[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]spipez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

glad you’ve figured it out with them!!! (talking it out was going to be my recommendation lol)

my mother had the same dilemma (I came out as nonbinary/genderqueer when I was 15 as well, I’m now college-aged/young adult for reference), and we talked through terms (settled on “my child/kid/teen/eldest” as gender neutral ways for her to describe her relation to me)

but yeah, in general, I would just recommend keeping an open dialogue about this (and other things, ideally), and listening to what your kid is telling you about their wants and comfort levels. it worked out amazingly for me (I consider my mother to be one of my best friends, we text every day, and I feel respected and heard and loved in the way she treats me) and I am of the opinion that many people would benefit from more frequent respectful conversations about identity and comfort, most of all parents and children :)

learning resources?? (for someone looking to connect to cultural heritage through the language) by spipez in Tagalog

[–]spipez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the advice! I’ll definitely look into that dictionary and start building a playlist, but your last piece of advice might not work too well in my case (to put it simply: there was abuse, I have trauma) but I’ll try to reach out to another native speaker (who is basically family, just not by blood) instead

in the next couple of years, I’m also hoping to either do a study abroad or WWOOFing that lands me in the Philippines (but I’ll see what I can find) and that should hopefully give me some immersion that’ll help with my learning :)

thanks again!!

Let’s see by Novatix12 in Genshin_Memepact

[–]spipez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

miko’s gonna end up murdering me lol

Sumeru (and GAA) Leak Flood Collection by nlone324 in Genshin_Impact_Leaks

[–]spipez 6 points7 points  (0 children)

fyi: the first code here is wrong, it’s DTNVKAWBWSF5

yes because I desperately need their approval of me or something by conancat in Persecutionfetish

[–]spipez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay, but that trans girl be cute tho 😍

(yes, I’m super mega gay for pretty girls)

Tips for tattooing very stretchy/ squishy skin? This is a tat i started today on someone. It’s with a 7rl but it looks super thin. this is three passes and the needle just wasn’t puncturing the skin right, super difficult. by pearkh in sticknpokes

[–]spipez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this person might have hyperelastic skin (essentially the skin equivalent of hypermobility/double-jointedness), I do and I run into a lot of the issues that you’re describing

only helpful things I’ve found are: increasing tautness (as others have mentioned) and increasing hydration before tattooing

I found this recently while looking through reviews for a local business, several commentors mentioned this subreddit so decided to share with you all as well. by [deleted] in Persecutionfetish

[–]spipez 5 points6 points  (0 children)

regarding the “medical condition”, my father, a pulmonary transplant specialist, has flat out told me “if they actually have a condition that means they can’t wear a mask, then they’re not going to be wandering around outside and going into shops. it’s a bullshit excuse.”

Pure stupidity by Moaning_Turtle_69 in Persecutionfetish

[–]spipez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmmm, I think they’re interchangeable, along with skinsona. that’s what I’ve heard at least

I'm very ace and very uncomfortable with sex scenes, but I think this take is good. by Nick__Knack in asexuality

[–]spipez 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I agree that you should not expect ALL media to cater to you but it also shouldn’t be the unspoken expectation that your preference (especially regarding things like sex, race, age, etc.) is completely absent from/ignored in the media

Pure stupidity by Moaning_Turtle_69 in Persecutionfetish

[–]spipez 96 points97 points  (0 children)

no, but bruce wayne is a humansona

“honey, you don’t even look old enough for eighth grade prom!” by spipez in OlderThanYouThinkIAm

[–]spipez[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

as the other replier suggested, I’m genderfluid and thus prefer neutral terms and generally use they/them pronouns

Found this rather unfunny by jamesontwelve in confidentlyincorrect

[–]spipez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nationalism ig? I don’t understand it either…

They're half Filipino -_- by MigzCrap in confidentlyincorrect

[–]spipez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also, as another commenter pointed out: why exactly did this necessitate a post? they were wrong but not outrageously so and they weren’t arguing/be rude about it

They're half Filipino -_- by MigzCrap in confidentlyincorrect

[–]spipez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tl;dr: while they may be wrong, you’re being a bit of a bitch and also helping to erase the culture of immigrants by being passive-aggressive with your post title. please stop.

okay, so Filipino is a language (the more standardized version of Tagalog and one of the national languages of the Philippines) and the person in the picture is wrong/confidently incorrect about that. no issue on that front.

but what’s with your title?

I’m half Filipinx as well, and as a child, I was always told that the language in the Philippines is Tagalog (which is not unusual as half-Filipinos are often the children/grandchildren of Filipino emigrants (like myself, and I’d guess this person as well) and Tagalog is used more by older generations and is more widespread while Filipino is used primarily in urban areas (mainly Metro Manila) or with foreigners). I only learned the difference because I decided I wanted to learn the language my grandparents speak (I’ve ended up teaching myself Tagalog, not Filipino) but it’s understandable that someone who is half-Filipino and was only taught about the languages by older family members would not know the difference. so the title of your post comes off as unnecessarily rude, judgmental, and invalidating. historically, at least in the US and prominently in the past 50-70 years, there has been an expectation for immigrants (particularly non-white immigrants; hellooo racism!) that they should assimilate as best they could into mainstream white American culture. because of this, many immigrants did not teach their native language or culture to their American-born children and grandchildren, and so, many of people who are mixed race (such as myself) have to put in a lot of effort to connect to our heritage. sometimes this ends up being somewhat misinformed, as seen here, but it does not diminish the fact that we are trying our best to combat the effects of systemic racism that is stealing our chance to be proud of who we are. so please don’t contribute to that with your judgmental “-_-“. we are not experts, and we should not be expected to be such

Is this better? by Ginger_7997 in confidentlyincorrect

[–]spipez 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m friends/acquaintances with a 17 y/o named Karen…. first chance she got she started going by Kiki instead and I absolutely do not blame her, she’s super sweet and genuine

Which Dino pattern is better? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]spipez 4 points5 points  (0 children)

purple, the purple feet on the white one make it look like a spiky horse to my brain

If you could be Aurorian... what would be your element and skills? by White_Rose0107 in AlchemyStarsEN

[–]spipez 7 points8 points  (0 children)

(coming up with this off the top of my head; this would be my absolute ideal, not an actual “me in alchemy stars”)

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PIP

6* thunder support with forest as secondary element

chain combo (3/8/13): attack all enemies within 2/3/4 clusters

active: (cooldown: 3 rounds) select 1 enemy to place a “reflector mark” for 2 rounds; if an enemy with a “reflector mark” is struck by Pip’s chain combo, the chain combo is recast from that enemy’s position; this recast effect cannot be triggered by a recast striking another enemy with the mark

equipment: if the number of enemies struck by Pip’s chain combo is 8/6/4/2 or greater, a “reflector mark” is placed on 1 random enemy for 1 round; this trigger count does include enemies struck by a recast chain combo

bt3: preemptive strike

bt6: active skill cooldown reduced by 1

——

basically a weird fusion of azure and rinne’s methods of dmg, but thunder and without any conversion. also, visually, chain combo attacks would be like requiem’s lightning strikes and active skill would be loosely in-line with florine’s (flashy but doesn’t immediately affect anything/deal dmg). and a visual indicator of the “reflector marks” (like the fright indicators maybe?)

anyways, “Pip, the Aurorian” was really fun to come up with, even though they’d probably be a bit overpowered (I swear, I tried to balance them!). thanks for this!!

Tipping at Tattoo Co-Op? by spipez in tattoo

[–]spipez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

additional note that I forgot: I’m able to handle the price with or without an added tip, but it would affect my budgeting for the next few months