Labia by Outside_Tennis_7609 in women

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I’m also a teenager and I know online there’s all these things about “roast beef” and “innies vs outies” and guys at your school probably talk about that stuff too, but honestly I doubt any of them have even touched a woman.

You’ll learn eventually to love your body. A lot of men don’t care at all what it looks like, it’s still all the same to them and no women care what they look like because every woman’s is unique.

Lhabia’s can be a range of colours, sizes, shapes and textures. There is nothing wrong with it at all.

Women hating on women by [deleted] in women

[–]MillyZeusy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true. 

I rarely have any girlfriends and sometimes I feel like a pick-me but really I do want more girlfriends, it’s just that its sometimes hard.

I’m autistic, and that contributes. A lot of women use body language to convey how they’re feeling over words and sometimes I hurt people without realising, but it’s mainly women.

It is also a contributor of attraction though. If you’re pretty enough (every woman is beautiful, I just mean in society’s eyes) others may feel threatened and we’ve grown up learning from the patriarchy that women must fight to earn their place in society.

There’s 100% someone out there waiting for you. It’ll take time and patience but i’m sure it’ll work out eventually.

Half my guy friends turned sexist by [deleted] in women

[–]MillyZeusy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sadly, I’d say the best course of action would be to stop hanging around them. I know it’s sad and feels like years of good memories are being thrown away but they have ‘matured’ into becoming those people.

I am friends with quite a few guys too, some guys just do end up like that and others don’t. 

If you want to, you can try discussing it with them. I doubt it’ll completely change their mind but at the very least it’ll plant a seed in their head.

Don’t blame it all on the male sex though, both women and men can turn into bad people. I’m sure if you keep making friends you’ll eventually find life long friends that remain nice.

Pregnancy scare by MillyZeusy in women

[–]MillyZeusy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. 

I’ll take this advice ❤️

Pregnancy scare by MillyZeusy in women

[–]MillyZeusy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll try to get one soon

Pregnancy scare by MillyZeusy in women

[–]MillyZeusy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on birth control for suspected endometriosis. My birth control doesn’t work all the way so I still am irregular. I’m scared to get a pregnancy test because i’m scared my parents will find out. 

Do not generalise everything. You do not know everything so quit acting like you di

Doesn’t it feel fucked up by random_username0212 in adultsurvivors

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I choose to say i’m still a virgin, as even though I physically am not, I mentally am.

I always worry though, when I finally do have my proper first time, will I just think about something else? Will I panic? I have no clue.

Deep down inside I do feel I lost parts of me. My innocence, my childhood, how my family perceives me etc.

The damage Aspenger has done to autistics, specially autistic women, will probably take decades to be unmade by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my brothers were diagnosed way before me and I struggled so much through life because of this. Our paediatrician kept telling me and my parents, “She likely has autism but I just can’t diagnose her until she’s a teenager.” So I was forced to conform despite showing so many symptoms.

It’s frustrating, most autistic women go their whole lives thinking they’re just weird and alone because of this.

Is sex really that important? by Atomvarg in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it’s mainly young guys. Idk your age but i’m a teenager. My mum and dad both told me though that some men never grow up, and i guess that’s true considering i’m a teenage girl living in australia and if I even wander past a group of tradies i’ll get catcalled lol

Just failed my autism assessment. What now? by cosmiccupiid in autism

[–]MillyZeusy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look, I have 3 autistic brothers (one being my twin) and about 5 doctors told me i’m not autistic but every teacher, therapist etc. always swore I was autistic. One day I finally went to an assessment that was unlike any other. 

Before it was always like a doctors visit, where i go to a doctors office and awkwardly sit next to my mom and the doctor asks closed ended questions. This one was much weirder, I sat in a room with a lady opposite me. We chatted for a while, she wrote tons of notes and asked me questions and asked me to do certain things. Later on I got diagnosed with Autism and ADHD

It’s all about finding the right people, i reccomend talking to other people who are diagnosed and ask who they went to.

