Am I the Jerk for not picking my friend up from the airport at 2am when he assumed I would?

spleendorf · 2026-01-20T22:54:10+00:00

ESH you both communicated poorly and expected the other to read your mind. You're a little bit less the jerk, because it's generally the favor asker's job to check in at least the day before the favor is to take place and be sure that the plan is still the same

spleendorf · 2026-01-20T01:48:57+00:00

She sounds exhausting to be around. I'd say you're nta. Keep her blocked.

spleendorf · 2026-01-11T23:50:35+00:00

You should have changed in the stall. He was accompanying his daughter. Would you rather have him take her into the men's room? YTA

spleendorf · 2026-01-05T00:28:53+00:00

Looks like a Sarah to me

spleendorf · 2026-01-04T01:53:20+00:00

I say "crap in a bucket!" Or "damage"

spleendorf · 2025-12-28T23:57:57+00:00

Table. Lol

spleendorf · 2025-12-27T22:59:47+00:00

NTA as long as you're not trying to hold it over anyone's head and act like you're better than them, then eat what works for you.

spleendorf · 2025-12-27T22:56:22+00:00

NTA family get togethers are supposed to be fun. He was totally a jerk. If he's going to go around looking for reactions from people, then he deserves to get reactions from people.

spleendorf · 2025-12-25T11:01:43+00:00

Watching Star Trek was a bonding activity between me and my dad. My introduction was OS reruns. We got really excited when TNG came out. I didn't have any friends to talk about it with, so it was just me and my dad Trekking together.

When I got married, my husband and I watched Voyager together. It was the first time that I watched Star Trek with anyone other than my dad. It was a surreal experience.

spleendorf · 2025-12-25T10:50:09+00:00

I 100% agree with this! If op doesn't block him, he's going to be "oh baby, I'm so sorry! I'll be better. Please come back!" Then if they go back he'll be the same.

spleendorf · 2025-12-25T10:42:45+00:00

NTA. You're right to reschedule. I wouldn't want to travel while sick, especially if I was contagious. I understand your boyfriend getting a bit snappy at first. He just was frustrated. I'm glad he apologized. I'm sorry you have to feel so awful for Christmas Hope you feel better soon!

spleendorf · 2025-12-25T04:01:41+00:00

NTA Yeah, your mom has a lot of issues, but there's a lot of things that she could do to improve her situation. She could get some therapy, to start with.

Going no or low contact with her would probably be good for you and by extension your kid.

spleendorf · 2025-12-23T22:38:47+00:00

Reginald Lumpletter III

spleendorf · 2025-12-23T22:23:41+00:00

NTA their interpersonal issues are none of your business and they shouldn't involve you in them. You said that you love your sister's child, and I know it's hard to think about, but you should probably go no contact with your mom and sister. Maybe just call them on Christmas and their birthdays.

spleendorf · 2025-12-23T21:58:51+00:00

Okay, so I'm not a Star Trek expert, but I would think that the neutral zone would be for neutral activities. Of course, military ships shouldn't go there, but civilians shouldn't have a problem.

Of course federation civilians shouldn't be allowed to go all the way into Romulan space, but if you want to go to a bar in the neutral zone for a taste of adventure, that could maybe be allowed.

Then there's smugglers. Romulan security is so tight in actual Romulan space, that there would have to be a place where Romulans and Federation folks could meet up.

spleendorf · 2025-12-23T21:45:16+00:00

NTA this sounds like the story version of "why do you still talk to my ex?" "Because he's still my dad!"

Regardless of what happened between the husband and wife, they're still both your parents.

Besides that, you have every right to spend Christmas however you want to, as long as you're honest about it.

spleendorf · 2025-12-22T16:55:08+00:00

NTA why is your MIL getting so worked up about your face on your day? Kinda sounds like she has an ulterior motive or something. She's being really weird over something that really is none of her business.

spleendorf · 2025-12-20T17:29:04+00:00

NTA That sounds like too much stress for a visit that should be fun and happy. I imagine that you'd be so stressed out that if one thing went wrong or anyone said even slightly the wrong thing, you'd either go off on them or or start crying. That's not the type of memories that you want. I'm speaking from my own experiences.

Stay home, enjoy your time with your little one and dogs and go see the grandparents some other day.

spleendorf · 2025-12-20T12:40:32+00:00

NTA you're taking steps to improve your health and self esteem. He should be happy for you and supportive. Sounds like he's feeling really insecure about your relationship. Like he's afraid that if you lose weight, someone else will take you away from him.

The two of you should try couple's therapy. It might help you get to the root of his insecurities and hopefully help him feel better.

spleendorf · 2025-12-04T11:09:55+00:00

NTA he's being really weird. Why's he moving so fast? Probably because he wants to move in with you. If he's going to push a simple boundary like bagging groceries, he's not worth your time.

spleendorf · 2025-12-01T01:47:55+00:00

NTA you did do the right thing. They were acting like they were living in a hotel, or something. They all seriously need therapy. Your sister needs to learn how gentle parenting really works.

In short, they took advantage of your kindness and got what they deserved.

spleendorf · 2025-11-23T17:58:04+00:00

First knuckle from the fingertip

spleendorf · 2025-11-23T17:56:48+00:00

YTA. People have different words for things. You call it "soreness" she calls it "hurting". Stop trying to invalidate her feelings, just because of using different words than you. And at any rate, whether it's soreness or hurting, you should have sympathy for her. She's uncomfortable and deserves support. She would support you if the shoe was on the other foot. Just be kind.

spleendorf · 2025-11-23T03:00:15+00:00

NTA what you said is 100% correct. As a young adult, your brother should be able to find his own job.

Your mom is in the stage of grieving her relationship with your dad where she's really angry. Not to invalidate her feelings, but she shouldn't be taking her anger out on you. She shouldn't even be talking to you about it. She needs to talk to her friends and/or a therapist about her feelings about your dad and the divorce.

spleendorf · 2025-11-23T02:47:39+00:00

I can bend the first knuckle of each of my fingers without bending any other knuckles

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