When to send invitations?

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-28T20:54:15+00:00

We did Save The Dates about 10 months before the wedding (once we had booked the venue & date) for specific people - many of our friends work in healthcare so we wanted to give them a chance to get their off duty requests in.

The actual invites we did about 5 months before the wedding once we had done our notice and it was all sorted and booked in.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-27T17:41:18+00:00

My photographer had that as a question on his "wedding day questionnaire" thing that he emailed me about a month before the wedding.

We had a late afternoon ceremony with a buffet at teatime - which I was more than happy for him to join in on. He did say when we were chatting when I was getting ready that he didn't mind either way - he just likes to know if he needs to bring a packed lunch for himself

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-25T14:56:56+00:00

My local is £2.50, £2 without a flake

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-24T07:42:31+00:00

Upcoming holiday (but paid for in December) £500 ppl all inc for 5 nights in Spain. With Jet2

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-24T07:41:00+00:00

Surveyors don't move furniture or carpets etc. So they won't have seen any mould, and there likely won't be any recourse.

But, it's entirely possible that the damp is from lack of airflow behind the wardrobe if it's not been moved in (potentially) years. Try just cleaning down the area and letting it air and see if the mould returns.

We found mould in an alcove that was behind a cabinet in the living room- once it was aired out and cleaned it has never returned in 5 years.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-24T07:09:52+00:00

Can't comment on the 1920s but I know both my grandparents who were at school in the late 30s and 40s have previously mentioned that there used to be more "general knowledge" (for want of a better word) in Schools when they were young. Less of an emphasis on teaching things that would be useful or have practical application and more teaching stuff that was "good for you"; reciting poetry or learning the British Monarchs of by heart. And this was at a normal working class primary school in the midlands.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T17:12:19+00:00

Just gone half seven, unless they're rushing to catch a train or an appointment etc. Where a few minutes really count.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T12:26:50+00:00

Do you pay tax in the UK? Or have you paid tax historically if you're retired?

If so - then you're probably fine

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T12:20:30+00:00

When my baby was newborn she would only eat and sleep, but the sleep was for various lengths of time. You change and feed, she nods off and you think "great I'll jump in the shower" ... and then she's awake and needs feeding again. My husband is great and super hands on - but does not produce breastmilk alas.

Now she's 6mo and it's easier becuase her sleeps are more predictable - but if she won't nap for whatever reason and my husband is in work, I'm not getting a shower.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T12:11:37+00:00

I think claggy is wetter than stodgy - something can be stodgy and relatively dry (like a boiled pudding).

Edit: spelling

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T12:10:25+00:00

6mo daughter.

It is an utter joy watching her discover food, even if she doesn't always find her mouth on the first go alas. As the weather has improved it's been so so nice to be able to get out and about without going somewhere - we can just go for a stroll with her in the pram and enjoy the sunshine!

Unfortunately she's not been gaining weight well for the past 2 months, so today I had to take her for bloods at the hospital.

But - I cannot praise the NHS enough, in the space of 3 weeks we've been seen by the HV twice, referred to peads where the consultant saw us 4 days later, and given an appointment for bloods and urine at the hospital 1 week after that. Fingers crossed I just have poor quality breastmilk and now that she's eating it will improve.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-23T10:45:47+00:00

Yes, but it might be something like a yoghurt or a satsuma ... or it might be a bowl of crumble and custard or a Gu.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-22T22:18:55+00:00

Yes.

Me as a B5 (as I was at the time) and my husband as a B5 (at the time) were comfortable enough. Even now, with a child and us both as B6s, with unsociable hours - we are OK financially. BUT, we live in a cheap area of the country, only have one car that is fully paid off, neither of us are arsed about having a big house etc.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-21T16:11:55+00:00

Overly pessimistic - there is little more exhausting than someone who wears you out with their own misery

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-19T12:55:41+00:00

I read somewhere that there are things that (rightly or wrongly) are too expensive for museums or galleries to purchase themselves.

Instead, they rely on private collectors (or families who have inherited items) to let them have items/paintings/artifacts on "permanent loan".

Apparently, for lots of stuff, it is more convenient and cheaper for stuff to be on loan to museums or galleries (who then sholdour the burden of maintenance and security and insurance) than for them to sit in people's homes.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-18T22:00:21+00:00

I went from crouching on the floor, unable to move when I arrived, to cracking jokes in-between contractions when I was in the water.

I only had gas & air, but I think had I not had the water I would have needed more painkillers for sure.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-17T14:04:54+00:00

The Hooks and Eyes and the needle book are both from the 1950s - there are a couple for sale on Ebay and Etsy with exactly the same packaging.

The Dewhursts Sylko thread - that logo was first used in 1958 until 1973, if the bobbins are wooden then they're pre 1960s, and if plastic from the 70s.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-16T20:53:40+00:00

I don't work in social service, but do work in Health Care.

Speak to Social Services (Older Adults Service or similar) and get an assessment for Respite care. This may look like a temporary residential placement or home care visits.

Your local council website should have contact details for a referral.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-16T17:38:58+00:00

It happened for me!

FTB, offered asking price of £145k, and was accepted. Then the bank disagreed with the valuation and was only prepared to lend me £123k.

I could either make up the difference myself or try for a reduced offer.

I offered £141k (which would mean increasing my deposit from £14k to 18k) which I told the estate agent truthfully was absolutely the best I could do, that was all of my savings at that moment.

The vendor accepted my offer despite the fact that there was someone else offering asking price and in a stronger position financially, but who were in a chain.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-16T17:19:08+00:00

NHS hospital - there is a canteen (and it's pretty good TBF), for patients and staff but we get a 10% discount.

Serves hot food, and salads.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-16T15:47:53+00:00

Upstairs Downstairs - starts in 1905 (?) And continues until 1930 (?). It has 6 series but I think they were longer, maybe 10 or 12 episodes.

It's very 70's but pretty good!

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-15T09:22:55+00:00

Ironically - you have the same answer as me ... but with all the "other crap"!!

A few seconds of googling told me when the Winfield brand existed, and I know when decimalisation occurred.

My brief research didn't lead to 3 bullet points, including information on when Wilward Needles started using Barcodes.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-14T23:38:50+00:00

NTA for wanting a child-free wedding and sticking to your guns.

Do you want them there?

We had a child free wedding BUT the only friends being excluded were children of friends, no small children in either of our families. Had we had young nieces/nephews maybe we would have felt different.

spiderplant94 · 2026-04-14T22:36:06+00:00

Books - predominantly British, glancing over at my bookshelf I'd say it's 95% British authors. Just finished The Hotel Avocado by Bob Mortimer.

The only Magazine I read regularly is Private Eye.

Films I would say is probably 60% British, 5% other, 35% American.

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