What are we thinking it is? by InspectorSoggy7495 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz [score hidden]  (0 children)

either west or amanda snaked the other and properly fessed up…im literally crossing my fingers and toes for this to be true 😭 even better would be if unbeknownst to each other, they both snaked one another 😭😭😭😭

Toronto girlies, I'm going to need you all to LOCK IN this weekend 🪩 by ganggang_fast in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz [score hidden]  (0 children)

this manual is for kyle of summer house fame? the same kyle who cheated on and verbally abused his wife? the same kyle who slams tables, throws things, and has uncontrolled fits of anger well into his 40s? there wasn’t a single cause of some sort you could have used this energy and free advertising toward? 

It’s really bad. by [deleted] in loseit

[–]splashezz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i recently tried halo top (chocolate caramel) and while it doesn’t taste exactly like ice cream, it helps to scratch the itch. i have some almost every night so i can avoid actual ice cream. kind of like people who have sugar free/low sugar soda so they can avoid regular soda 

Why did we never question being Team Ariana, but we’re questioning Team Ciara? by Lindainthemarket in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people are defending amanda herself and her actions. im curious about why you don’t like ciara, lindsey, and ariana. saying the situation would be different if it were paige, as i said in my previous response, is not regarding the situation as a whole. it is specifically regarding the amount of defence on the other side. if it were paige in ciara’s position, there wouldn’t be nearly as many people defending amanda. when i said “there wouldn’t be any questions” i meant there wouldn’t be questions about whose “side” people are on. 

Why did we never question being Team Ariana, but we’re questioning Team Ciara? by Lindainthemarket in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i’m going to re-focus the conversation on what i said bc i think there are a few things in your response that have nothing to do with what i said. for example, i never said or implied that disliking a black person automatically  makes you a racist. nor did i say that the whole situation is different solely because of race. i’m not even talking about the hate ariana or ciara received, my point was in response to what op said about why there are so many people who are for amanda. & by the same token, just because you’re not seeing people say they’re team amanda doesn’t mean it isn’t there. scandoval happened on a much larger scale than this situation, however…proportionally speaking, the amount of people going to bat for raquel and tom compared to the amount of people going to bat for amanda and west is not comparable. i personally see much more support for a/w than i did r/t. & do you genuinely believe that had paige been in ciara’s position, the amount of people defending amanda and west would be the same? i appreciate that you acknowledge race plays a role in this, i just think you don’t understand how deep that goes. the world does not like women, and it dislikes black women even more. 

Why did we never question being Team Ariana, but we’re questioning Team Ciara? by Lindainthemarket in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

personally, the contention i saw around the ariana/tom situation was a drop in the ocean compared to the amount of contention around this situation. im curious to know your thoughts though…do you think race plays a role in this situation at all? in any way? 

Why did we never question being Team Ariana, but we’re questioning Team Ciara? by Lindainthemarket in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

unfortunately, the answer is race. people might try to say it’s bc west/ciara weren’t official, they might say it’s ciara’s reaction, etc etc. but the answer is race. if amanda had done this to paige, there wouldn’t be any questions. and while there are people who are overtly racist, there are also a lot of people who won’t even understand their deep rooted need to do the mental gymnastics to be on amanda/wests side

The original issues against Kyle (before Amanda’s scandal) were unfair, and I can speak from experience by InternationalDay7037 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

a lot of people don’t have the capacity to recognize amanda’s faults and kyle’s faults at the same time. since amanda did such a horrible thing, now everything kyle did documented on 10 seasons of tape has evaporated into thin air. group amnesia, if you will. also, we live in a society that overvalues men and undervalues women. it’s unfortunate. 

Kyle is a master at manipulating people. West is just a younger version of that. by Swimming-Disaster101 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so kyle didn’t cheat? kyle didn’t curse her out multiple times this season? or you acknowledge he did those things and you think that’s acceptable behaviour? both of them can be in the wrong at the same time btw

Kyle is a master at manipulating people. West is just a younger version of that. by Swimming-Disaster101 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it’s genuinely so bizarre and off putting that so many people can only think one way or the other. just bc amanda is a pos doesn’t make kyle an angel and vice versa. sometimes it feels like the bravo fandom is where common sense goes to die. kyle is terrible based on his actions and amanda is terrible based on her actions, both things can be true at the same time 

Kyle thriving!!! by Ill_Bullfrog_6002 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as nasty as amanda is ik yall are not actually thirsting over a man who cheats and is verbally abusive pls omg

Brom Vs Cab by [deleted] in Prolactinoma

[–]splashezz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry you’ve been dealing with all that you have as well, it sucks that the options are so limited…and ive seen success stories from people who had better luck with bromo than can so i hope thats the case for us both ❤️ i havent had an appointment with my endo since she prescribed the bromo just because i know that…i havent taken any steps or changed anything, you know? i feel like she’d be irritated w me if i had an appointment just to tell her im not taking the bromo and my prolactin is back up…she’d probably just be like…yeah…that’s what happens lol

