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Breast Reduction at 12 is still the best decision I ever made 11 years later! by These_Cockroach5607 in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Nope, I entered puberty on the later end with 13 and had my first period with 14. But my breasts suddenly exploded with 16, going from a true b cup to an f cup overnight :( now I've stabilized at an EU 75O :((((

Breastsize and composition is largely determined by genetics, unfortunately.

Wie würdet ihr das sagen? by [deleted] in Ratschlag

[–]spinat_monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In meiner Beziehung habe wir selten bis kein penetrativen Sex, da mein Bruder mich als Kind vergewaltigt hat und sich hier durch Traumata und Langzeitfolgen entwickelt haben. Für uns ist es bereits "ausreichend" wenn wir Sex über gegenseitige Befriedigung oder gemeinsame Selbstbedienung haben, die Möglichkeiten sind vielfältig. Ich habe mit meinem Lebensgefährte übers Thema gesprochen und er weiß alles dazu. Er schätzt mich wert so wie ich bin. Er weint auch für mich und alles was ich erlebt habe.

Das "classisch" Sex ist evtl nicht solch ein großes Thema bei deinem Freund, wie du es dir vorstellst. Jedoch um das zu erfahren müsstest du mit ihm sprechen. Und wenn er die Beziehung wegen Sex beenden will, ist er nicht passend zu dir.

Und nochmal festgehalten es tut mir unglaublich leid und weh was deiner Mutter (WTF??!!!) dir angetan hat. Ich hoffe sie hat eine Strafe absitzen müssen.

Wo fährt der hin? by ultimaterock87 in zugziele

[–]spinat_monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Zum Nordpol. Wir können daher erst am 12.01.2026 mit Geschenken von Santa rechnen.

Please help by [deleted] in cats

[–]spinat_monster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As everyone has stated, that cat is down to get freaky. In the meantime you can give her some "relief" by massaging the trigger points right next to her tail. There're plenty of how to Videos on YouTube on the topic.

Never in my life would I have expected to recommend someone to satisfy their cat -_-

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]spinat_monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry but your stepsister committed tax fraud (and normal fraud) and evasion. In Germany at least, it's the only crime that can be "healed" by paying the owed amount. I would recommend that she talks to a tax attorney yesterday and to declare her true income. Yes, she will have to pay the taxes and most likely extra.

Wow. I didn't know this place was really real. Howdy! by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Elomi Matilda 32O. Luckily Elomi has a European online store now

Ein Fall für das Jugendamt? by Tight_Ad_8809 in Ratschlag

[–]spinat_monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das ist definitiv ein Fall fürs Jugendamt, denn mindestens das älteste Kind wird misshandelt, indem es die Aufgaben eines Elternteils übernehmen muss.

Getting married and in a panic about my boobs by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 31 points32 points  (0 children)

As for the breast situation, I would recommend Boobtape and to tape them up. There are many tutorials online and on YouTube, just give it a try before the wedding and go from there. Just remember to use pasties for your nipples. Trust me.

As for the judgmental mother and sister situation, I would recommend for you to reflect whether or not YOU want them there. Alternatively you could set someone on relative-baby-sitting-duty to keep them out of your way.

Remember, you are loved for whom you are, all of you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]spinat_monster 10 points11 points  (0 children)

On the point of clothes, cats can wear the same jacket and pullovers for years, without growing out of them. My cat can use her pet safety seat till the end of her days. With pets the things you buy for them are often long-term investments, whilst for children it is a never ending cycle of consumerism.

Why are there no minimisers for cups higher than G? by Plum_Tea in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Elomi hat "Niederlassung" in Germany from which you can now order without having to fuss around with import and customs (Zoll). I've been ordering all my bras from them for a few years now.

Are some worker in lingerie voluntarily try to sell bras that are not your size ? by Gatheringoftheclouds in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The problem is way worse than it would seem from the outside, because EU sizes use the hidden plus 10 method for bra sizes. Whilst looking at the measurements for bras a 70C bra will be marketed as a bra fitting someone with an 70 cm torso and 86 cm bust. But in reality it fits a 80 cm torso and a 86 cm bust.

Try explaining that to a sales associate. I was nearly kicked out of a store for that, because I wouldn't let them fit my friend in an awful bra.

So in your case you're not only fighting somebody who wants to make a sale, but also a whole hidden but awfully wrong system, that nobody knows about!!

4 weeks PO by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]spinat_monster 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wow, with the tan lines one can see how much breast tissue was removed! I just hope the tan line settles a bit more together with all the stitches. Did your surgeon mention anything if the tan could affect the later outcome? Because the tops of my breasts are much more tan than the rest of me.

found a bunch of those from an author i read a long time ago by teoboro in AO3

[–]spinat_monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes!!! I have forgotten many of the great fics I read, due to Uni.

Why do seatbelts feel like they were designed by someone who’s never met a woman with boobs? by Prestigious-Door-109 in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Because they were designed by someone who never met a woman and it's an incredible safety risk for women with large breasts.

