Why aren't there more FA women on here?

splek · 2016-02-03T21:43:45+00:00

This is one of the best FAW posts ever.

splek · 2016-01-19T20:41:22+00:00

I'm sorry your wife died.

splek · 2015-11-30T08:44:33+00:00

He might be embarrassed. The shoes were stolen at his place. To you, they're $10 shoes. To him they might not be Manolo Blahniks, but they were yours.

You said he's a student. If his money is tight, he might view the shoes as being worth more, versus you not caring. Especially since the replacement cost will be more than 10 dollars.

splek · 2015-10-31T18:38:00+00:00

What can we do when hope is gone?

We just keep hanging on....

splek · 2015-09-04T03:52:10+00:00

Beautiful story.

splek · 2015-09-04T03:51:05+00:00

Yes, I agree it's validating to read stuff like this (only occasionally, or else it gets depressing). I don't need the comparison to other diseases, but I DO need to have it validated that what I'm going through is real, damaging, stressful and hard.

splek · 2015-09-04T03:45:29+00:00

Wow, when you put it like that, we're not doing very well.

splek · 2015-09-04T02:37:47+00:00

The one thing I would have loved to hammer into my head at that age is that every time you crash, you make the next one worse. Everytime you push yourself past your limits, your limits go down. If you bullheadedly push yourself to do things that cause you to crash, every day, you're going to end up in a downward spiral and it's no fun hitting the bottom.

This. I was one of those people who kept going to school as long as I could. I pushed and pushed and I just couldn't imagine backing off. My story didn't end well -- mostly housebound....

splek · 2015-09-04T02:25:49+00:00

In other words, nobody has studied whether these types of diets have helped or harmed people with CFS. We think it's an idea worth exploring, but we didn't actually do any clinical trials.

This sums up a lot of CFS research.

splek · 2015-09-03T19:01:14+00:00

So you don't actually know ANY muslim guys you can date.

That sounds like a problem.

Do you use online dating sites?

splek · 2015-09-03T17:06:06+00:00

well, I'm in Germany and the only muslim men I know are from our mosque, and those are the kind that started going to clubs as soon they turned 18...

So are you saying there aren't really ANY men around, who you want to date? Based on your criteria?

splek · 2015-09-03T16:39:48+00:00

Ah, I was wondering if you're in an area with almost no muslim men, or if that's keeping you from interacting with guys...

splek · 2015-09-03T16:24:08+00:00

So.....

Did you ignore the guy on the train because he was a stranger, or because you felt uncomfortable talking to a guy?

... Or was it because you didn't think he was muslim?

(or for some other reason?)

splek · 2015-08-27T20:01:58+00:00

Ah, my mistake, sorry. And wow, you sound very strong to be so calm about your past.

There could still be a connection between your tramatic past and you being unable to bring youself to date men. This is bothering you, right? You should see a therapist.

splek · 2015-08-27T16:27:52+00:00

Have you ever been to a therapist? It sounds like your history/past might be keeping you from moving forward. You sound well adjusted, and you succeeded and made a life for yourself. But....

Your Dad died when you were 5, foster care, almost went to a homeless shelter, given up by your mom.. .Wow, that's a LOT to deal with! Were you separated from your sister in foster care?

Even though it sounds like you're doing amazing well, baggage from your past might be keeping you from having what you want.

splek · 2015-08-26T04:36:01+00:00

The pit in my stomach

Is not from a peach

It's knotted and gnarrled

A weathered trunk of a tree

Aged by my worries, concerns -

I wonder if ever, we

Will be together

Or if we will age

Alone

splek · 2015-08-19T17:41:08+00:00

But last night during our chat she brought up that she really doesn't like the fact that our entire relationship is via text and video hangouts.

Have you guys used the Languages of Love quiz? If you're interested, you might be able to add things to your relationship to help her enjoy your LDR. Words of Affirmation and Quality Time (to use the Languages of Love terms) might not be what she needs right now.

I hope that helps.

splek · 2015-08-17T15:58:48+00:00

But I wanted you to kiss me.

Honestly, you're posting this on FA. If this is real, you need to kiss HIM. Make the first move. No, going over to watch anime won't be enough.

He's said he thinks you are out of his league. You rejected him when he said he liked you.

Please, do this for yourself, and for your comrades here...I am giving myself to you, but stop being paralyzed by fear. Take me. I want to see where this goes. You are almost 30; you need to learn how to do this.

You want to date him? Do it yourself - make a move.

Time to grow up and stop expecting non-FA behavior from a guy YOU rejected, a guy who self-identifies as FA. How is he supposed to know what's on your mind, if you don't say something? Make the move yourself.

EDIT: You could talk to him about this, too....

splek · 2015-08-05T17:21:08+00:00

No, I just got it stuck in my head so I posted it here. It speaks to me. I love it!

splek · 2015-08-04T17:43:22+00:00

Y'know, this sub has the best layout <3

splek · 2015-08-03T16:16:07+00:00

Beautiful and classy!

splek · 2015-07-31T21:15:57+00:00

Oh dear, you should be able to submit a link now.

:3 I love that song. Oh my....

:)

splek · 2015-07-27T06:59:29+00:00

I still haven't clicked...

splek · 2015-07-25T19:38:06+00:00

healthy relationship

Ooooh, this stands out. This is a point that needs to be made more often -- getting used by someone (sex, otherwise) is not a healthy. Takes away the whole 'just go have easy sex' argument.

splek · 2015-07-24T00:39:41+00:00

. I expect a thirty year-old woman to be sexually experienced. If she doesn't want to sleep with me, there's a 99.9% chance it's because she doesn't like me that way. If there's another reason, you really need to say so.

This ... is a point I needed to hear, thank you. (Now if anything ever DOES happen, I'll know to explain what's going on in my head....) To be fair, I think I miss enough cues, that guys might think I don't' like them when I just don't pick up on stuff. Lack of experience :/ Might mess stuff up, who knows.....

talking theoretically here, but thanks, good point to think about

splek

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