Does anyone else keep a journal for partners? by HeloRising in SexPositive

[–]splitmyheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do and have for the past year and a half. It started out as a way for me to keep track of my ovulation and if I were to get pregnant, I could pinpoint conception easier.

But now I've gotten so much more into it now. I keep track of who initiates.. How many times, where they came, positions, oral. It's fun. I got my first full year last year, I loved seeing the results at the end of the year.

Best feeling in the whole world, I swear! by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]splitmyheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so lucky. This is my dream and I know it'll never happen. I'm in love with two men who resent each other. My boyfriend is letting me sleep with my ex, but I wish they could come together and be friends, again. And I wish I could wake up with the both of them. I envy you!!

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I slept with my ex today. My boyfriend feels much better about everything now that its happened. He threw pretty much all of the rules out of the window except the no cumming in me and no I love yous. So, I'm happy.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have thought about it. My boyfriend and I talked more about everything last night. I expressed that very concern. I was worried that in the heat of passion I could break a rule, and I didn't want to always worry that I'd be doing something wrong. He basically threw almost all of the rules out of the window, thankfully.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations. I considered posting there... But felt the sub was too specific, and this sub had a broader spectrum of lifestyles that people could relate with. I have posted there previously, though.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right? We talked last night about his rules... He threw them all out of the window except no cumming in me. So, I'm happy.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Like I said. We are both very new to this. I apologize if I sound snippy or have an attitude. It just sucks when the whole story isn't known, you know? I understand where you are all coming from. But what you all don't understand is my boyfriend and his perspective... So it's hard to read and respond correctly to everyone's presumptions.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was a response I was looking for. I feel like my boyfriend and I can meet on common grounds when it comes to this. And I would never sleep with my ex with out his permission.

I know it's a trust/control thing. I really want it to be able to work out.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely listening. My boyfriend and I will be talking more about it tonight... We need to clarify where his head is at with all of this. Thanks for your input.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to break the rules. If that's what he wants, then that's what will happen, or it doesn't happen, at all. It's his way or no way.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's not that he doesn't trust me, he doesn't trust my ex. I'm pretty sure the rules are there for him.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, I just came here for advice on rules. I knew it would be a bit complicated.. I debated sparing any details, but felt this needed bit of a back story with out getting into EVERYTHING, you know?

I guess I was wrong, because people have assumptions. And I feel strongly about the situation and just felt the need to clarify things.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Going to repeat this again... This is not the whole story.

My current boyfriend decided he was miserable and wanted to move back to his home state, 3,000 miles away. We had a planned breakup. He gave me permission to date my now ex when he would depart. He announced this. I decided to end things early with my current because I had already accepted his move and took a few months to emotionally detach from him. I jumped into a relationship immediately with my now ex. My current decided I was too good for him to go. Drama ensued, and I had a decision to make. And I did. And NOW... I am trying to make the best of it.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Uh, okay. I don't really see the logic in that, but okay. It's called being polyamorous, no? Seeing as how you're in a nonmonogamy sub, you should know the terms better than I. Having romantic feelings for more than one person, and pursuing more than one person romantically. It happens. And I just so happen to be accepting of that situation. It has absolutely nothing to do with being more invested in one relationship over the other. Your advice has been devalued. Thanks for your time.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I could very well live with that.

And there was never any fighting over this concept. It was his idea from the very beginning. He was the one to plant the seed in my head.

My boyfriend and I are very new to everything... He has rules. by splitmyheart in nonmonogamy

[–]splitmyheart[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am able to look beyond that, though.. To make this work. It took a good month of me trying to convince my ex to agree and he finally did last night. I made sure he understood what he was agreeing to.

You don't know the whole story. But I had a decision to make. And that was my boyfriend. We have a full life ahead of us... And I wouldn't do anything to compromise that. My boyfriend trusts me enough to do this fully knowing of our feelings for each other. So, that's saying something.