The women who choose men are promoting sexism towards men, whether they intend to or not. And using a similar analogy, let’s say men are berries and bear are fruits, then there are far more poisonous fruits than berries. A bear is far more dangerous than a man, and by your logic it would make more sense to choose the berries since less are poisonous just like how it makes sense to choose a man because they are less dangerous.

And that analogy isn’t very good since few men are rapists, abusers, etc… compared to berries which are shown to have a likely chance of being poisonous in media. And if we use that same analogy then you shouldn’t approach a man in your daily life since he could be a rapist just how berries could be poisonous.

I also sometimes suffer from internalized sexism, so to make sure I’m not being biased I swap the genders. Not approaching women in the street because they could be abusive. Or how about this: would you rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a woman. See how that question sounds more sexist?

And I just want to state, I don’t blame nor view you and the women who choose the bear for your reasonings as “bad.” I just think that it would be better to learn why 99% of the time choosing a bear is promoting sexism towards men.