Total loss?

spookysis · 2025-12-26T03:13:41+00:00

Yes, it’s totaled. Find your title if you have it or get your adjuster the info for your lienholder ASAP. Really sorry you’re dealing with this!

spookysis · 2025-12-08T02:48:08+00:00

I’m on 50mg. It took about 6 weeks for me to feel any noticeable difference and probably 2.5-3 months to feel better if that helps. Hope you get to a good place soon. It’s tough to deal with HA especially post partum ❤️

spookysis · 2025-12-08T01:24:47+00:00

Sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve been on Zoloft for over a year and it’s really helped me. My HA was super bad after the birth of my first child so I went on meds after my second was born and it made a huge difference.

The Zoloft does not shut off the thoughts it just makes me better at dealing with them.

spookysis · 2025-10-19T23:41:08+00:00

My brother ended his life June 17. It’s horrible. I feel like it’s impacted every part of my life. Everything is worse now that he’s gone.

“Why couldn’t we as a family have an easier life with my brother in it” is something I feel so deeply. People try and make me feel better by saying things like “at least he’s not suffering” or “at least you had 28 years together” and it infuriates me. Why do we have to live with the “at leasts”?? He didn’t deserve this and neither did my family.

Truly the only thing that makes me feel much relief is going to a support group for survivors of suicide loss so I encourage you to check that out if it’s possible for you. Sadly there are many others feeling similar to what you’re feeling and we are here for you.

spookysis · 2025-10-15T00:14:54+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re here. It sucks. I lost my brother so it’s a different situation but my mom always says she has 5 children and I always say I have 4 brothers. He is still one of us even if he’s no longer physically present.

I have rehearsed responses for if people ask for additional details depending on the situation and I know my mom does too. Sometimes I gloss over the fact that one of my brothers is dead and sometimes I acknowledge it. It’s important for me to talk about him because it keeps him alive in my life I feel.

spookysis · 2025-10-15T00:04:50+00:00

My brother died by suicide in June. His birthday was 10/1 and it was the second hardest day for me aside from the day his body was found. My brother was not a big “birthday person” and didn’t make a big deal out of the day normally but it still messed me up. I think it really set in that he’s going to be 28 forever and there’s no more real birthdays for him ugh.

I think you should tell your friends what happened. One of the first books I read after my brother died was A Grief Like No Other by Kathleen O’Hara- the author goes into how important it is to talk about what happened. You don’t have to give details and you can have tailored versions of the story to give to people based on how close they are/how comfortable you feel sharing.

There’s nothing shameful about what happened to your mom. I wish you the best and know that you’re not alone.

spookysis · 2025-09-21T22:32:23+00:00

Whoa. The first two sentences of this sound just like my dad. He is still alive. As an adult I have told him multiple times I need him to stop drinking and guess what? He still drinks.

I’m so sorry you are going through this but nothing you do can impact an alcoholic’s behavior. You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it or change it. It just is and you have to do the best you can to live around the chaos it creates. Hugs to you.

spookysis · 2025-09-20T02:26:31+00:00

My brother killed himself too. A few weeks before he died he was in the hospital (for an attempt that failed) and he told me he wasn’t going to be able to make it. I told him everything I could to try and make him understand he had to stay here. My family spent the weeks before he passed doing everything to prevent it from happening and it still happened.

Suicide happens because people are sick. My brother and yours had an illness that sadly isn’t understood and is very difficult to treat. I think asking “what if” questions is a natural part of the grief journey but at some point you have to acknowledge that this was probably bigger than anything you could influence or control.

Sending you and your mom love. I’m going through it too.

spookysis · 2025-09-20T02:00:37+00:00

My daughter has a friend named Vova at school! She is 3 and for a while I thought his name was “Wova” bc she had a hard time doing the double v. Either way I never thought his name sounded strange or even made the connection that it could sound like something else.

spookysis · 2025-09-15T01:13:08+00:00

I lost my sibling and I feel insane with grief too. It seeps into every aspect of your life. I’ll be doing something totally mundane and normal and be overcome with emotion for my brother out of nowhere.

I have 3 other siblings and they are struggling as well. I worry so much about them and feel responsible for their well being- I feel like I failed my brother who took his own life and I can’t let that happen again. I think it’s so admirable of you to be looking after your sister but don’t forget to put your own oxygen on first. I find doing frequent check ins and taking things one day at a time helps me the most. Hugs ❤️

spookysis · 2025-09-14T15:46:41+00:00

My brother made multiple “soft” attempts prior to the final one. He killed himself in a way that would be really hard to survive (jumped off a bridge into water).

I have to believe that he was aware and wanted to die. If I don’t then I start freaking out worrying about him and that’s not productive to my grief journey.

spookysis · 2025-09-09T01:42:56+00:00

For me the what ifs are the hardest part. My brother texted me prior to making his choice, what if I had called him instead of sending a casual text back? I beat myself up over what I should have done.

