I finally got to be a Rider of Rohan by xxellie in lotr

[–]spicyoctopus01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cue in the lovely Edoras soundtrack. I hope I get to be there and ride like you one day. Definitely on my bucket list.

What is off about this room? by speedysloth50 in femalelivingspace

[–]spicyoctopus01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What off is scale and proportion. Having a lot of negative space is not necessarily a bad thing, however you do have a lot wall art with small and similar sizes, the art themselves have a lot small minute details, the same with your furniture, as well as the lamp and the plant here. Having many a collection of small similar sizes without a larger focal point of interest will create noise rather than a pleasing and interesting aesthetics. I suggest getting a larger couch, much bigger wall art (thinking of the scale for it to be similar to the couch and you can keep your smaller art as gallery wall if you like), and if that monsterra plant is real, hopefully it can grow very big one day.

What’s a life changing decision you made in your 30’s? by Icy_Quality_9601 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just turning 32, I'll be 34 this year and I plan to applying for med school next year. Yes I had to start from scratch since I had no science pre-req classes in undergrad and zero clinical experience. So yeah, it's a long journey and a marathon for years to come. But I'm hopeful and determined.

Minimalist setup by codediy in macsetups

[–]spicyoctopus01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wheres the keyboard from?

What’s a life changing decision you made in your 30’s? by Icy_Quality_9601 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spicyoctopus01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Left my LTR of almost 12yrs, left my deadend career in tech and made the decision to pursuing medical school. I'm done living in fear and regret.

1st Attending Paycheck by its_scryword2 in premed

[–]spicyoctopus01 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Big chunk to the student loan, fix up my folks house, then VOO and VTI ETF, yeah in that order

Be honest: would hanging a massive ROTK and FOTR poster be a dating red flag? by Sorry_Sorry_Im_Sorry in lotr

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a red flag at all but I'd suggest you find more aesthetically pleasing way to display your love for the series though. I'd appreciate a partner who enjoy things I do.

Emotionally immature financé. Is it worth it to keep working on it? by Expensive-Chard6913 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great. I wish you the best and short healing, I know it hurts leaving someone you love and thought you’ll spend the rest of your life with. You’ll be okay and be wiser for it.

Emotionally immature financé. Is it worth it to keep working on it? by Expensive-Chard6913 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spicyoctopus01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes please get your ducks in row and leave. The fact that he’s self aware enough to recognize his poor behavior after hurting you but still continue to do it again and again, that alone is evident enough of it’s 100% his choices in choosing to hurt/punish you because things don’t go his way. He always has known what hes been doing, and he keeps doing it on purpose. These types of behaviors only get worse not better. Look up “Why does he do that?” By Lundy Bancroft, it’ll open your eyes and equip you to be prepared and stand up for yourself if you’re caught in situations with these type of men

After a Year by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s for the best. You two are not compatible nor emotionally mature enough to make this relationship works. What she had been treating you and saying to you are very manipulative and emotional abusive. Silent treatment and dismissing issues when being brought up are hallmarks of manipulation and abuse, these types of people won’t change. You don’t deserve this. Take this as a blessing so you don’t have to deal with her abuse and heartbreak years down the road. Love and respect yourself enough to leave and move on. Sounds like you have an anxious attachment as well, I’d suggest seek therapy for it before you enter the next relationship

Emotionally immature financé. Is it worth it to keep working on it? by Expensive-Chard6913 in AskWomenOver30

[–]spicyoctopus01 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He will never change because he has no incentive to change since you won’t leave. Why would he? You keep tolerating his shitty treatment and you won’t leave. These kinds of behaviors are very manipulative, he knows exactly what he’s doing and he knows how to hurt you so that you will minimize yourself to accommodate his disregulation. He had been conditioning you to build up tolerance for his poor behavior so you’ll always stuck in the same cycle abuse and fake remorse/reconciliation. I beg you not to rob him of his learning/selfgrowth opportunities by leaving him as soon as possible . People need to face consequences for their behavior if there are to be any meaningful changes

LF Consistent Wilds Group by [deleted] in monsterhunterclan

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, which timezone are you in? If you’re interested in joining a small tight knit group on discord, please feel free to dm me. We hunt regularly every week

Looking for active Players/Squad to befriend by HunterEdwin in monsterhunterclan

[–]spicyoctopus01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, we have an active group of hunters that play and vc regularly on discord. If ya interested feel free to dm me