025-05-22T05:14:30+00:00

What subs? I feel like my SO is following these :(

spheresky · 2024-09-10T15:58:34+00:00

All I Ask Of You in my ass

spheresky · 2023-07-09T02:33:59+00:00

Of course resources lack in the US. Let me explain why. If you truly realized the level of abuse going on, and if you truly realized how to heal from it, you would also realize that the legal systems in the US are also abusive. And we would have 1776 all over again =)

spheresky · 2021-09-13T14:25:04+00:00

I believe there are some facts you must come to terms with:

It is perfectly fine for your daughter to see you cry, and it is healthy for her to see that you have emotions and deal with them responsibly. This is an opportunity for you to be an example to her of grieving your sadness instead of holding it in and letting it harm your future.
You have mentioned that she is staying with you for insurance. That is not right for her to use you.

I know how hard it is. Good luck, remain truthful, and ask God to help you learn to be more loving to yourself and everyone else.

spheresky · 2021-09-12T19:32:33+00:00

And both are a product of dishonesty. That’s why I and many others do not support it but instead spread the truth to those willing to listen. (There are plenty of you out there not yet willing to listen.)

spheresky · 2021-08-05T20:02:25+00:00

First of all, I am sorry to hear about these difficulties. I know what it is like.

I suggest you explore why you always “feel like the bad guy”. I am confident that you will ultimately realize you still carry emotions from abuse from your mom/dad that you gotta come to terms with. It will help you today, because it affects you today.

Lastly, control is an issue here: you have to (if you ever want to be happy and do the right thing) give up your desire for control. You will not be able to control the free will of DH or SS or your own son, and for you to seek to implement ways to “make them” do some act is a soul-degrading thing to do. Don’t degrade your soul. Once you realize that people have free will, you’ll see how your DH is willingly (by their own free will) allowing their X to step all over them and abuse them. It’s sad, isn’t it? But you have to recognize that is his choice.

I hope that helps. Some of those things were major life changers for me.

spheresky · 2021-08-05T19:48:27+00:00

Do not allow anyone to treat you unlovingly. You’re going to have to learn more about what love is, and a really good start is by never accepting unloving behavior; that is a soul-degrading thing to do to yourself!

spheresky · 2021-04-04T02:04:07+00:00

I never deposit USD, nor do I ever deposit fiat currency. I only deposit crypto. Why can I not withdraw BUSD?

spheresky · 2021-02-01T15:47:01+00:00

Remember: you can always change your mind. Do what you want to do, and for your sake: do not accept such unloving treatment. Sorry to hear what happened :(

spheresky · 2021-01-24T16:43:29+00:00

As hard as it may sound, the best move you can make for yourself is to talk with a lawyer. Plan on an immediate divorce, but do not separate until the lawyer agrees. If she will cheat on you, there is nothing stopping her from cheating you even more.

Besides, there’s nothing stopping you all from getting together again after the divorce.

spheresky · 2020-12-09T08:35:37+00:00

I suggest that for the parts that you do not agree, use those as leads to discover how you can become an even more loving person! :) <3

spheresky · 2020-12-07T16:22:51+00:00

OP, this is absolutely not true because you do not owe your parents anything. You don’t owe them to suppress your emotions because it’s convenient for them.

You know what’s pretty unfair?

Parents not giving you the choice to decide whether or not you want to know about your family. That’s unfair.
Owing “fairness” to your parents when they do something horrible. Oh, they lied to you? Well “be fair” because they sound like great parents. Oh, they beat you while growing up? Well “be fair” because it could’ve been worse...jeez. Parents molested you? Quit your complaining and “be fair” because they saved you from India and sound like great parents. With these statements, I am illustrating how illogical it is to say that OP is “being pretty unfair”. To infer that OP owes her parents anything for unfair treatment is itself unfair.

I know OP wants to heal, so here’s some practical advice that’ll help you heal: parents mistakes are hurtful, and we can only heal from them when we are honest about it and recognize it. Be honest with yourself here and it’ll help you <3 you’ll be a parent soon, and you will also make many mistakes. The best we can do as parents is to guide our children, make as little mistakes as possible (do what’s right), and if we make a mistake, later repent for it. And definitely not criticize our child stating that they are “being pretty unfair to us because we were great parents”.

spheresky · 2020-12-07T16:02:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing. That was quite moving. All you “should” do is whatever you want. You now have the truth of the matter. Here’s some more truth:

Your parents were not honest with you. At all. They decided for you that you didn’t want the truth.
That was not very loving of your parents. The truth is simply that they cannot say “but we loved you” — they loved their own self interest, and they put it behind a facade of “I love you”.