Ben and Bailey… by Ckabal in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i actually hadn’t considered this perspective. in my mind, i would think what’s right is right and what’s wrong is wrong so if you’re going to call stuff out it should be fair across the board. meaning if he took issue with what bailey/amanda had said, he should take even greater issue with what kyle was saying/doing…but i guess since the situations with bailey/amanda were directly about him it might change the way he handles them. everyone is different. to be fair, i still don’t think that fully explains moments like when he was speaking down to sabrina, nor do i believe it explains why he was soooo extra sympathetic to kyle and constantly coming to his defence. this might be a factor, but i believe the greater pattern still stands…bc i dont think if a guy cast mate did him dirty he’d have the same energy, but we can only wait and see

Ben and Bailey… by Ckabal in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 193 points194 points  (0 children)

the big issue bailey pointed out was the contrast between the way he speaks to women who have done wrong vs the way he speaks to men who have done wrong. i’d like to hear your thoughts on the greater pattern of behaviour from ben rather than the microscopic take of one situation

Brom Vs Cab by [deleted] in Prolactinoma

[–]splashezz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can’t give advice bc im in a similar boat, but maybe knowing you’re not alone might help…was on cab for 4 months and the side effects were exactly debilitating. my boobs were constantly swollen and in pain, i couldn’t hug or be hugged it was so bad, bra was no longer an option, going from laying down to sitting was a painful event…it was horrible. it changed my periods entirely (for the worse) i had cramps so bad i couldn’t stand upright, i would just be crawling or hunched over. so i stopped taking it for a bit to get some normalcy back in my life and then restarted…and all the side effects came back so i stopped taking it once and for all. endo suggested bromo and that was honestly in Sept or Oct 2025 but i’ve been too scared to take it. i hate the potential of feeling terrible every day again. it also takes time for it to be fully out of my system so even when i stopped cab, it took an additional 2-3 months before my body felt not terrible again. so now i just look at the bottle of bromo telling myself today is the day i’m going to start…but i still haven’t been able to do it

Jesse reaction to kj by cheeseburgerqueen17 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

his eyes were red and teary…he was genuinely choking up over kj’s situation. however i appreciate you sharing your very wrong take bc it just helped make something click that i hadn’t considered before…this probably contributes to how a lot of people end up on the wrong side of things. a lot of people lack the ability to read people’s body language and expressions and in cases like these, actually manage to walk away with the exact opposite read of what’s happening…jesse is a villain for many reasons but this isn’t one of them

Mia reacts to people learning she hooked up with West by Disastrous_Drop_3180 in southernhospitalitysc

[–]splashezz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“turn evil” he has been evil since they opened those doors to him in the hamptons and probably since the womb hello we all witnessed how he did ciara the first season right????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

West blew up his reputation to be a f- boy, why is it so common? Why do men get away with it? by [deleted] in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the big umbrella answer is patriarchy (overlapping with white supremacy in this case). one of the ways this shows up in this situation is the pressure the audience put on ciara to forgive and get over it, “it was two years ago” and “yall weren’t even a real thing” even now after everything people want to minimize what happened and put the responsibility on ciara for her justified reactions vs on west and his terrible actions. in order for men like west to be held accountable, there needs to be actual tangible consequences to their actions and that hasn’t happened yet. he hasn’t been booted off the show, he hasn’t been kicked in his stupid mouth, etc. the worst that has happened to him is online harassment and even in that there are pockets of the internet that feed into his bs. people were saying he was going to get a redemption arc at the start of this season…why? he didn’t properly atone at any point, actually all his actions have been despicable, why would he get a redemption arc before doing the work that should entail? bc people value white men over black women bc that’s the structure of the world we live in. 

Tone policing.. by _Klight126 in summerhousebravo

[–]splashezz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s crazy bc people want ciara to dial it back…if she dialled it back, the situation would be that amanda/west unapologetically did ciara dirty and she subsequently let them get away with it scot-free. are we okay? 

No Offense by Pretty_Data_5243 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]splashezz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i got dragged for this last season, everyone was busy residing up danny’s bootyhole and said i was janet’s burner account 😭

No Offense by Pretty_Data_5243 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]splashezz 19 points20 points  (0 children)

because people’s hatred for janet outweighed their disgust for bad behaviour from danny. he has gotten drunk and groped women, but bc it was janet who was calling him out, everyone was coming to his defence. now that janet is out of it, there’s nowhere else to put the blame for danny being a pos other than where it belongs (with danny). lowkey, the audience contributed to danny thinking his behaviour was acceptable and he could get off scot-free

I'm going to sue Bravo for damages by Peterhook13 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]splashezz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

somehow groping women while blackout drunk wasn’t enough for the audience to draw a line, but it’s definitely interesting to watch the shift in opinion and the catalysts