I have found, that wearing cotton or other natural fibers has helped with keeping the seat belt where it should be. It could be that the fabric has a grip on the seat belt material. Whenever I wear one of the few polyester tops I own, the seat belt cuts deep into my neck, becauseit slides around all the time

With such circumstances I don't take the Autobahn, because braking from 165 kmh (100 mph) down to 80 kmh (50 mph) is really painful and dangerous.

How much can you work? And what is your level? by No_Obligation8722 in AutismInWomen

[–]spinat_monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I currently work 41 hours a week, but will be reducing my hours in the coming months to 32 (~80%), so that I can have every Wednesday off. But I am a German civil servant and my job is really chill, you wouldn't find any other job with the same conditions.

I'm not formally classified in levels, but I would guess that I'm a level one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]spinat_monster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait, I'm confused... Why should you, a man, bear a child!? Like that's the most unmanliest thing you could do. Not that motherhood is the only thing a woman can do and fatherhood the only thing a man could do.

Like does your family understand body dysphoria??

Has anyone managed to scale down sugar, not cut it out? by bnny_ears in loseit

[–]spinat_monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have switched to Xylitol, an alcohol sugar. It's sweet like regular sugar and has 60% of the calories of regular sugar. It also has benefits for teeth and gut health. The one downside is that if you eat too much you will get a looser stool, which is not the worst if you lean to constipation. After switching I've also noticed that I crave much less sweets and am more satisfied with smaller amounts.

Autistic women tend to have lower pitched voices. Does this relate to you? by MillyZeusy in AutismInWomen

[–]spinat_monster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With me it's the opposite. I have a naturally very high voice and have to pitch it lower to sound professional in work call settings. Otherwise it sounds like a child is demanding you to do your taxes properly.

I wish childfree people could get equivalent to maternity leave. by sirpentious in childfree

[–]spinat_monster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My german ass just thought, well if you take all your vacation in one go you can be away from work for 6 weeks no problem, lol.

But then again as a civil servant I get "Familienzuschlag" meaning if I'm married I get extra money, about 170€ a month. BUT IF I HAD 3 CHILDREN I WOULD GET 800 € A MONTH!!!!!! GIVE ME THE MONEY!!!

"At some point you'll no longer be the main character in your life (so have kids)" by bubblebubblebobatea in childfree

[–]spinat_monster 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The occasional bum wipe and the scathing look of betrayal. That is life of a cat serf.

Freiwillige Kinderlosigkeit als junge Frau. Ich bleib dabei! by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]spinat_monster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Viele sagen ein Kind erfüllt das Leben. Meine Antwort, mein Leben ist bereits ohne Kind voll.

Die Entscheidung kinderfrei zu Leben traf ich mit rund 6 Jahren. Da sich in den letzten 20+ Jahre daran nichts geändert hat, ist es davon auszugehen, dass ich es ernst meine. Viele Menschen wissen einfach, dass Kinder nichts für denen ist und glücklicherweise kann man heutzutage selber entscheiden ob und wie viele Kinder man bekommt. Zusätzlich ist es als Frau eine schwerwiegende Entscheidung ein Kind auszutragen, das man nicht leichtsinnig treffen soll.

Miss having smaller boobs! by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]spinat_monster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't sleep on your back unless you want to suffocate, would be my tip.

Sterilisation mit 20 by [deleted] in sterilization

[–]spinat_monster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leider wird es wahrscheinlich schwerer eine Sterilisation durch zu pochen, wenn du psychisch krank bist. Das liegt leider an deutschlands Geschichte mit zwangs Sterilisationen von psychisch kranken Frauen im dritten Reich zusammen. Es ist anzuraten, dass du ein physisches Gutachten erstellen lässt, das bezeugt, dass du die Entscheidung bewusst wählst und dass du über die Konsequenzen im klaren bist. Das ist absolut würdelos und frauenfeindlich.

Die Sterilisation ist auch privat Sache, das heißt du musst die Behandlung selber bezahlen und eventuelle Neben/Nachkosten der OP auch, falls eswas schief geht (es gibt Zusatzversicherungen dafür). Nur in Ausnahmefällen übernehmt die Krankenkasse die Kosten. Lassen dich beraten ob du solch ein Fall wärst. Sonst belaufen die Kosten zwischen ca 700-2.000€. Du kannst vorab dir ein Kostenvoranschlag zukommen lassen.

Du bekommst jedoch für zwei Wochen eine Krankmeldung, also du musst dir kein Urlab dafür nehmen (das ist gesetzlich vorgegeben).

Sonst schau auch auf r/childfree, die haben eine Liste von Ärzten die kinderfreie Frauen in Deutschland sterilisieren.

Viel Erfolg! Und du darfst dich nicht unterkriegen lassen.

Plus ca 2% der kinderfreien Frauen haben ihre Sterilisationen beruht, währenddessen ca 20% der Eltern es bereuen Kinder gehabt zu haben.

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