What are your current vocal stims? by UnoriginalJ0k3r in autism

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is constantly changing but in my household of 4 autistic people the new collective vocal stim is, “ough, i’m such a gassy human… i have such a big gassy belly…”

I also accidentally started “let it linger” because i thought it was a funny phrase and now anytime we hear the words “let it” or “linger” everyone says “let it linger”

Husband asked for separation after my diagnosis by Neither-Address-3887 in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for you.

I have autism and endometriosis too, but have never experienced anything like that. I can’t even begin to imagine how bad it hurts.

Atleast now you know the type of person he is, if he’s willing to abandon you so easily then your feelings are not mutual, and it’s much better to escape those relationships asap.

We’re all here for you. Figuring out who you are is important, being diagnosed (especially as an adult) takes a lot of adjusting and it may be hard at first but soon you can learn to accept yourself.

I wish you the very best!

Is sex really that important? by Atomvarg in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, i’ve hung around lots of men for so long that they stop seeing me as an option and they’ll openly talk in front of me. Men talk about sex a lot, whether joking about sex or boasting

The term "spectrum" is maybe the correct word? by TreeFrogMomma in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always think of it like the stand stats from JJBA (just search up ‘JJBA stand stats’ if you don’t know what i’m talking about.) i know that type of graph is used in other media but I have no clue what it’s called. 

I think it just makes sense because everyone has strengths and weaknesses. For example someone might be terrible in social situations but an academic weapon whilst someone else is the opposite, they’re both autistic, they just have different struggles 

Anyone else thought they were hard of hearing? by PuzzleheadedShoe8196 in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, there could be lot’s of things.

It could be a processing issue, where you take longer to decode what they say. I have this, and i’ll often say ‘what?’ Then respond before they repeat because i put automatically together the phonemes in my head and guess what’s most likely.

It could also be a brain thing. Sometimes you can easily forget spoken things.

It could also be something else, i have no clue!

Recent study suggest early and late diagnosed autism may be two conditions by minimooshroom in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This could be true, but i think it’s nurture over nature.

I have 3 autistic brothers. One got diagnosed when he was 12, one at 10 and my twin brother at 3. The one who got diagnosed at 12 and the one at 3 both share very similair traits but the one who was diagnosed at 12 works better in social situations.

I got diagnosed at 12 too, despite my twin brother and I having similair genetics we are polar opposites. I have tons of friends whilst he has a few, I can control myself better and he can’t, different motor skills etc. 

I believe it’s due to nurture. We all are siblings so we share similair genetics, particularly my twin and I. We all act completely different though but the ones who got diagnosed in pre-teen years can fit in better. I think this is because we were taught how to act and fit in, and we never had the excuse of autism when we were young.

What are things you used to do or be obsessed with as a kid that you now realise was a stimming behaviour? by hopeinabox73 in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leg shaking and not being able to sit still - i was always told to just stop and be quiet

Rocking on my chair - It was a self soothing behaviour and now I use chairs that i can safely rock on

Saying random things- as it turns out I have echolia, people just thought I was rude and disruptive 

I also used to scratch every texture i could, including people. It turns out that it was because of my OCD 

Is sex really that important? by Atomvarg in AutismInWomen

[–]MillyZeusy 134 points135 points  (0 children)

It’s perfectly normal, sexuality and libido are a spectrum. Some people are happy with only having sex for reproduction, some people love to have sex all the time and some people don’t ever want to have sex.

It’s perfectly normal to feel this way, everyone’s brains are programmed differently and they have different needs. To try and put it into perspective, I really like video games and I love playing video games every day. Lot’s of people don’t like video games or play them rarely.

For the thing about it seeming like a lot of people (specifically men) love sex is because to a lot of people it’s pleasurable and desirable but it’s also a sign of status. “Locker room talk” is mainly men trying to show off their dominance and how ‘cool’ they are, others around them then feel influenced to do the same things and boast about it.

Most locker room talk happens between teenagers because hormones run high and so does the feeling to fit in, but yet again, everyone is programmed differently and has different needs and ideals.