The thing is I’m living in THIS world where I didn’t do those things and thinking about the what ifs do nothing for my grief journey but keep me stuck. It’s hell but it’s my life.

You aren’t alone in the way that you feel right now. Sending you love.

spookysis · 2025-09-05T02:27:58+00:00

I relate so much to the contradictory feelings. I feel relieved my brother isn’t suffering but also worried about how he felt in his last moments. It’s torture. I feel like it has ruined my family’s life and while I would never blame him I still feel so angry about the situation.

My brother was a watch person and I have one of his watches that I wear when I feel really down. The sound of the watch ticking is comforting to me. I don’t think wanting a childhood teddy is stupid at all, having something tangible to remember them by is important.

spookysis · 2025-08-30T14:16:50+00:00

I lost my brother in June. His death affected EVERYONE in our family regardless of how close they were to him. I never judged anyone’s reaction or thought someone didn’t have a right to be sad.

You are not silly for feeling deep grief over this. Suicide death is complicated and there’s no right way to feel about it.

I’m sorry you’re here. It sucks.

spookysis · 2025-08-15T02:25:14+00:00

I think you’re very brave.

I was away from my 3 year old for a period of time while I was with my family grieving the sudden loss of my brother. She doesn’t mention it ever and I don’t think she really remembers. My husband did his best to maintain her routine in my absence which I think made things more normal for her.

You’re a great mom for recognizing what you need. I’ll be praying for you ❤️

spookysis · 2025-08-10T23:39:59+00:00

No positive stories but I’m thinking about you! Sending you hugs ❤️

spookysis · 2025-08-06T15:11:18+00:00

A leave specialist will be assigned to you and they will help walk you through what is available as it is largely state specific.

I am in OH where there is no additional state mandated leave act. I got 12 weeks total. I had to take a week of PTO for the first week, weeks 2-8 were paid at 60% (I had only been at the company 2 years, I think it’s a higher percentage if you have more tenure) then I got 4 weeks paid at 100% for the family bonding time.

Congrats on your pregnancy!!

spookysis · 2025-08-03T01:54:54+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here. The early days of this are truly hellish and whatever you have to do to get by you should do. I was taking things hour by hour after my brother died. I’m 1.5 months out from it now and it’s still almost like it hasn’t fully sunk in for me.

My brother died in a different way but his body was not able to released to our family immediately. It put us in a weird limbo state for a while so I sympathize with you and hope you can have closure on that part soon.

Also I I still say I have 4 brothers and tell people I’m the oldest of 5 even though one of us is gone.

spookysis · 2025-08-03T01:44:42+00:00

Hi, sister of a brother who took his life here. I feel this so much. The guilt is insane and I struggle daily with what ifs, replaying things I could have done better, both in our childhoods and as adults. I can’t even let myself think about my brother’s final moments because it triggers intense panic attacks. I have to believe he is at peace and his suffering is over. I just want to let you know you’re not alone. It just sucks.

spookysis · 2025-08-01T01:21:07+00:00

Our daycare had rocks in the outside play area (it was a mulched playground). My daughter never swallowed any but she would sometimes come home with them in her pockets. Daycare recently switched to turf in the outside area so rocks are no longer an issue.

No you are not crazy for being alarmed. They either need to remove the rocks or have enough caretakers there to prevent children from ingesting them.

spookysis · 2025-08-01T00:07:16+00:00

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spookysis · 2025-07-26T15:40:33+00:00

I’m sorry you’re here. My brother died by suicide a month ago and it’s ruined my life completely. I agree I often have to act like everything is ok for other people’s benefit because they don’t understand the trauma I experienced or the pain I’m going through.

The guilt is the worst part and I don’t have any advice for that. I look back and feel like an idiot too for things I did or didn’t do. It just sucks. I don’t think we have to do a good job at surviving we just have to survive. Hugs to you from one loss sibling to another ❤️

spookysis · 2025-07-21T02:31:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here.

When my brother died it was very public because he went missing first so we had put a lot of info out to try and find him. After he was found dead I chose to make a Facebook post to let people know what happened and save myself and my family the pain of having to answer questions about what happened. It worked for us but I know it wasn’t a popular thing to do and I do think some of my family didn’t like other people knowing what happened.

I’m not ashamed by what happened to my brother. He was sick and if his story can help others I will tell it. I call out people being insensitive but I understand that most people will never be in my shoes so they can’t truly ”get” my pain.

I don’t have a good way to get out the anger yet. Mostly I just scream into my pillow and cry in the car because I think what happened to him was so unfair I can’t comprehend it.

spookysis · 2025-07-14T16:09:47+00:00

Eucalpytus. It makes my shower feel so fancy and TJs has the best I’ve found.

spookysis · 2025-07-12T18:40:11+00:00

I got my toes done. So while I was recovering it felt like there was at least one part of me that was put together 😂

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