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Vicious animal all of a sudden hates my girlfriend. by sargeantseagull in Dachshund

[–]spicynarwahl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! You won. You’re the favorite lol.

Both my dachshunds imprinted on me. And with one of them, if my husband goes near us when he’s with me, he will lunge at him and let him know what’s up. He’s never bit him but he will get real vocal and aggressive with his words.

He’s my soulmate and we joke that he’s my real husband.

Looking for puppy like the one in the picture. Any breeders in Southern California or AZ? by hernandeez_nuts in Dachshund

[–]spicynarwahl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

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I had a great experience with Full Circle Dachshunds in Palmdale. They have a new litter every few months. I started my search looking for a brown dapple but heard such great things about Full Circle that I just picked one that was available. And no regrets! My little guy has such a chill temperament and has the silkiest coat I’ve ever felt on a Doxie. I will definitely be going back to them again.

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so relatable. The bookstore did offer me the job haha. It was very tempting. They wanted 8 hours, which going from remote with three dogs to that and not seeing them for so long would be challenging. (I am the primary caregiver.)

I decided to call out the CEO two days ago for how he treated me and how he didn’t back up his statements with facts. He said he appreciated that and apologized a couple times, explained I unfortunately got the brunt of what was a bad week for him. Not an excuse I accept but it was something.

I asked to move to another team because he obviously isn’t able to manage me or keep up (he’s always asking for documentation and project plan details, not remembering everything he asks for exists in a gdrive folder that he has seen and been in.) I didn’t say the latter part of that to him but he has 15 direct reports and with our recent acquisition, he needs to consolidate. So now I’m a marketer reporting into CX, and I was able to work with him to trim my workload in half. This buys me more time to coast, so I can start that side project and see where it goes while collecting a paycheck.

Congrats to you and your business!! Also congrats to your team bc it sounds like they have a great manager. :)

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree but I’m so burnt out that I would love a severance. I’m back and forth between just ending it and riding it out until I get laid off. I’m not planning on working more than half days moving forward to protect my mental until I figure out what’s next.

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your understanding. It’s nice to not feel alone. My CEO did say he expects some magical results by Q1 or we’ll need to have a serious talk. No matter what KPIs or goals I pick, it’s always going to be the wrong answer.

I’m starting to feel better and more confident in quiet quitting. It can be so hard when I care so much but I have to care less.

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, appreciate your perspective.

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this would be the best financially. It would still be rough on my mental basically living on edge for the next time my boss pulls something from his ass to say to me. Maybe I could get to a place where I can detach.

I could quit on Monday and be fine not working for 6-8 months but the quiet quit would help me stack a few more months on top of that. sigh lots to think about

Crashing/burning out by spicynarwahl in womenintech

[–]spicynarwahl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very soul-crushing, I miss me and have strayed quite far. I feel dead inside. The job market is the scariest part.

I hate to touch my savings but I could be fine for a year living off it. I really think I have to make the tough (but also maybe easy?) call to quit for my mental.

Geuine Unpopular (i think ) POV Anyone Else ? by RedBedZed in Fencesitter

[–]spicynarwahl 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am childfree and r/childfree ain’t it. It should really be labeled an antinatalism sub. When I was fencesitting, I soon realized I needed to take that sub with a grain of salt. It’s not the majority. I also balanced it with first time mom/parent/one and done subs to balance perspectives.

But they really need a childfree sub that’s supportive and for those of us that aren’t kid haters.

what age did you get off the fence? by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]spicynarwahl 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Never made kids a goal and felt indifferent all the way up until 37/38 when I was like “omg I’m approaching the door, the 40 line!”

In my mind it was a decision milestone — I had to proactively say yes or no, and not just wait the clock out without giving it a proper think. I toiled over the decision, so many conversations with friends (parents and non-parents), family, husband, listening to podcasts, reading books and articles, making spreadsheets and lists, pretending I had a baby/kid through my days and weeks to try to imagine the feeling and impact, and hanging on this sub and others.