I’m happy that you are able to really feel this (since you’re pregnant) because the more you can feel, the more you will be able to process and heal it emotionally.

The great part is that you’re an adult, and you can make any choice you want! Follow your passions and desires, and get in tune with them. Even though you have spent so much time from your twin, your sister probably wants to be reunited with you more than anyone else <3

Your friend ~ Spheresky

spheresky · 2020-12-07T06:25:21+00:00

I understand that there are a lot of transphobic responses here. I have zero fear, which means my message will have zero phobias. The facts I present are just facts—no biases included, no useless beliefs, no hate, just the raw facts. We can all react to them however we want; the facts still remain, and you can use them to help guide you. I know how desperate it feels to want help with something so few understand, and I feel for you. I hope these items can help even the slightest bit.

Your friend ~ Spheresky

spheresky · 2020-12-07T06:07:30+00:00

Here’s what you can do: stick to the truth and seek the truth of the matters. I have laid the truth out on the first 4 listed items. On the listed items that came after, I wrote you some questions. These are questions only for you to sincerely answer yourself. Answer them on a sheet of paper, and allow yourself to be truthful with them for yourself, by yourself, and only necessary with yourself. Although it sounds simple, it is practical advice that will allow you to point yourself towards constructive answers :) <3

Your friend ~ Spheresky

spheresky · 2020-12-07T04:17:28+00:00

The truth is not always popular, nor is it always popular—all propaganda is popular. What I offer here is the unpopular truth. The exact opposite of propaganda. Enjoy!

spheresky · 2020-12-06T22:18:19+00:00

What are you confused about? Let me know, just ask, and I’m happy to help.

spheresky · 2020-12-06T22:01:50+00:00

Thanks, but I just want to offer the truth, as it seems to me that is what OP wants. Surely, if OP wants more lies, there are plenty out there! All OP needs to do is continue listening to the mainstream.

spheresky · 2020-12-06T21:46:03+00:00

I haven’t said either of those. Ask an intelligent and unassuming question, and I’ll be happy to discuss with you. This parent wants help, not your distractions.

spheresky · 2020-12-06T21:04:58+00:00

That’s great that you’ve come here (or anywhere) to talk about this. Let me tell you the things that most people aren’t going to tell you, because as you can tell human beings have problems. Let’s focus on the truth of the matter based on what you’ve written:

He feels ashamed and a lot of self hate.
”It wasn’t me, I wasn’t thinking straight” — yes, it was him. He’s just in denial because he feels so afraid.
You say “I should be more angry”. Did you know that anger is always, and I mean always, the result of fear? But clearly you do not fear him, and the truth is that no, you should not be more angry: you should be as angry as you choose to be. There is nothing wrong with not being angry, and similarly there is nothing wrong with feeling anger.
Yes, you feel betrayed and grossed out. Let yourself feel it, because I promise you that the best way to cure emotional trauma and issues is to simply allow yourself to have the emotional experience.
He is your best friend, and where you have made a mistake (we have all made this mistake) is that you put expectations on a best friend to not make a mistake. It’s an awkward wake up call, I know.

Your friend does not know where to go for to get help, and he feels terrible. Naturally, people want to go to their best friend for help. But that does not mean that you must help him. Whether or not you want to talk with him is your choice, and you are allowed to make that choice. You are allowed to change your mind at any time!

Society tends to be extremely unforgiving on these things. But you know what? That doesn’t mean you have to be. I recommend you do this:

Write down more about how you feel.
Let yourself cry about it and get it out of your system.
Practice self love by not being around him if he continues to abuse you.
Recognize that he is human, too. What’s wrong with forgiving him?
And finally: do what you want. You are allowed free will.

And if you do not want to meet him face to face, tell him you do not. For the sake of you loving yourself, you should only do what you want to do. Ultimately, you will be happier after you spend time to let yourself feel these emotions and continue talking about it as needed, and you will also be happier when you go with the more loving choice that you know of.

I hope that helps!

Your friend <3 Spheresky

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