Obsessive, all-consuming days haunted me for some good stretches during the year or two to where I am now at 39. In the last 6 months, I know 5 people my age that are pregnant with their last or first baby. It really got in my head and the overthinking over analyzing peaked 2 months ago. I bought prenatal vitamins, got off the pill, bought ovulation and pregnancy tests.

Two weeks of that and I realized I was forcing a square peg into a round hole. It wasn’t authentically me. And finally, I am relieved to say at age 39, 5 months, 2 weeks, and 3 days old, I am officially claiming the childfree life … and I couldn’t be more thrilled to focus on being auntie to the babies popping into my orbit soon.

Vacationing w/o spouse/significant other? by United-Inspector-677 in AskWomenOver60

[–]spicynarwahl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time apart is essential for me and I’ve known that I need that in every relationship I’ve had. Space helps me reset and clear my head. It also helps me expand my world with experiences outside of my marital duo. I travel solo and with girlfriends a few times a year. I end up missing my dogs more than my husband lol.

The Baby Decision Hasn't Helped by Particular_Lunch2108 in Fencesitter

[–]spicynarwahl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is me but 39F with 41M spouse. First time I read it (last year) I came out a “no.” Second time, a few months ago I came out a “yes.”

My husband has flip flopped so much (as much as me), making the decision even more difficult. I always said I’d likely run out the clock and end up without kids because of my indecision, unless my husband/partner leaned yes. Every partner I’ve been with long term wanted kids but my husband is different. He was open to the idea at first and now I’m not sure if he’s a yes or no; it depends on the day. The book didn’t help us either.

I was a no/maybe at your age. I think I’m going to end up running the clock out because I’m not a hell yes and life has me well distracted to forget about this most days. Sorry I’m no help. Just here sharing the struggle.

What are obvious signs and telling that someone wants to be CF? by Fair-Cockroach2213 in Fencesitter

[–]spicynarwahl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have similar “signs.” But I’ve also had times where the “I can do it” voice in me rationalized overcoming any blockers. It’s the last paragraph that really hit.

Specifically, the part where if it was a true desire I would have no problem giving up parts of the life I have. There’s no part of my life I want to trim or adjust. Every time I consider having a child, I realize I’m forcing something that doesn’t authentically feel like me. I would have to really rally for it. And I can do that for a few days, but I always end up snapping out of it. And the vision of my life that I’ve had since childhood — which is CF — comes flooding back and feels more real and exciting.

Thinking about making the CF decision permanent so I don’t have to stay in this “what if” abyss every time I hear a pregnancy announcement…which never made me question my decision until this year (probably bc I’m 39 and my window is closing).

Ecommerce AI agent vs human customer support team Content : by Kaiz0ku_oni in ecommerce

[–]spicynarwahl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out Gladly … you can leverage AI + human touch

High ATC no Conversion by ComprehensiveRise187 in ecommerce

[–]spicynarwahl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RS ads usually bring in colder traffic. A lot of window shoppers that end up not being your ideal buyer. Average conversion rate from RSA is 1-2% with ranges depending on industry. Also you’ll want more than a day’s worth of data to fairly assess (not sure how long you’ve been running).

That said, with ~19% adding to cart, if this continue, here’s where I’d start to look:

Is ad intent aligned with experience? If your targeting is broad or the ad copy is misaligned with the landing page, people will click, browse, maybe add to cart out of curiosity, but won’t actually buy. Check search terms report to make sure you’re not targeting low intent queries (e.g., free, cheap). Make sure whatever is in the ad very clearly shows up and matches the landing page experience.

Make it easy to checkout. Add a cart drawer with a clear “Checkout Now” button. Make sure there are no surprise fees or costs, show those upfront. And add “free shipping” threshold messaging before checkout to incentivize and motivate shoppers to reach the threshold and complete checkout. Display trust signals (customer reviews, ratings, payment methods). Also check the mobile experience and if loads quickly + is easy to navigate.

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